Can labial hypertrophy affect my sexlife?

LisaSimpson · Newbie Joined: 09 Jul 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Romania

I know that hypertrophy of labia minora is normal thing and very common. I have been living with it for a couple of time and I didn’t pay much attention to it, but now I am thinking about starting my sex-life (I am 19, most of my friend have started their sex-life at 17-18 ) but I am afraid because I don’t know how my boyfriend is going to react . I mean what if he freaks out? Don’t get me wrong, is not huge but still it makes me feel ugly. Is there anyone that had the same problem? Please help me!

silvia · Silver Member Joined: 14 Apr 2000 Posts: 275

Hey,
Yes, I think it could and will make you problems with your sex life. But take a look from my point of view.

Hypertrophy of labia minora refers to the condition in which a woman’s labia are longer than normal. But what does it mean longer then normal? What is defined as normal or in other words what is defined as attractive? It depends on what people are accustomed to see.

In USA many males and a lot of females have had their aesthetic sensibilities shaped by the glistening vulvas featured in the pages of sex magazine like Penthouse. In those magazines the labias by models are showed as very nice and perfectly symmetric, therefore every what differs from this is acclaimed as abnormal. My opinion is that the labia but also other kinds of beauty standards are in the eye of the beholder. For example, by some African cultures the long labia lips were a thing of beauty and intense erotic power.

Today you have a possibility to reduce the labia lips by surgical intervention called labiaplasty. This reduction started by some rich American ladies and now all female Hollywood is willing to pay to reduce they labias to look so small and symmetric like by porn divas.
This is routine surgical method and is very common in last few years. Now it’s your choice. If you like your labia – leave it as is, if not - then prepare a couple of bucks more for labiaplasty.

However, I love my body, any part of it and personally I would never do any kind of correction because other people are saying it’s not “normal”. I would do it only if I’m not satisfied with how I look like.

Think about it ...

Joe I · Newbie Joined: 11 Nov 2006 Posts: 47

If your boyfriend freaks out there's something wrongw/ him not you! And don't feel ugly there are alot of US men who LOVE labia minora to be out past the labia majora. I think it looks beutifull!! There are a lot like me that thinks that way, right here in America. Don't let somebody who chooses the girls for porn mags, and airbushes them, make you feel bad about youself!!

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Baby don't worry about it i have Hypertrophy of labia minora and theres no threat to my sex life. I am an exotic dancer also alot of men love it and others don't. More men like it that the ones who don't. Embrace your self for being diffrent. You need to feel more secure abut yourself and men will see that ur secure with it so they will feel secure.

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Hi, I have a new partner who has labial hypertrophy and I think it is very sexy. But does it have less sensativity than a regular, more internal labia minora? Some tips would be helpful, thanks!

zuchinno · Newbie Joined: 17 Sep 2007 Posts: 1

Listen,
you shouldn't be so worried about what he's gonna think. I've been with men and women, and I have to say, that men are so NOT concerned with that.
Men like boobs, and butt, and the thing they really like about your crotch, is not how it looks, trust me.
If you notice, all of the people being critical about this thing are women, women who are insecure about their labia because of the images put forth.
You shouldn't go cutting yourself up about something started by porn-stars unless you want to be one. Porn stars also bleach their butthole skin, but I think you and I both know that since that area is naturally pigmented darker for just about everyone, it's not an issue.
If your boyfriend loves you, then he will love ALL of you, and if he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve your attention anyway because no one's perfect and unless you're loved completely, it's not gonna last anyway.
I think that you know though, since you haven't even gotten a reaction yet, that this is completely and totally about you learning to love yourself, because I look around, and all I see is women hating themselves and picking themselves apart (figuratively and literally) every day.

bunnyfoofoo · Posted: 09/21/07 - 12:09 Post subject:

I was looking for a different topic here this morning but this post caught my eye and my ire. Striving for the unattainable image of female perfection is a never ending cycle. The media keeps coming up with expensive ways to turn us all into plastic. It's all about separating you from your money and making you submissive. Why let some faceless entity on Madison Avenue dictate how you look? Would you stand for it from your significant other? What if your boyfriend decided one day that your voluptuous curves that he's enjoyed for years, now don't appeal to him and he'd like you to change. You wouldn't undergo drastic weight loss just to hang on to him would you? Hopefully you'd cut him loose and move on. Do the same with the notion that your genitalia must conform to some media standard. My best advice is to please yourself. You could never ever please everyone else, and there is no reason for you even to try.

moneypennny · Newbie Joined: 22 Sep 2007 Posts: 2

My labia minora is quite big, and sometimes it can be a little unconfortable. Any advice on how to avoid that, especially after sex?

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I'm 16 years old, and I've noticed for the past few years that my labia minora is big on one side, but small on the other. The side that its extended on outstretches my labia majora. I haven't told my mom because that is just to personal for me to reveal to her, and I feel inadequate over it. I understand that everyone eye's different, and I'd sooner walk naked down new york than to get cosmetic surgery. But I'm wondering does it in fact impact on your sex life? I haven't had sex yet, but when I do, I want to know if this will not affect my sensations.

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i've had it all my life, and never knew it was an abnormality until recently. none of my boyfriends ever said a thing, and sex has always been great. so i'm gonna say.....no.

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