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chatterbutt2003
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 Posted: 04/08/07 - 23:50 Post subject: Teenage Pregnancy |
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to the 14 year old thats too afraid to tell your parents your pregnant. it is INEVATABLE to hide your pregnancy between 4-6 months of pregnancy (pending body mass) you won't be able to hide the fact that ur pregnant if you feel that your pregnancy is going to be an issur for your family here are some tips that u can use to help you tell them with less confrentation so you can fully speak your mind
1. write it out, slip it under their door
2. call him/her while their away, no physical confrentation
3. religious help, if you are religious seek your local church or congregation for some venting (believe me it helps)
4. if you arent religious talk to a well trusted friend
make sure that your partner is there to back you up thats the kep if he is there for you it will make the blow a lot easier. you made a mistake but it will be okay lots of people have done this just be careful in the future! good luck |
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| Posted: 04/14/07 - 23:23 Post subject: |
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It's your body and you can choose what you want to do with it. If you feel that you can't take care of a baby and your parents won't help (ONLY if you've told them!!) then you should abort. However you can still have the baby and put him or her up for adoption after birth. There are many families out there who can't get pregnant and your baby could be their wish. Though if you want a baby, want to have the hardships of being an adolescent mother, go ahead and have it.
The best and smartest way to not have this problem is NOT to have sex at all unless you're mentally ready for the responsibility. There is no excuse that 14yr olds should be having sex at that age, or even at 20, because having a baby is a lot of stress on the body and family (esp. if your parents don't want you to be pregnant). If I had a daughter who was 14 and who was having sex then turned out to be pregnant, I would take her to get an abortion. Then I would put a chastity belt on her so she wouldn't be able to have more sex until she's older. (semi-serious joke people)
Absolutely NO EXCUSE for having adolescent sex unless you were raped. Honestly, I'm 22yrs old and I hate hearing about kids becoming pregnant before they're even legal. I hate it! |
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| Posted: 04/15/07 - 11:27 Post subject: Re: How Did U Get Pregnant?? |
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| dont listen to people if they say u must keep the baby or u must get rid of it!! i am only just turned 18 n had an abortion bout 2 months ago! i wish i never had the abortion but my mum told me i had to! do what u think is best!! good luck xx |
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| Posted: 04/26/07 - 05:43 Post subject: Stop abortions!! There's no reason why doing this would help |
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| Carifairy wrote: | I had an abortion at 20 because I felt I was too young to have baby..
AT 14 YOU HAVE NO health insurance on yourself, and no money.. You have to think what is best for the baby, is it best to have a baby with no money and no college? That is up to you to decide.
BUT YOU DO NOT NEED Parental consent for an abortion. If you need anymore info let me know....
BUT it may be a good idea to tell someone you trust. BECAUSE PRENATAL CARE IS EXPENSIVE, AND abortion is 375$ |
I don't agree with abortion. It's too risky and I been close to people who can't no longer have kids and deaths because of that. There's always help for people who can't afford it. By the way, it's not the babies fault when we do mistakes and take it on them. Think about it! Don't do that;)
If you are not ready for a baby, give it in adoption which I also wouldn't myself but it's way better than killing it. Abortion: When the babies brain is being poked and squeeze until destroyed. You like the meaning to it, the go ahead and do it. But again, people wonder why the world seems to be coming to an end:(
A hot tea or pills that you could take between 24hrs after intimacy if you think an accident occurred, will help to prevent from involving. I had 6yrs without using any protection. So I don't find any reason for women who have had abortion when there's other couples wanting kids and they can't have any and they need to adopt one. With abortions, how will they be able to adopt? |
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| Posted: 04/29/07 - 03:23 Post subject: |
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| kayla wrote: | | DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTIAN, that is murder,and is hard on your body. if you do not want to or feel you are to young to take care of the kid give it up for adoptian, give it a chance. |
How can you say that to anyone, first off think about how much stress this girls in, in the first place, she doesn't need you lecturing her about how she should keep the baby.
You can't even spell abortion, so how dare you tell someone how to live their life?
