I Am 6 Months Pregnant And Just Found Out? Need help

Guest · Posted: 10/12/06 - 09:43 Post subject:

Everyone will have a ton of advice for you about what to do, but you are the one that is going to have to live with this situation. You are too late for an abortion, but you always have the option of adoption. I am 6 months pregnant and I understand how hard this would be for a lot of people, but I recently had a friend that gave her second child up for adoption. It was hard on her but it was the best thing for the baby, and in my opinion was an act of selfless love for her child on her part. You can even adopt within the family, although be sure that you make clear arrangements first about what the child will know. You may not want to hide that you are the baby's biological mother. Believe me I know how hard it must be for you, I am 25 and unmarried and finishing up my last year in college, and I get remarks about "what are you going to do?" and "I know a lovely couple that is looking to adopt.." and "when are you going to get married?" when in my opinion it isn't anyone's business. My boyfriend is supportive and helping me get through my last sememsters of school financially. We do have the right as women to make our own choices, but you will have to be strong and face everyone that wants to impose their views on you! Its hard being pregnant and single, but be strong! Do what is right for your child.

Katiana · Newbie Joined: 12 Oct 2006 Posts: 66

It is a hard situation to be in but you are 18. And that makes you an adult. You need to discuss this with the father of the baby first and foremost. Figure out if he wll be a part of this. Figure out a plan and then discuss this with your parents especially if you are living in thier house. You also need to decide what it is YOU want to do. You can keep the baby or give the baby to another loving family. Do what is best for you and not what others want you to do. There is nothing worse then getting pressured and then having regrets. Decide what is best for you and your baby and go with it. I wish you all the best.

beckyf · Guest

Hey im 19 and just found out im past 6 months and i had NO idea. i told my mom right away and let her tell my dad. chances are theyll help out if not they arent doing a good job with parenting now are they? if they arent supportive, pray the father will be. its scary at first but now that everything is working out i couldnt be happier. my mom is just glad i cant get an abortion because that would devastate her. my dad. well he thinks im a f**k up and that i have issues but thats why i dont relly tlak to him anymore. my mom and dad are still together so its difficult to ignore him because he makes alot of rude comments but believe me having my mom here is helping alot. alot of people will be supportive. esp. friends and family. so look for help other places too!

friend · Guest

I know it is scary to find out you are pregnant and not married. I was 17 and pregnant and the scariest thing was telling my parents. Well they were shocked and upset at first but they were supportive. As far as adoption this is great for you and your baby if you feel that you are not ready for the responsibility of raising another human being at this point in your life. There are many people who want to adopt and it is very difficult because many young women choose to kill their unborn child rather than be embarrassed and uncomfortable for a few months. I would be glad to give you some more help and support during this difficult time you have. Let me know if you would like some extra support or just a friend to talk to that has been in your shoes before. Your Friend

texasbandit13 · Guest

well i would have to would agree with the rest that abortion is out of the question. and despite what you think, your parents aren't going to commit an act of murder because your pregnant. i'm sure you are afraid to tell them but you really should and the father of the baby as well. also consider your other options. while you will have to give birth to this miracle, you don't have to keep him or her. there are countless numbers of infertile couples just waiting to adopt. so i suggest researching adoption agencies in your area. and should you decide to keep the baby then seek all the assistance you can get from family, friends and your state. remember, you're not the first person this has happened to nor will you be the last...hundreds of other young women have found themselves in your position thinking their parents would "kill them". unexpected pregnancies are no longer "the end of the world" in this day and time. and just for the record, i happen to be 6 mos. pregnant myself, an unexpected/unplanned miracle...except i am 41...little different situation...but i was also an unexpected/unplanned pregnancy given up for adoption all those years ago...and it was the best thing my birthmother ever did for both of us....we have been reunited for 5 years and have a great relationship...no regrets...hope things work out well for you...

