Coping with having a termination

destination08 · Newbie Joined: 15 May 2008 Posts: 1

I had a termination yesterday an i am finding it hard to come to terms with. unfortunatly this is not the first termenation i have had and i feel so guilty, angry, and selfish for doing it again. what makes it worse is that im only 18 years of age. my first termination happend when i was 16 and i felt like i coped with that well as i was in a loving relationship and had the full support of my boyfriend. Now im on my own and i dont feel like i am coping well. Going through it again is also bringing back the memories from the first termenation and i feel that this might make both experiences hard to get over.

sunflower786 · Newbie Joined: 03 Jun 2008 Posts: 2

hi there
How are you doing? I hope you are ok. I know exactly how you feel. I went through a termination myself a week ago last friday and I was 15 weeks, I didnt know I was pregnant unti too late because I have always been irregular with my periods and I used protection as well. I know I will never forget what ive done and I have been readin articles on the internet and I have found it is totally normal to feel this way. I think you can tell people how you feel and what you are going through but they dont know the extent to which you are going through because unless they have been through it themselves they cannot relate to it. my friend said when she was with me she cant imagine to think what im going through because it rips you apart inside in my opinion which may seem a bit extreme. Myself im going through periods of crying to periods where im on top of the world, but I hope this is normal. I feel guilty in a way and I hope that I will be able to come to terms with it. you shouldnt feel selfish for doing it. I was unsure what to do so i put a question up on yahoo answers and a lot of people called me selfish and that im only thinking of myself but thats not true at all. you made the decision that was best for you and nobody could have made that decision for you. ive done some research and even if someone didnt regret what they have done it is perfectly normal to feel depressed, how far gone were you if you dont mind me asking? I hope everything works out for you, take care xx

Coping with having a termination

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