16 year old girl, can't climax masturbating. Is there something wrong?

Mix6 · Newbie Joined: 09 Feb 2008 Posts: 1

I'm a 16 year old female, a virgin and have been masturbating since I was 12. However, I can only remember a couple occasions doing so. Lately, I've been doing it every night or every other night. Though its nice, I've never climaxed. I've even had a boyfriend finger me and nothing happened (he CLAIMED he knew what he was doing and I think you can assume that to be the truth). I guess I'm unusually tight "down there", too (it hurts quite a bit to use more than two fingers, but I can fit three. However, I also have very thin fingers and tiny hands). I've tried inserting my fingers and I like that the best, but it can be a little painful. I'm tried simulation with my fingers on my clitoris and I HATE it! It hurts really bad and just makes me feel like I have to urinate.

I've read that it isn't uncommon for woman to not have the ability to climax. That seriously frightens me! I'd hate to miss out! Is it possible I'm one of these girls? How can I tell? Also, I'm very afraid of stretching myself out and feeling loose with all this masturbation by the time I DO have sex (years and years from now, of course...). How long will it take to stretch myself? I may be "tiny", but with doing it as often as I have, I wouldn't be surprised if I was a little "bigger" before I ever got to have sexual intercourse.

Wow, I sure do just keep typing and typing. Sorry about that!

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Mix6

You seem to have more then one problem and they are all connected to each other. I will sart at the beginning and try to help. Razz

Starting out a 12 is not uncommon, I know of a girl who started about age 6 or 7.
The statement "I can only remember a couble of times..." well, is that true? or are you in the before sleep mode, where we can not remember too much at that time?
To be able to climax, Confused

is to find a sensitive point in your body and stimulate it to the climax. you may have more than one. sometimes like using the clotoris to its benefit, but not every person will have a climax all the time. (even boys! they may shoot a clear liquid, but the seman may not have been there) Embarassed

What works for one person will not work for another, so your "boyfriend" may have done it with someone else, but it takes work, practice and patience to work on you. Razz

So being a virgin has a part in it. I think you only use pads, not tampons, Shocked

so you have not trained your mussels to expand out, but they will it time. Idea

Use small items, like mini bananas or cucumbers, hair brush handles, with condoms on them.... things that will not harm your vulva & vagina.

So here is this part, Smile

Make proper time to enjoy your time with yourself. Don't rush yourself. Breath deeper as you go farther into it. Always use a towel at the place you wish to enjoy yourself at, this keeps the area clean, Embarassed

Go pee before starting out evey time. Now today go out and buy a tube of personal vaginal lube, some condoms & tampons & tissues from a dollar store or discount store, and look around for items in the store that may be small enough as your fingers, and

Start using the lube by placing a gob Wink

on the entrance of the vagina & on your fingers, then slowly start to rub away, at the entrance, then go move your fingers just inside the vagina. Keep this going, and add medium size items, 3 fingers, then to four of your fingers, use the tampons during your periods: this does not make you a non-virgin; only a male penis can do that Exclamation

You should work on this until you can place your four finger inside. they to go inside and up against the pubic bone, where the "g spot is, but for you, you will need to have more time to get there. You have all the time you want. this is a life long journey with yourself to be done any time you wish to. There is nothing wrong with it, so teach your daughter how too.... (Your sons will find out on their own.) Tell me how this works out for you Very Happy

RT

Now on your boyfriend: you may become active with him, and still remain a virgin. But any time his semen is at "your door", you may became pregnant, so that is why you need to have the condoms around, for you!
So try to find on how they feel and the best ones for your comfort -

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Try using a vibrator.

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i have tried using a butt vibe and helps alot

Kirk C · Moderator Joined: 28 Apr 2008 Posts: 1257

Although individuals vary, it is pretty well known that the focus of most women's attention during masturbation is the clitoris. If you are finding that direct stimulation of the clit is too intense, try indirect... try circling it, try stroking it, try wiggling around it.
And most important of all, make sure that it is lubricated... with waterbased lube...KY....personal lubricant... jelly... something.

My wife tells me just a little bit of artificial lubricant makes all the difference in the world to her enjoyment!

Also, though so women enjoy inserting into the vagina, it doesn't necessarily take more than one finger to find the pleasure spot. I can't imaging inserting FOUR fingers, unless you're unusally loose or large, or you are the one doing the insertion and you like the feeling of fullness or cramming.

Usually, the G spot can be found on the top "roof" of the vagina, the size of a quarter, and easily stroked with a "come here" type motion of the finger when inserted. But, to each their own!

16 year old girl, can't climax masturbating. Is there something wrong?

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