Think before you speak, I think abortion is good used under the right circumstances |
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| Posted: 05/19/07 - 17:23 Post subject: Re: How Did U Get Pregnant?? |
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Whatever you do dont have an abortion. Adoption or keeping the child are the best options. I know you must be scared, but if you found yourself old enough to have sex it's your job to carry this child. good luck. You'll be in my prayers. | dove wrote: | | I have a big problem. I am only 14 and recently I found out that I am pregnant. I am afraid to tell this to anyone. My parents will kill me when they find out. What should I do? I need help and I have no one to talk to. |
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| Posted: 05/20/07 - 01:51 Post subject: BEST OF LUCK |
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you should do what you thing is right as far as the baby goes. i am 21 years old with a 16 month old. i stay home and raise her while her dad, my boyfriend, goes to work. we have our own apt and are doing great. keep in mind, my boyfriend is only 19. it is possible to care for a baby and give it a good life even at age 14. do not let ANYONE talk you into doing something you might regret later.
BUT you should VERY MUCH tell your parents. as hard as it may seem and as scared as you might be, its best if someone knows so they can take you to the dr. your mother would be the best choice. she will probably not like the idea of her 14 yr old being preg...but she's also a woman and mother and she was preg once and probably scared just like you. there will be inital shock, they will get angry, and probably say things to you that will be hurtful, but afterwards they will settle down and realie you have a child growing inside of you and will sit down with you to help YOU decide what to do.
without the proper medical care many dangerous and sometimes fatal circumstances can occur
remember, it is nobody elses decision on what to do with YOUR baby. YOU decide if your ready or not and try not to make your decision based on how afraid you are. Sit down, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and think about everything. What do you think is best for you and the baby. abortion is not the only option. you put yourself in a grownup situation and now you are forced to make a grownup decision.
i wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide. |
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| Posted: 06/11/07 - 07:59 Post subject: Re: How Did U Get Pregnant?? |
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| dove wrote: | | I have a big problem. I am only 14 and recently I found out that I am pregnant. I am afraid to tell this to anyone. My parents will kill me when they find out. What should I do? I need help and I have no one to talk to. |
hey Dove i'm 15 and i just had my bday june 4th so don't freak what i did is i went to my uncle's house and they sinced something was wrong so i told them and one of them took me home and talked to my mom for me i'm today 10 weeks pregnant so don't worry just find someone that will listen to you and that your mom will listen to and tell them... and yes i did hide behind someone because i have had scares in the past and i wasn't sure what she would do...if you are more able to talk to your father talk to him first and let him drop the bomb on your mom or the other way around...oh and here is a website for mothers-to-be and mothers....
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hey ...
i dont mean to sound judgemental to anyone or anything.. but the lifestyle i was raised in i believe that you are never to young or to old to have a baby... it just mainly depends on if you can support the child and how bad you want the baby...or if your parents are willing to help...
im 17 and i have been trying to get pregant since i was 15.. my husband and i have been pregant twice but lost the baby both times.. we are still trying to conceive...
one thing i will say though is "dont have a baby if you dont want it"... that sounds like i am telling you what to do but im not..
i love children myself and i would say keep it... but yes your parents do need to know and you do need to tell them. if you cant do that then you do need to get help from someone else close to you...i myself dont believe in abortions.. that is murder to a child..but i guess everyones different... and you got to do what you have to do! |
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| Posted: 07/13/07 - 07:28 Post subject: |
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| fg12 wrote: | hey ...
i dont mean to sound judgemental to anyone or anything.. but the lifestyle i was raised in i believe that you are never to young or to old to have a baby... it just mainly depends on if you can support the child and how bad you want the baby...or if your parents are willing to help...
im 17 and i have been trying to get pregant since i was 15.. my husband and i have been pregant twice but lost the baby both times.. we are still trying to conceive...
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Since you were 15! And you're married? Bloody Hell. I don't mean to sound horrible, I'm just shocked. I'm very sorry that you've lost both of your pregnancies... I do hope you good luck in the future.
I saw a story on tv once about a group of people where the females were married really young, or at the age that they can conceive, to older males who were selected by someone in their family- like an arrainged marriage. I don't mean offence at all, I'm just a very curious person!
To the 14yo, the best bet is just to tell your mum & dad. Or an adult you trust. You don't need to go through this alone. I lost my virginity at 14 and while I agree that it's too young, sometimes things just happen and that's what makes life life. I hope all turns out well for you. ^_^ |
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