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 Posted: 06/13/07 - 21:51 Post subject: |
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| novrod wrote: | Hi,
I was trying to find some people that could be in the same situation as me and I think I found the right place.
I have the same story as the average guy. Started to masturbate when I was 10 or 11 and never stopped since then.
I have a girlfriend I love, with whom I'll get married, but I do have a problem. Despite the fact I have a normal erection and give a lot of pleasure to my girlfriend, I do not manage to get a single orgasm.
What I am writing here I never told her. We were both virgins when we met (12 years ago) and we started having sex a few months after. What I have never told her is that I have never been able to have an orgasm with her.
Yes, I could endure for a long time having sex with her but in the end I kind of feel frustrated because I never manage to have an orgasm.
I believe the problem might be masturbating too much. It is very rare when I don't masturbate 1-2 times a day, and many days many times more.
Some people say and I quote "you've desensitized you penis muscles". Can it be true? (I am a god damn biomedicine scientist and I know all about the nervous system - it is a question I actually know the answer).
But the real point is, I do have to stop masturbating as I do. I am always surrounded by porn. I don't remember how many times I erased all the files from my computer but I always manage to rebuild a huge collection.
I do have a problem. Please, HELP |
hmm well i don know much on this prob maybe ill help a little do a little research for ya if its that important, i mean ive had problems that i got prtty scared from, but it all worked out at the end lol, hehehe goooodd memories...that was when i started masterbating, their are a lot of side effects so man i dont think u have to worry that much but i will try to figure out some 4 u  |
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| Posted: 08/31/07 - 01:21 Post subject: RE: |
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| Yea.. a person that i have met had a problem like this, and although he seemed like a descent person and all and had a wife, he couldnt have a erection unless he saw a women on the internet during masturbation, and after that im kinda confused, scared. I know its good for the health and about God and how masturbation is sinful * so portrayed by the Bible* I "did" it when i was 13 and 2 years later still am and now im worried because of the guilt and the non stop urges. Porn is sooo easy to access these days and that doesnt make it any better*well at least not for me* Im trying everyday to over come this with my will power but urges are too strong sometimes. No wonder people try so hard to get layed. Help :?: |
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| Posted: 01/28/08 - 21:55 Post subject: |
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| yeah i found out about masturbation at a very young age of 6 believe it or not. I have been addicted since then and i am trying tostop however i have notice that my genitals have curved slightly and this is my main concern. if i stop will it go away and return to normal? |
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| Posted: 02/14/08 - 04:17 Post subject: Re: Help I Can't Stop Masturbating |
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| laughner wrote: |
First time I experienced masturbating I was around twelve years old. I found it really nice and exciting and I started to do it even few times a day. I know that is something people do not talk about but I feel like this is not normal. I wonder if someone could help me. I cannot stop masturbating and that worries me, and by the way, I am still a virgin.
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Hey there, i guess you could find that masturbating is not very good because, you should watch this they mention this in a show - I can't stop masturbating, if you masturbate so much until you are addicted to it, you will seriously never stop and your testicles will hurt a lot if you masturbate too much.
I'm sorry to say that i have no advice but well i'm just telling you what would happen. |
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| Posted: 02/17/08 - 21:29 Post subject: It is normal - to a point |
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I've been looking at this question a lot lately. In my opinion, several times a day at your age is perfectly normal. The issue is present in your mid to late 20's. If you're still have multiple sessions per day, every day, it may be time to ask yourself some questions. Biologically speaking, there is absolutely no harm done. That's why so many people say "go ahead, enjoy!" which in and of itself is totally true, there are no adverse effects, and nothing in the bible, and nothing to be ashamed about. However there is an issue if the masturbation is used as a form of psychological compensation which in turn becomes habit and then addiction. This certainly doesn't happen to everyone but it does happen to some. And a pornography addiction goes right along with this. Two of the most common reasons are boredom and fear of intimacy. So the question is, do you masturbate several times a day purely as a release from boredom because you're stuck in the house all the time and is the reason you're stuck in the house all the time because you don't go out and meet and talk to other people, and girls. Then masturbation becomes an issue as a symptom or coping mechanism sheilding one from human contact. further in that case, the older you become, the harder it is find enjoyment from intercourse. In these cases, which are NOT common, but do happen, in those cases pornography and masturbation are safe, no rejection, no messy relationship issues, no hassle just pure safe fantasy but at the expense of being a recluse.
Again, masturbation is perfectly normal. However if you find the sessions increase over 3 times a day (arbitrary number) everyday, for weeks, months or years on end, to the exclusion of regular relationships, might wanna think about cutting back and addressing the unlying issues which may very well be boredom or intimacy fears. |
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| Posted: 02/18/08 - 02:19 Post subject: Re: Help I Can't Stop Masturbating |
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| laughner wrote: |
First time I experienced masturbating I was around twelve years old. I found it really nice and exciting and I started to do it even few times a day. I know that is something people do not talk about but I feel like this is not normal. I wonder if someone could help me. I cannot stop masturbating and that worries me, and by the way, I am still a virgin.
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A couple years ago I had this problem. You need to find things to do, and you need to swear to yourself you will only once every set amount of time. Otherwise there isn't much you can do |
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| Posted: 04/13/08 - 17:22 Post subject: Masturbation Response |
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| Despite the apparent justification that many respondents offer, masturbation is not normal, nor is it acceptable. Consider this: obviously you feel ashamed of, or at least uncomfortable with masturbation, as you feel it necessary to seek others' advice concerning your habit. If that doesn't tell you that something is wrong, ask yourself why you masturbate. Because it "feels good"? Because it "turns you on"? Can you fulfill the sexual arousal that masturbation excites? No. Masturbation is, in itself, inherently selfish and empty. Biologically, sex leads to one of two things: bonding between two people (generally husband and wife), or procreation. Masturbation does not fulfill either, and that is why you feel confused, unsure, and, I expect, empty. Your desire to masturbate is probably your mind's way of calling for true companionship (and I do not mean a sexual relationship). Let others into your life; masturbation only encourages you to shut yourself off from others and live a life behind closed doors, fearing that someone will discover your habit. |
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| Posted: 07/09/08 - 19:00 Post subject: re: can't stop masturbating |
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Seriously? Masturbation is a healthy release of tension and stress. There's no god in the sky watching what you do, you're not going to go blind, grow hair on your palms, or go insane from having too many orgasms. It simply is not possible. The worst thing that could happen is that if you're masturbating frequently, you could get a bit sore from too much friction. Silicone lube is your best friend.
There's nothing wrong with having a lot of sex - aside from muscle fatigue, occasional chapping, or dehydration from sweating a lot. Seriously. |
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| Posted: 08/17/08 - 02:43 Post subject: finally, i can get some help |
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ok, so i have been having the same problem. my brother introduced me to the world of females when i was about 11 or 12. he was taking a sex ed class and he started telling me what he learned. i became curious and i just kind of figured out how to masturbate. i started out humping pillows. like a dog. i have a very beautiful girlfriend and i want to stop masturbating. i plan to spend the rest of my life with her but i cant stop masturbating. i feel that it will become a problem in our relationship. please, somebody help me. I NEED to stop. and for those of you who believe that there is no god and will give advice accordingly, dont even bother. i have witnessed the lords miricles myself, and NOTHING can change that. that being said, i would greatly appreciate any helpful advice that i could get. If you have a good idea on how to help. PLEASE email me at ***** Thanks everyone for your help.
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