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hmmm
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 Posted: 08/10/06 - 22:11 Post subject: |
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| Anonymous wrote: | | kayla wrote: |
DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTIAN, that is murder,and is hard on your body. if you do not want to or feel you are to young to take care of the kid give it up for adoptian, give it a chance. |
No, You have no right to tell someone what to do with their life. she is only 14. she isnt physically matured to give birth yet. doing so could destroy her body and the world around her.
and learn to spell, are you 12 or something? |
But your basically doig the same thing. I got pregnant at 14 and had my baby at 15. Key word she COULD destroy her body. I didnt. Who cares if you have a few stretch marks at least you now have a life time of joy. It obviously isnt easy having a baby. but if i could do it. She can too. Im not going to tell you to keep it and im not going to tell you to abort. Just do whats in your heart because that's what i did. i did what was in my heart and everything turned out fine. I was going to get an abortion but the day of. I walked right out and said im better then that. |
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| Posted: 08/12/06 - 15:47 Post subject: |
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You have taken the first step in getting yourself help by asking others opinions, however, you must tell your parents. As a person who got pregnant at 16, I can feel your fear. You may be surprised with your parents' reactions. They may prove you right for being so scared, but unless you tell them you will never know.
Bringing a child into the world is hard at any age. It's hard, regardless if you have all the money in the world, have a loving boyfriend/spouse, or have 2 kids already. Taking responsibility for your actions, whatever path you take, is what's best for you. I wish you the best.
Just for your info: I did have my son 12 years ago with the love and support of my family, who at first I thought would kill me. I have since had 2 other children and am married with a wonderful career. You never know what the future holds.. |
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| Posted: 08/13/06 - 11:35 Post subject: |
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As I am reading these posts I think the matter at hand here is to focus on our guest who is 14 years old. She is asking us for help. I think that people can help themselves more when given the right tools. So, let's first support her, not make her run away, and give her some solid options.
She hasn't answered back in a while so first, can you say whether or not you have told your parents? Or have you made the decsion to not say anything? If this is the case is there someone you trust who can support you emotionally through this time?
As others have mentioned there are options available. There is adoption, keeping the child, abortion. What area are you in, research can be down on some options for you if you like.
You are not the first and defintely not the last to have this happen. Here's hoping all turns out well for you whichever way you wish to go. |
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| Posted: 08/22/06 - 22:58 Post subject: Re: THE ISSUE |
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| EBONI601 wrote: | | THE ISSUE IS...YOU NEED TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY. IF YOURE 14 AND APPARENTLY HAVE BEEN HAVING SEX, THEN YOUR BODY IS STRONG ENOUGH TO HAVE A BABY. IM DEFINITELY NOT A SAINT, BUT AT 14 YOU SHOULD BE THINKING ABOUT SCHOOL AND A FUTURE FOR YOURSELF. YOU ARE ONLY A BABY STILL, I MEAN COME ON. I HAVE KNOWN SO MANY FEMALES YOUR AGE AND EVEN OLDER THAT HAVE HAD ABORTIONS, AND NONE CAME OUT SMILING, NONE WERE HAPPY TO HAVE HAD IT, ALL OF WHICH REGRETTED DOING IT OR HAD EMOTIONAL ISSUES LATER ON. WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE TO DO, YOU NEED TO WISEN UP; BE SMARTER, BECAUSE NEXT TIME IT COULD NOT BE A BABY, IT COULD BE AN STD, OR HIV. JUST BECAUSE A PERSON MAY NOT SHOW SIGNS OF, OR TELL U THEY ARE CLEAN, DOESNT MEAN THEYRE CLEAN. SO GOOD LUCK.... |
I was 16 when i had my little girl and I dont regret it in any way, Im now 19 pregnant again, and going to college.. So yes! it is very hard but you just have to be strong and you can do it... |
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| Posted: 09/02/06 - 01:57 Post subject: |
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| when i was in the 9th grade, i found out i was pregnant.i told my mom she was upset. but she also made me relize i was to young, and my life would not be the same any more. so we made a appt at the clinic to get a abortion, i really did not want to, but it was the best thing for me and my baby. i do feel sad about what i did. but it was the best thing. you are young, and live life. what ever decision you make good luck!!!. [/quote] |
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| Posted: 09/09/06 - 18:15 Post subject: |
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| Carifairy wrote: | I had an abortion at 20 because I felt I was too young to have baby..
AT 14 YOU HAVE NO health insurance on yourself, and no money.. You have to think what is best for the baby, is it best to have a baby with no money and no college? That is up to you to decide.
BUT YOU DO NOT NEED Parental consent for an abortion. If you need anymore info let me know....
BUT it may be a good idea to tell someone you trust. BECAUSE PRENATAL CARE IS EXPENSIVE, AND abortion is 375$ |
I am not sure where you get your information, but the majority of the US requires some type of parental involvement with minors and abortions. |
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| Posted: 09/12/06 - 08:50 Post subject: your a killer !! if u thought u were to young to have a baby |
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| Carifairy wrote: | I had an abortion at 20 because I felt I was too young to have baby..
AT 14 YOU HAVE NO health insurance on yourself, and no money.. You have to think what is best for the baby, is it best to have a baby with no money and no college? That is up to you to decide.
BUT YOU DO NOT NEED Parental consent for an abortion. If you need anymore info let me know....
BUT it may be a good idea to tell someone you trust. BECAUSE PRENATAL CARE IS EXPENSIVE, AND abortion is 375$ |
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| Posted: 09/12/06 - 12:19 Post subject: Its OK! |
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| Do not be afraid...talk to your parents or parent which ever one u r closest to. I got pregnant at 15 when my boyfriend intentionally put a hole in the condom. Life was hard at home and became even harder when I became pregnant but here I am 19 yrs later and had I aborted that child I would have never known how wonderful and brilliant she would become! She graduated high school one and a half years early and is now in her 2nd year of college. It will be difficult u must prepare urself for that but you have no idea the rewards that come of it. Besides u never know if this child may be the next Einstein or the next Jordan or whatever the next best thing is. Good luck to and I am here if u need someone to talk to...keep ur chin up and remember to take time for yourself too! |
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latin_gurl
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| Posted: 09/12/06 - 12:57 Post subject: |
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well i do think that you are to young, BUT you made the decision in having sex, so i would take responsibility for you actions. young ladies at your age are not fully developed yet and yes it can take a huge tole on your body when carrying a baby inside of you.
to all the negative ladies out here, this girl came here to ask for advise. i know this is her own fault but we just need to help her and show her some support.
like the other girl said S**t happens. but i would take ammediate action if you decide to keep the baby so that you can get the proper care for you and your child. and tell your parents they will love you no matter what, YOUR their DAUGHTER
Good luck to you and i hope you make the right decision for you and your baby. remember now matter what you decide, God will always love you! |
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KHolly001
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| Posted: 09/20/06 - 22:49 Post subject: |
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| My question is.. why are you having sex in the first place?? at 14 you are too young to deal with the consequences. i'm not telling you what to do with your life but you do need to tell someone. this is your decision and you need to go to your parents. if you were old enough to have sex and get pregnant, you need to be old enough to deal with the end result. |
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