Erection during intercourse

tstbkp · Newbie Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 1

I am male & married recently..I have a problem in erection during
intercourse. I am able to get the erection during masturbation. But during
intercourse, initially i am getting the erection after foreplay &
blowjob. After i put the condoms & entered into vagina, when i try to move
back & forth (i am not sure whether i am doing it correctly), i am losing
the erection. Again i will have to try the forepaly & blowjob to get
the erection & but still i am not able to keep the erection in
intercourse. I have tried intercourse few times & but not able to do
successfully. Can you please tell me what is the problem. I am really concern abt
this, please help me.

I am masturbating regularly..(almost daily for years)..Is that causing
the problem..If so, if i stop the masturbation, will the problem get
solved..Please help me to overcome this problem..Thanks in advance..

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I have the same exact problem, i am looking for a remedy too. I know its not physical because like you said i can also masturbate fine and get up fine during foreplay. But after like a minute or less of intercourse i lose my erection. I don't know why. Maybe pressure? Can anyone help?

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your gf aint tight or shes just not hot enoguh to make you want it enough ,..in your head you want it but your weapons outa ammo for it but i rekon if you do stop hittin the old salami for a day you should be fuckin horny by tomorrow ..hope i helped and skip the bj 4 play then just eff her (but give her 4 play to satisfy her lol) have fun ..cya

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Have some confidence in your performance. Tell her to hype her big man up and you will be there. All in your head!

Someone1980 · Newbie Joined: 18 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

I have EXACTLY the same problem!!

In fact I found this site by googling "can't have normal intercourse, can only come from masturbation". I have 100% the same problem as the original poster.

Masturbation or handjobs are very easy and enjoyable for me. However, when I try to have intercourse, I have absolutely no sensation when thrusting. Even from the very first thrusts I know that it's pointless, I'm not feeling anything, so inevitably I lose my erection within minutes and can't continue.

Like the original poster I also masturbate daily. However, all males masturbate, so there must be something more to it. Maybe it's the specific masturbation style that's the problem? Anyway, I tried a period of abstinence for about a month, but things didn't really improve. Another possibility is condoms, but even the ultra-sensitive ones don't help.

If anyone can come forward with any similar stories or how they've been able to have normal intercourse, or what the problem is, PLEASE share... This condition doesn't really have a "name" so it was really hard to find anything about it on the web, at least I'm happy I have found ONE resource that deals with exactly this problem!!

Crying or Very sad

I have had this problem ever since losing my virginity a couple of years ago, with all kinds of women of all shapes and sizes!!! So it's very pervasive and serious...

tstkbp, your original post is from February; in case you still check this site, can you tell us if you've solved this problem or at least improved, and if so how???

sweet_violet · Newbie Joined: 27 Jul 2007 Posts: 1

Hi guys ...

I'm a woman with a sweet, sexy man who has the same problem. Nothing is unsurmountable! : ) It seems this is not an unusual condition for many of you. I'm doing some research and have found quite a bit of information on things to try to remedy the issue (without resorting to drugs!!). I can share those with you if you like. Ask, and I'll post. I have quite a bit of sexual experience and some of the things I usually like to try in bed I think will be very helpful, in this situation.

btw, the person who said something about a partner not being "hot" enough or "tight" enough is giving erroneous, ignorant information. I suspect you are about 21 years old (at least I hope so, with that comment). Please refrain from commenting and see if you can learn something instead, puppy. I'm a 45 year old dynamo with a soon to be 54 year old incredibly sexy, fit partner and this problem has nothing to do with that. You sound like a very superficial young man.

So guys ... keep up this conversation so I can learn more. Has anyone posted this question to the "experts" to see what they have to say? Let me know if you'd like me to post my summary of possibilities ... ; ) Going to try them myself next time I see that hot blue eyed boy of mine. (smile)

Oh and one more thing ... if you truly care about your partner and she cares about you, you will work this out. It's worth it. (another smile)

Sweet Violet

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i have the same problem, too...except for the first 2 times I've had sex I could keep the erection, but last time it went away very quick once we started having sex and even goes away sometimes now while she is giving me a handjob. I have no idea what changed and why this is happening and hope it was just a one time thing with sex, but yea sweet violet...if you could tell me anything you know that could help that'd be nice...in particular something I can do instead of my girlfriend.

thanks

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Nice to see I can relate to other people, but no one has answered why it happens. It has happend to me three times.... this is what usually happens. I am with a girl...we are kissing, touching, talking, grinding, just having a great time before sex. During all that I am hard as a rock. Then its time to stick it in...and I literally just lose my boner. It is horrible...and kind of depressing. My first time was with my ex... I had no problems at all. Then one time after I was in the whole one time hook up situation...first time ever. So I actually couldnt get hard at all.. i was way too nervous in be in such a situation - I've never talked/seen that girl after that.
My second time...beautiful girl is on my bed...wanting me...i'm wanting her. We are having a good time...i am really hard...then its gametime... I go for it.....then I lose my boner. We talked about it.....she thought i was gay...hahahaha Embarassed

Happy ending....next time we are together... we have sex! Then I effed her hard for a few weeks...until we broke up for other reasons.
Third time (the worst) I am with the girl of my dreams (atm) we are allllll over eachother being really bad...and dirty Wink

After about.... 1.5 hours of foreplay (the entire time I am the hardest ive ever been) then finally she agrees....I go for it...kind of hard...cant find where to go...she helps.... I lose it. Horrible!!! the car ride home i was screaming and cussing!!! She is my dream girl and I came up short. Whyyyyyyyyyy?!!?! Crying or Very sad

It happend to my old room mate...when he told me... I laughed out loud even though it had happend to me. Jokes on me I suppose... but..putting all that aside. Condoms seem to help. I'm not sure... every successful time ive been with a girl... all that happens...its gametime...instead of going for it directly and losing my boner.. i strap up...and while im putting on the condom i get really hard. Then go for it right away! and once im in I will not lose my boner. go condoms!

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I have had the same problem before.

It happens, even to horny young lads. If the girl's not willing to wait it out and make him comfortable then there is no hope. It's usually a result of being nervous.

If the girl understands, then you will get another chance. Take it slow.

If she makes fun of you, she's a piece of shit anyway so kick her to the curb.

I've had both reactions and the girls who reacted kindly got the lay of their life.

Also, if you know you are going to have sex, don't jerk off for a while.

Avoid alcohol and other stimulants.

I wish this problem didn't exist. It's lost me many a girl and had mortified me on several occasions. I am finally beginning to overcome it I think.

It just happened with a girl I really like. We are trying again on Sunday. So I'm leaving the guy alone down there until then!

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