Does first-time anal sex hurt?

BungleBear · Newbie Joined: 13 Jan 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Oxford, UK

Hi everyone,

I hope somebody cvan help me, as I'm wracking my brains with worry at the moment after an encounter I had last night.
Botton line (no pun intended) is that I'm 90% straight, and every so often, like to explore the bi-sexual aspect of my nature. Subsequently, this led to a meeting last night with a guy whom I'd recently met on the internet. He seemed really nice, and very respectful of my limits, as our time together-from what I remember, just involved massage, and not a single kiss. However, we then started using a stimulant, which, ok, was chloroform, and I remained fully functional until ejaculation. At that point, I swear I must have passed out, because one minute he was playing with his penis, then the next, he was fully clothed, sat beside me, stroking me gently. However, I am now quite scared, as I have no idea if he took advantage of me, and penetrated me anally. If he had, it would have been the first time, although past girlfriends have used dildo's on me, which were uncomfortable. I remember that when I had sex with a girlfriend for the first time, my penis was sore for a day or two afterwards, but at the moment, 24 hours after the meeting, I feel nothing, and no different than usual (apart from a bad case of wind!) Would anyone be able to tell me if I am worrying too much, or as I have no 'symptoms' that there's any chance he could have taken advantage of me? I must add that this was all over very quickly, but I am rather scared, which is somewhat ironic, as I don't have any soreness or anything to complain about. I'm kinda new to this, so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Guest · Guest

yes, i think you are worrying too much. i have done anal a few times and believe me you would know the next day... it hurts to sit, to walk a little, and when you poop it makes you want to cry, in a nutshell. tootles.

agent10ve · Supporter Joined: 27 May 2007 Posts: 580

Can't you just as him about it? If he is as nice as you make him sound then he probably wouldn't have taken advantage of you, but if something did happen I don't know why he wouldn't tell you. Anal sex also doesn't always hurt, so you might not be able to tell. Although, usually it is a lot easier if the person receiving is really relaxed and lubed up so you might have felt pain when you woke up if he had done anything.

Guest · Guest

wow, you are a huge steriotype. Not all men are "dogs" who just want sex. Some of us actually have families that we love to care for.

I don't think he took advantage of you because he probablywould of quickly left.

Guest · Guest

Try asking him if anything happened certainly, but if you are worried he may have taken advantage of you you should get a blood test to make sure you don't have a sexually transimited desease. It is possible that he could have penetrated you and you would not feel anything the next day, so make sure you're clean if you're worried and have a talk with him. Good luck and be safe man.

Does first-time anal sex hurt?

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