Husband addicted to masturbation

jayd · Newbie Joined: 27 Dec 2006 Posts: 1

Help! He can't have regular sex with me to the point of ejaculation. I like the things we do, but miss regular old down and dirty sexual intercourse. We've been together 7 years, and he's come during intercourse maybe 3 times. He has to masturbate to achieve orgasm. He also watches internet porn and doesn't get turned on unless I'm talking dirty like a porn star or make him jealous by talking about having sex with other men. I just want to have sex with my husband. What do I do???

Heather_2 · Silver Member Joined: 27 Mar 2006 Posts: 279

Why don't you present this to him as a problem and make him realize what's going on with both you and him and tell him that you need different needs and don't want to be a porn star.

Don't play a victim but if he starts acting the same way, why not refrain from sex for some time to see if something comes to his mind???

Just a thought.

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try reading a heart restored ro your husband could read every mans battle. hope this helps

lty_patt · Posted: 03/19/07 - 15:34 Post subject:

honey you need to tell your husband what i told mine. he has a bad porn addiction and hardly ever touched me. he would masturbate to porn 4 to 5 times a week and not touch me. i came home one day and had enough. i had tried talking to him about it before and all he did was ignore me.

i told him i wanted a divorce. he asked me why. i told him that i wanted to be with a real man who could make love to me, who wanted to be with me, who didn't need porn to get turned on by me. To me, porn is crossing the cheating line. so is strip clubs. he may not be touching them but he is watching them do intament things naked and then masturbating thinking about them. that's wrong. if you did what he does, you would NEVER hear the end of it. He thinks because he is a man he can get away with it cause he has needs. So do YOU.

i took my things and left my husband without a tear in my eye. i was too disgusted by his actions with porn to shed a tear. it was hard to stay away and not see him. but what ever i did worked. he left the porn alone and we got back to being us.

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO COMPETE WITH PORN. HE IS YOUR HUSBAND, SHOW HIM THAT WHEN YOU ARE GONE, HE CAN'T HOLD THE COMPUTER AT NIGHT.

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all the power to you lady for having the guts and willpower to get up and leave your porn-addicted husband. its makes me extremely angry the way men can treat a woman and be so self-centered with their sexual needs. I am in a similar situation without the porn. my boyfriend (66 yrs old) masturbates each night and when ever he can during the day, and our sex life is the pits. I am twenty years younger than him and can get plenty of action elsewhere, but I am loyal to this 'man'! I've give him oral sex plenty, wear sexy nighties and I told him he can wake me up for sex.....yet each night I notice him feeling himself and coming right there beside me in bed. I find this incredibly rude and shows me he has no respect for me. I've told him to stop but he continues soon afterwards. Wé've had bit fights about it and him breaking down crying, but it all doesnt help. he refuses to go to therapy. I am planning to break up with him as soon as my financial situation allows it, yet I wonder am I being old fashioned and a prude? when I read on masturbating husband it seems to be the most normal thing in the world for these 'men', but I cant help but feel unloved and cheated on and hate the idea of him doing things behind my back. I told him I would also start masturbating and he says thats okay, like he didnt care. great to be able to air out my pent up anger in this letter. all the best to you women out there in similar situations.

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