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Kirk C
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 Posted: 05/14/08 - 20:16 Post subject: torn by Christian fear |
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The above responses give you a range of opinions, from relax and enjoy yourself, to trust god to forgive you.
I hear two things in your original post.
First, you are young and discovering your sexuality. You have found something and someone that turned you on, but you don't want to continue with either. So, you broke it off with that boy.
But you kept the pornography that thrills you privately.
I would think this means you don't want to stop, you just don't want to be discovered or found out that you are less than the ideal that you have set for yourself.
Wow, that's a tall order.
If you want to get rid of the pornography, that's your business. But you are a sexual being, and your body knows it. You will find arousing situations throughout your life, and some will be more hot than others.
Part of growing up is learning how to handle these impulses and the choices that we make.
If you feel acknowledging your sexuality is a sin, then you will continue to have problems, even after you marry or partner with someone. It takes time to learn this behavior and to unlearn it later.
You've heard that there is nothing wrong physically with masturbating.
But you will make a choice.
Just because you masturbate does not mean you are a bad person. Millions (literally millions) face this same pressure. Some resist, some give in, some accept it, some suffer.
If you need more guidance, you might consider a religious leader in your church, or a counselor at the school or your medical health clinic.
All are better sources than suffering in silence.
Good luck. |
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HollieWood
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| Posted: 07/22/08 - 23:25 Post subject: Masturbation and Religion.. |
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| I am a 22 year old Girl who is 6 Months Pregnant and I also have a 4 yr old daughter.. Although Both of My Children are with The same Man and We have been 2gether for 7 Years now, We are Not Married.. (Just a little Background on Myself).. I am a "Religious" Person but am also VERY confused about it. I have committed many sins as have we ALL whether or not We admit it is Our own personal choice but every one Makes mistakes... And EVERYONE sins.. ok.. as for Masturbation I really don't think of it as a Sin but I don't know if it is or not.. I think that is between you and God.. But Pornography However is a sin.. There is a difference between Masturbation and Porn.. (I Think..) My Opinion.. I also had a "Dream" of saving Myself for My Husband but unfortunately that didn't work out.. as I said b4 I have been with My Fiance' for 7 years but he was not My first.. And even before I lost My Virginity I to tried masturbation, Lucky for me I didn't become addicted to it so to speak as You feel you are.. Im going to ask a question to you but you don't have to respond, You can answer this to yourself and then think about your answer.. Do you have any kind of emotional stress or abuse or do you not feel loved by your "parents" whether they are your parents grandparents... Whomever.. Because sometimes we tend to turn towards sex or sexual things to fill an empty space as you would us drugs because of some underlying problem.. and Dont get me wrong there doesn't necessarily have to be a space your filling it just may be something you are doing... But just in case if there is an issue whether it be a void space or a lose or anything Sex isnt going to make that go away.. just like drugs it just covers it up.. I also have been addicted to opiates or pain pills and I'm not sure what my problem is im hiding by them but My Dr. and I are working on that... You need to talk to someone if something is wrong Please don't be ashamed. Because Everyone needs help sometimes.. ok... anyways.. If you really are trying to save yourself for Marriage I REALLY hope You make it.. Because even though I didn't I'm sure its WAY better than the little bit of pleasure you get when you have sex with someone you really don't love or you think you do and don't... Bcuz if you wait you will have accomplished something that is VERY hard to do.. almost Impossible in todays world.. I really hope whatever you decide to do tht you are happy with your decision.. and it sounds to me that you want to be committed to waiting.. So I agree with the previous post about getting some necklace or ring or anything that can remind yourself whats really worth waiting for.. Believe me giving up on your dream is a BIG disappointment.. I love My kids and My man, But I regret not being married and not being able to give each other the special gift god has given us to give one another.. as for you feeling ashamed.. don't.. God is a VERY forgiving God and if he can forgive ppl for the awful things that some do we will surly forgive you and I for our mistakes.. we are Human and We are faced with Sin every Minute of The day.. Just Please if you do decide to give it up to someone protect yourself.. because you seem young an intelligent and you don't want to end up a baby having babies or with something Ajax cant take off.. o might potentially kill you for just a moment of pleasure.. I'm sorry this is so long but something compled me to reach out to you.. I wish you The best. |
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