AM I PREGNANT?I CANT I AM ONLY 14

scaredbabe · Guest

I am so scared. I lose my virginity to my boyfriend 5 days aago we used protection and when he pulled out his condom slipped half way!!! Urghhh
and I bleededafterwards. It hurt so much so I stopped. Then I have been sick for 3 days and I ahve a sore back, sore eyes, sore neck, feeling cold, dizzy, tired. URGHHH i cant have a baby! and i cant get a test. Do u thinki am pregnant? people tell me that I am just sick cuz i have never had sex before. I am having my period now but its so light. I am so scared. I want to kill myself. PLEASE HELP.

Guest · Posted: 06/13/06 - 10:10 Post subject:

Ok ok... first of all calm down, worrying about something like this can cause your period to be irregular, meaning light or late. Also worrying to much might make you think you have the symptoms when it's really nothing. As long as he had the condom on during sex I don't think it truly matters that it "half" slipped off... and the bleeding and hurting would be normal because you lost your virginity which may cause pain and bleeding. Also it's very unlikely to be pregnant when one was on their period, but you might be. I'd suggest talking to your boyfriend if you haven't already done so and make a plan of action. If you are pregnant then you should plan for an abortion, no parental consent needed I believe... Just 300$ or more... But before even doing that I suggest taking a Pregnancy test. I'd buy a few if I were you and do one every week for like maybe 2 or 3 weeks just to make sure the results are accurate. Another thing you could do is talk to your school nurse for other ideas or perhaps see a doctor, they would be able to help you the most. Hopefully this is all nothing but a scare, but better be safe and sorry right? I hope everything will turn out for you Smile

just try to keep yourself busy for a little bit to see if the "symptoms" go away... if they don't get a pregnancy test... They can be found at every pharmacy/local drug store... And at some point during all that tell your boyfriend if you haven't already... Don't worry, if he truly cares for you, he'll take care of you no matter what. Good Luck!

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

PLANNED PARENTHOOD will see you for birth cotnrol with no parnetal CONSENT NEEDED...

Most likely you are not pregnant..BUT AT 14 300$ for an abortion, or 15$ for birth control pills, take your pic..Realistically you need to double protect yourself.

Guest · Posted: 06/20/06 - 11:44 Post subject:

i think that nobody has the right to tell this little girl to go and have an abortion , she needs to talk to someone close to her if she and her mom are close enough she will be able to talk to her, if not find a friend or something, having a baby at 14 is not easy but if you are having sex and not being responsible then you pay the consequences not the baby, good luck

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

The baby living in poverty without money is the baby paying the consequences....

She should know about birth control and planned parenthood, and make HER OWN decisions, whether or not abortion is one of them.

Guest · Posted: 07/04/06 - 01:43 Post subject: im scared

[quote="scaredbabe"] being so paranoid, thinking you are pregnant, can it make you have pregnant symptoms? im a virgin and me and ma boyfriend was messin around and was not using a condom, sprem wasnt involved but pre-cum was, and no i didnt loose ma varginity, but im scared as hell

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

It is possible to get pregnanct from precum, but you would need a lot of exposure. If you were NOT having sex, but only fooling around, then chnaces are pretty slim that you could be pregnant.

If he ejaculated near or on your vagina, that would be different...

Guest · Posted: 07/04/06 - 02:49 Post subject:

carifairy why are you so damn mean? if you had a daughter you wouldnt act like this with her would you?
why dont you try living in poverty. and then while you are there i will tell you that you desrerve it okay.
lay off!

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

I am college degreed and educated in the healthj care field, I don't live in poverty, and doubt I ever will..

I see teens on a regular basis, and try to educate them on birth control, and safe sex.

Yes I would tell my daughter everything I said here, because the fact is that LOVE alone doesn't care for a baby.

Guest · Guest

I just found this place and I read a few comments on this subject. First of all let me say that I'm pregnant myself. I'm also very well educated in the health field. I have younger nieces and cousins that come to me worried about this or that. I would never say something that would scare them anymore than they already are, but I do give them advice. Now I didn't plan my prengancey, but at no point did I ever ONCE think about getting an abortion! I was scared to death. I didn't know how my boyfreind would react even though we had discussed having a baby a year from now nor the rest of my family. Most importantly I didn't know how good of a mother I was going to be. Well, now here I am about to give birth to a beautiful little girl any day now. I'm still scared about what kind of a mother I'll be, but I'm dealing with it. I am a firm believer in if you are mature enough to have sex you need to be mature enough to deal with the consquences. I suggest getting on birth control if you're not pregnant. If you are pregnant talk to your boyfriend. True love sticks by you no matter what. Mine did. I have a niece about your age and I would tell her the samething that I'm saying here. Oh and just because you're not rich or well off does not mean you CAN NOT take care of a baby. It's not easy, but with LOVE, SUPPORT, and TENDERNESS it's possible. I'm not fourteen, but I'm not so old and bitter that I don't understand. Having an abortion changes more than just the fact that you don't have a baby it effects you whole life. The point is this you very well may not be pregnant, but take this as a lesson and protect yourself more. Raising a baby at any age is hard, but at fourteen it will be extremly hard. For your sake I hope your not pregnant and talk to someone you trust it'll help. Trust me I know.

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