Kelly · Guest

hey,

im refering to the 18 year old whos pregnant and think her dad will kill her, im sure your family will handle it alot better then u think hun, i was 15 when i first got pregnant, yes 15, my parents were great, they are religious so i was so worried cos as u know sex before marriage is not on with religions, but i now have a gorgeous baby boy, hes 8 years old and would never change it, i would do the same thing over again if i knew its the best feeling to be a mum, i am 6 months pregnant now with my second my husband and i found out we are having a girl Smile

so boy and girl now, my husband isnt my sons real Dad but boy they look the same and he is just amazing with him, my son loves him so much, im 24 now, life still goes on after a baby, i hope u get as lucky as i did hun Smile

u will im sure Smile

Guest · Guest

I too was a young mother... getting pregnant at the age of 17... But now my baby is 12 years old and the pride and joy of my life. I also have an 11 year old.. another pride and joy of mine. I was a single mom for 12 years... But now at the age of 30... I recently had another baby that I was blessed with... and had no clue about until well into my 7th month.
I mean I felt the movement and I seen myself gaining weight.. but I chalked up my weight gain to my eating all the time...lol seemed I never got full and I was always craving something. Now I know why!! I worked in a bar and was going out quite a bit before I knew... and I smoked.... but now my 3rd little boy who is now 10 months old is healthy happy and fine.
I've been where you are young and pregnant and not knowing what to do... and not knowing until it was very far into the pregnancy. It's scary and everything is overwhelming.... but what you should do first in this situation is sit down with yourself and decide what it is YOU want. Are you ready for this kind of responsibility?
Having and raising child is the most rewarding and wonderful feeling in the world, but thats my opinion. It's not for everyone.
You should tell the father first... and then decide with him how to tell both your parents. If he is one of those guys who runs... then again you need to decide if you are ready to take this all on... without the help of a mate.
You're already pregnant... the baby isn't far away... they are going to find out sooner or later. Sit down with your parents and decide what is best for YOU and YOUR BABY. You shouldn't be worried about their reaction to the pregnancy... the reaction isn't what's important here.

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montana · Newbie Joined: 10 Jan 2007 Posts: 14

I WAS 18 YEARS OLD WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT. WHEN I TOLD MY MOM I THOUGHT SHE WOULD FREAK BUT THE ONLY THING SHE TOLD ME WAS THAT I WASN'T THE FIRST TEEN OR THE LAST ONE TO GET PREGNANT AND THAT SHE WOULD SUPPORT ME WITH EVERYTHING. OF COURSE SHE ALSO TOLD ME HOW HARD IT WOULD BE AND THAT I SHOULD HAVE BEEN MORE RESPONSIBLE BUT IT WENT MUCH MORE BETTER THEN I THOUGHT. I THINK THE SHOT IS NOT A GOOD IDEA MY AUNT HAS GOTTEN PREGNANT 2 TIMES ON IT AND DIDN'T FIND OUT TILL SHE WAS 5 MONTHS PREGNANT EACH TIME. Sad

purple636 · Newbie Joined: 30 Jan 2007 Posts: 10

I was 20 years old when I found out I was pregnant with my son.I was almost 5 months along!So I can see where you're coming from but I kinda had a feeling I was pregnant I was just in denial.I called my mom on the phone and told her trust me its easier because she will be in shock at first because she will be thinking of the negative affects it will have , but once she calms down it will become the most exciting time in you're life.My mother up until the day I told her I was pregnant always said she didn't want to be a grandmother.The next day after I told her she was knitting blankets.It's a natural reaction no matter what your situation is that you will adapt and be a great mom.You will see how everyone will rally to support you.Even if this baby is unplanned it is certainly not wanted right?I can understand your situation because I went through it.I always dreamed of being married and having a great big house with lots of money then having a baby.Sometimes life just doesn't end up the way you plan it.Lucky for me the father of my baby and I were in love and after 5 years got married but it doesn't always happen like that.You should talk to the father about what you want his role to be.If the two of you are not ready to do this togetehr than make sure you involve hime as much as possible and remain friends that is very important!well I wish you all the luck in the world you can email me if you want.I will give you support and advice if you need it.

Guest · Guest

people do over react, when my parents found out my gf was pregnant they were a little upset for two or three days, then they were happy and glad in a way. my girlfriends parents though took it all wrong anf after a FEW minutes the mother was joking around about baby sitting and stuff LOL

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