How to make successful Intercourse?

We are new married couple (4 months complete) still we didn't have sexual intercourse. Whenever we tried to make it his penis first erected and when i tried to push his penis inside to me the erection will lost and it's back to normal as before. Iam very much worried about this and my husband's age is 28 i think he is masterbating for the past 16-17 years . He is doing it daily (once, twice or thrice a day). I want to know this erection problem is because of this regular masterbation. what should we do to make the intercourse successful. If he continues to masterbate is there is any problem in the future.

Kindly advice me.

It's not a result of masturbation, however if he masturbates successfully then it is obviously not erectile dysfunction either. This means that the problem is in his head. He is probably so worried about being able to perform and perform well that he is losing his erection. What you should do is: 1) convince him to stop masturbating; this will probably make his penis "want" to stay hard so it can eliminate the semen he's storing or 2) relax him (sexy baths/showers for two, messages, handjobs/blowjobs prior to sex, etc). Once he stops thinking about sex, he should be able to have sex.

Dear Prabha,

This is a very common problem for Indian men who have remained virgins until their marriages when they are typically around 30 years of age. This is not a problem caused by masturbation. When you try to have intercourse does your husband ejaculate when you are trying to insert his penis into your vagina? If he is having a premature ejaculation than it is caused by his over-excitement of finally being with a female after waiting so many years for sex.

When men are highly excited they can typically have an orgasm and then regain an erection very soon after their initial erection has subsided. I suggest that you bring him to orgasm quickly by using your lubricated hand, spit on him, or use a lubricant like KY Liquid, or use your mouth if you like. Remain close with him. Kiss him, talk sweetly, or talk dirty. Run your hands all over his body. Show him how you'd like to be touched. Let him use his finger or tongue to explore your body. Ask for what feels good to you and what you are comfortable with. Soon, he will become excited again and have a second erection. When he has his second erection try intercourse again. He should be able to last longer the second time.

Don't get discouraged. It takes practice. You and him should practice pleasing each other in the ways you desire. Over time he will develop the ability to maintain a longer erection. The worst thing you can do is complain or blame him, get upset or discouraged because this will mentally make him feel pressured and will prevent him from being able to relax and perform. Be positive! Tell him you will keep practicing! Plan romantic evenings together. Be warm and affectionate and you will bond together and feel more comfortable sharing your bodies.