Blackouts with alcohol

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Blackouts are horrible. I have decided to stop drinking. I have gone through alot of emotional probems and instead of dealing with it, I began supressing it by drinking excessive amounts of alcohol. I would wake up the next day and was unable to recal hours of the previous night. Only until recently I stopped, because I went out with my friends one night, and they did not know how I got home. I was unalbe to recall either. I think the fear that I may have had random sex scared me. So after this incident I have decided to stop drinking all together. I have heard the things that I do and say, which I would never do sober. I have decided that I need to have more respect and love for myself. I need to start dealing with my emotional issues rather than supressing them. If you think that your friend is having blackouts, be honest with them and tell them how you feel. I think if my friends had told me earlier to stop, I would have.

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Hi
I am 32 yr old, startde drinking 5yrs back, thanks for all the info, will take care, but as of now i drink 3-5 pegs of Brandy every day and enjoying it, i go to the diffrent world once i am on it and i know my limits, good luck pals Smile

Jez · Newbie Joined: 18 Aug 2008 Posts: 1

I'v had two blackouts both when I was very young & new to drinking. The first one was on my secound drinking experiment. I had two screwdrivers the secound one knocked me into a world of two brief memories during that night in witch I was told I said all sorts of things (that didn't happen to me or never even took place), & I fell out of the bed a couple of times so I was told, as well as throwing-up while being flung over a friends shoulder (one of the brief memories). The other was of looking out the car I was in for a spit secound on the way home. Still I just can recall getting out of the nightclub, & feeling the cold air just before the other two memories occured. Waiking-up the next morning w/ my jewlery & cloths from the night before still on made me wonder what in the world is going on here. It's a question that sill bothers me to this day. Trying to get back that lost time & memories. The secound time was worse I'm greatful for all that I can't remember. This was all around 20 yrs. ago for me. I never became a big drinker I'm always in good company when I do decide to drink which is a couple or few times a year at best. I know my limit & never hope to exspirience a blackout again. Be careful out there people. Drinking can be hazerdous to your health, mind, & soul. Take Good Care All.

Yangedd · Newbie Joined: 28 Jul 2008 Posts: 19

I've had many blackouts while drinking and they are happening to me more often. I smash up the house, verbally abuse my parents and have the police called to me and I don't remember it until it is said to me and then I nearly die of shame and drink more to cover it up. It's a cycle that I wouldn't wish anyone to fall into.

h20rabbit · Newbie Joined: 27 Aug 2008 Posts: 1

Hello. A few days ago my girlfriend sent me an email out of the blue to tell me that she had done something terrible i.e. slept with someone else. She said that she is not good enough for me and it is better that we end the relationship and that I am free. We have been apart for a few months. However I just could not believe it as this was not like her at all.

It felt like she didn't want to talk to me at all (fromt he email). But I called her as I could not believe it... at leasty wanted some clarification on why this had happened. She was so upset, and she said that she didn't remember doing it, but that she went to a club with her colleagues after work and drank alot. She said that she remembered a guy coming up to her, and then her saying that she had a boyfriend... she woke up the next day in his bed and asked him what happened and he said that they had had sex, although she remembers nothing. She said she was devastated... She asked her friends who said she looked normal as she left with him...

So My question is what to believe? She works in Thailand where I think that there is alot of use of date rape drugs... or could it be an alcohol blackout? I know it sounds like a lame excuse, but i know she loves me so much, and even though we have only been together for less than a year its not in her nature. God knows, maybe I am just decieving myself and looking for excuses but I would not have found out anyway, had she not have told me, and she seems to accept that i might want to break up with her.

Can she take a test to find out if there is some sort of drug still in her body such as rohypnoll? Bear in mind that this happened about 3 or 4 days ago.
Also, if it is an alcohol blackout or whatever, can she be held accountable for her actions. Was she aware of what she was doing?e.g. thinking "I am now going to have sex with a stranger even though I have a boyfriend who will devastated'? Is it possible to do something without being aware of what you are doing? e.g. people sleepwalk and pee in a cupboard wthout realising it..... is the same possible from drinking or being drugged, or is this just a lie?

thank you....

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I had my first blackout when I was 19, I'm 21 now and have had 15ish since then. Highlights include drinking a 16 oz. bottle of vodka in a half hour and waking up in my bed the next morning not remembering how I got there. The scratch down the side of my car told me I drove. I would like to think that my drinking isn't a problem because I don't drink that often, but I'm starting to realize that the amount I drink is definitely a problem. I can drink casually just fine most of the time, but every once in a while I have a ridiculous amount.

Personally, I don't act that different during a blackout. I don't get violent or start arguments or anything. I've heard that I do get touchy/grabby with girls, which I would never do sober. For me it's basically the same as being really drunk except I'm not going to remember it. Your inhibitions are lowered and you don't think about consequences. You're running on impulse. It's why girls are having random sex during blackouts, the sex drive takes over and they aren't thinking about the consequences. Thankfully I don't think I have to worry about that being a guy, I really doubt any girl is going to try to take advantage of me.

You do have to be held accountable for your actions. If someone can't control their actions while drinking, maybe they shouldn't drink. I realize that I could have easily killed someone the night that I drive home, and if I did, it would be something I'd have to live with. But nothing happened (whew), now I get to question this destructive behavior without any major consequences.

Yangedd · Newbie Joined: 28 Jul 2008 Posts: 19

They are terrible things. The terror and panic that come with them are even worse. "Who did I see? "What did I do? ect.....

I experienced one yesterday while heavily drunk. Somehow I went shopping for a big bag of veggies for my guinea pig in the store, went to the pet shop and bought a huge bag of bedding for him and along the way managed to pick up cans of cider, a bottle of wine and a bottle of rum.

I'm just ashamed in case I said something bad to anyone I may have met.

Now it's 4.30am and I'm typingf this with a bottle of Rum next to me and not a clue what I did or said yesterday!

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saying that someone in a blackout is totally in control of moral and social decisions, well that is just stupid. They are drunk. I dont know if you know this, but chemicals can affect the brain. This is why you are hyper when you drink caffeine. Im not saying a drunk person is absolved of all responsibility, but to say that a drunk person, especially someone in a blackout, who is calling a police officer a bastard, you really think he/she wants to abuse the police? No, they are drunk and are just spouting off for the sake of it. If you hold blacked out drunks accountable 100% for their behavior there would be a significant population without friends right now. Someone said that a drunk person in a blackout is only doing what their instinct tells them...LOL...that is retarded. The people that do stupid things while in a blackout are only doing them because alcohol has reduced their ability to gauge the consequences, not that alcohol has shown that they really did want to just piss on that car...are you serious? Its like smoking pot just reveals how much of a fan you are of Cheetos...get a grip..alcohol is a drug that affects your behavior...i thought this was like old news..

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