Hard to stimulate clitorus, lack of pleasure HELP!

lackofpleasure · Newbie Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 16

Hi all, Ive been trying to find an answer on the net but having small luck and im too embarresed to go to a sex health clinic or doctor or something yet! just trying to shed some light on it all

Ok sex is not my world, I dont obsess over it, got a pretty busy schedual and such and you know I have been able to go about without having sex. I hardly ever masterbate, I just dont get the need or desire, I just go to bed at night and sleep.

Im currently 19, I had my first Boy friend when I was 17 and he was my first sexual partner. I find it hard to get any sexual pleasure, Ive never orgasimed, I have come close to it but usually my bf would complete himself and stop, I now find it harder and harder to get anywhere near my peak!

I also have a excess flap of skin on the left hand side of my clitorus which goes a little way down my vagina, its like having a damn bed sheet down there, I can fold it over to the other side of my vagina its probably about 3 inches long and at the widest point about 3 inches wide!

Its so frustrating, I dont know if its the skin, But I find I have to rub very hard and right on my clitorus to get any feeling! I just dont get any feeling from being gently rubbed around it it has to be directly on it and due to all the excess skin its hard to hit the spot, I recently had a play and I found when I stretched the skin tight to one side so as my clit was firmly exposed it was alot easier to get those pleasurable pangs.

Im half worried, my boy friend and I had a friendly split as we wernt the right one for each other and since then I hooked up with a guy at a mates party (he is delish! by the way, Bull rider Razz

) problem is I find it so hard to get hardly any pleasure from sex!

Its hard to explain.. he went down on me and was doing his thing with my clit, but I just wasnt getting any pangs (the excess skin Mad

) then we went on to the next step and had intercourse but I just hardly get any pleasure from it, and this guy is pressing all the buttons and showed me some new moves but I just find it hard to reach my peak and have to fake! *shame*!

I really like being with this guy but Im so disappointed as I find it hard to reach my peach and get any feeling in my clitorus region

Do I need some sort of hormones? does that excess skin need removing??? help! I want to enjoy sex! Plus I feel sos for guy becuase he keeps asking me why I dont enjoy it and thinks theres a prob with him but its me!

Any info would be greatly appreciated

hyzmarca · Newbie Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 31

Don't be embarrassed to go to a doctor. They've probably seen everything before. If the doctor specializes in women's sexual health, then there will be plenty of people in the waiting room with similar issues.

I can't tell you if there is anything unusual going to down there of if your boyfriends just needed to put in more effort. I certainly can't tell you if you would benefit from hormone therapy. For that you need examinations and tests.

Moving this skin to fully expose your clitoris is a good idea, if it allows you to get better stimulation. The next time you're with your boyfriend, tell him this. Give him instructions. Tell him what makes you feel good and what does not. And do not, under any circumstances, fake it. If he really cares able your needs then he doesn't want you to fake it. If he really cares about how you feel then he wants to do what it takes to make you feel good, even if it takes a little more effort.
Also, take a little time to just try new ways to stimulat yourself, find out what is good for you. And don't be afraid to try a vibrator. Owning one doesn't make you a sex-fiend.

lackofpleasure · Newbie Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 16

so embarrasing lol! Yeah Ill have to look it up, I dont really know any of those special doctors, would that come under a gynocolgist?

Nah theres no effort needed on the guys part, Ive been having a rough year with injury (had to have quarterzone injections as a result of injury which has made me put on weight) I started to shed the weight a year later (I lost 6 kgs in 2 weeks) then i broke a bone in my foot ceasing weight lose tempoarily, Ive been under alot of stress and have alot on my mind, but even when things have been good I havent had a lot of sexual desire, Ive been reading up on the site and decided for one Ive got a very low sex drive and yeah go see a doctor.

Im also just dealing with a couple of current work problems and family problems being under alot of strain, I'll just have to let this new guy know Im not up for any sex at the moment (we dont see each other, only when I go to towns to visit my mates) Ill be going away for back on work next week once my foot is healed and thats 6 hours away and Ill be there for a month but I think this hunk was hoping to get one more play n toss before I go but Id only be doing it for the sake of keeping him happy, I dont want to and I'll tell him that.

Once I go back to work Ill also be able to resume my weight loss program as Im hoping to shed some weight while Im gone, meaning when I come back Ill be slimmer, more confident, feeling good, by then some of these current probs would have sorted themselves out and I wont be so strained.

Thanks for chewing it over with me though, its just good to talk and get reassurance.

By the way what is it that you do hyzmarca you seem to have an excellent answer for everything!

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