Husband doesn't want sex; I went to internet

totallyconfused · Newbie Joined: 20 Apr 2007 Posts: 1

My husband and I have been together 10 years. We get along great, but we have very different sex drives and turn-ons. I am high drive; he is low. He tries to keep up with my imagination, but I always end up trying to tone everything down to being very basic--which is what he likes. I will do anything, and he is nothing like that. I asked if there is something with me that he would like me to change; he said no. He just says he's not that into it. I tried to ignore my impulses for so, so, SO long, but I feel like I can't anymore. Having sex every couple months just isn't cutting it for me. I watch dirty movies when he isn't around, and I ended up chatting with someone online. Now my mind is filled with all sorts of thoughts: should I be with my husband? can I be more happy elsewhere? how important is sex and intimacy in a marriage? I am young (mid 30's) and have many years to go, but I feel like I am already giving up on a huge part of myself. To make matters worse, now the thought of being with my husband isn't turning me on at all. I feel like I am going crazy. Do you think I will get over this? Do I want to?

blklabel4u23 · Newbie Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 2

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i am 20 years old and have been with my fiance for almost 7 years. When we were first having sex, it was great. Now, we both have demanding jobs a house, a dog...and he doesn't want sex anymore, but i really really do. He is not spontaneous with anything. He says its because of his job and that he feels like doing nothing when he comes home. I even tell him what I want, like he told me to do months ago, and he still does nothing.

EnigmaNZ · Newbie Joined: 26 Apr 2007 Posts: 22

What a change in atitudes over yesturyear. Then marriage was about companionship, support, making a home, bringing up the next generation, and as a bonus there was the sexual side. Today sex has gained in importance to the point that if it isn't frequent and full on, marriages break up, childrens lives are ripped appart, sadness all round. Personally, if you haven't got kids and the sex drive is so unequal, then find somone else if sex is all you want from a relationship, also after the kids leave home, then again there is no point in sticking together if one partner still wants an active sex life while the other is happy with a mug of cocoa. But durring the child rearing years, please try and hold out. In this situation, a bit on the side should be available, where no relationship is wanted or expected, just come, cum, and go. The problem is for this you have to pay for, pity. What tends to happen is you'll meet a man with the opposite problem, the sex will be wonderful, and you'll both decide to spit from your partners and join, with you taking the kids and house and your husband suddenly losing the reason for being, his family. You could become an escort, lots of sex with compensation, your husband should be understanding, without the worry of losing you to a another man.

Bugger, this is a hard one to answer without knowing if kids are involved. As an explanation, my parents divorced when I and my siblings were preteen and young teen. My younger brother was devastated and went through a period of depression that lasted years, he was only 9 at the time, my younger sister reacted by becoming boy mad with early intimacy. I reacted by blaming myself, was I too blame, could I have done something, I am now 50 and know it was not my fault but still got a tear and sadness when I typed that last sentence. I loved my mum, but missed my dad so much when they moved apart.

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