Have a very sensitive head and sometimes my foreskin pulls b

gerry · Newbie Joined: 17 Nov 2006 Posts: 3

I am a male of 24 and have a very sensitive head and sometimes my foreskin involuntary pulls back before full erection. Usually due to uncontrolable sudden excitment. As a child ~I found it quite painful to pull back my foreskin and clean my head and so never really cleaned it at all. I am now cleaning it but perhaps the damage has already been done? This is only part of the problem. I am a virgin but have tried numerous times to have sex with my girlfriend even with viagra etc. Because of this I am angry with myself and don't know what to do. I went to the GP(doctor) about it and she asked me had I any problems masterbating. I said no. But I didn't explain to her that I do not masterbate in the conventional sense. I would "hump the bed" for want of a better phrase. I have been doing this since I was a kid, maybe 9 or 10. I don't release the cum thou until I know that there is nobody around to see me holding tightly so as not to release the cum. When it is safe to do so I then release it into the toilet. Perhaps this isn't helping the situation? The doctor then recommended psychosexual councilling /therapy and viagra. I myself am not sure if it is a medical or mental problem or even both and am looking for your advice on the matter? Is it necessary to pull the foreskin back to put on the condom before sex? Or is it just to enhance sexual pleasure? This is quite painfull for me.

Bardish · Newbie Joined: 01 Dec 2006 Posts: 2

You're not alone. And your doctor's an idiot.

The reason our sensitivity is so high is because for our entire lives the tip of our phallus (the most sensitive part) has been covered by a slick smooth layer of foreskin. Thus, the tip has never met much resistance via abrasion. If you take a circumsized man, this is not a problem. The circumsized man has lived his whole life with a certain amount of abrasion. This very fact actually accounts for a lower sensitivity in his own penis, due to callouses.

My advice? I don't have any. You have to live with it. Eventually your sensitivity decreases somewhat, but not entirely. I'm only 20, so I have no real idea if the sensitivity completely dulls, but I'd like to assume so. If anything, I know that the "pain" sensation does lessen somewhat, if this is any consolation to you. So for now, I'd just suggest keeping your foreskin over the tip while putting on a condom (pinch the top of the foreskin and slide the condom down slowy, keeping the foreskin at the top) and function that way. Lubricated condoms are the best because they provide the same abrasion protection as does your foreskin. And make sure your girlfriend is ready! Foreplay man! It'll slide right in!

Also, make sure you communicate with your partner about your sensitivity! It's not very sexy if she's hurting you, nor is it very sexy if she finds out six months later that she's been torturing you!

Good luck man!

Charles II · Silver Member Joined: 09 Aug 2005 Posts: 182

Contrary to the other answer you got (above), your doctor may be right on. You have grown up doing a number of things the wrong way, and learned how to compensate for them in order to get by. Now the problems you ignored (or actually caused) are coming home to roost, like so many chickens.
You can never expect to have a normal healthy penis if you don't clean it regularly. You can never expect to clean it if you cannot get the foreskin all the way back off the head. Since you have waited for so long to do this, it is naturally going to be hypersensitive to the touch. Imagine what your feet would look and feel like if you never took your socks off for fourteen years. They'd be all red and irritated too, and that's if they had'nt already rotted and fallen off.
You didn't tell the doctor everything she might need to know, and you didn't get an explanation from her about the advice which you didn't understand. This is called a failure to communicate.
We have just learned here that it is actually possible to have sex without a retractable/retracting/retracted foreskin. Some kind of sex, that is, and obviously a quite weird kind. It is highly doubtful you will ever be able to father a child, though, or keep a woman for very long, if you don't get some serious help.

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