I am jealous of my daughter's and my husband's relationship

deremer · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2005 Posts: 17

Hi. I have a teenage daughter, 15 years old. I am supposed to be close to her, to talk to her, to tell her all the stuff she needs to know as a young woman. However, she is much closer with her Dad. I am jealous of my daughter`s and my husband`s relationship. They do everything together. I feel isolated and don`t know what to do. Any suggestions

patten · Newbie Joined: 06 Jun 2005 Posts: 16

Hi. I have a teenage daughter myself and we have a pretty close relationship. We talk about her problems at school, with friends, about puberty and sex. My husband is the one that is jealous. She was always his little girl – until she grew up. I think your daughter will come to you when she feels she has to. Just let her be. Let her do what she wants to do. Otherwise you may create many problems. She may become angry at you.

a_l_daigle · Newbie Joined: 25 Dec 2006 Posts: 65

Hope this sheads a little light on the subject. When I was a teenager, I always wanted to be with my dad, I found he was less strict. Every now and then I would go to my mom for something, I would stay in my room when my dad wasnt home and come out and watch tv with him. I guess I had a lot more in common with him. I thought my mom would pressure me a lot into talking about everything, and as a teenager I couldnt stand that. My suggestion, give her a little space, and every now and then show interest in something she likes. Unless you are worried and are questioning something in her life just let her be "catty". I now have a wonderful relationship with my mother, and now I tell her everything. Dad and I are still close, but I find now she is easier to talk to. Give it time, it will get better

Sincerely

"once a teenage girl"

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Things will change. I guess girls are usually closer to their dads when they're younger. As they grow older, their mothers become more of a friend - which is great. That's how it happened between me and my mother. Sadly i don't get along with my father as well as I used to though.

my2cents · Site Admin Joined: 12 Apr 2007 Posts: 170

SOmetimes parents can get possessive like this. I think that its fine for her to get as close to him as she feels like. Its not hurting anyone, and it shouldn't be a competition between you and the dad for her affection/attention.

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I am 29 years old, I have a 6 year old and an 8 year old. I used to have the closest relationship with my mother, and now because of her jealousy, there is no relationship. It took over 6 years for things to fall apart. I have always been close to my dad, when we get together I don't ever want to leave his company. He is not judgemental, he praises my accomplishments, and we have alot of fun.
My mother, on the other hand, ignores my accomplishments and tells me she could probably accomplish the same thing if she wanted. Her grandchildren are not welcome in her house as it is more of a show home and the kids may mess it up. I have always been there for my mother, she was very sick a few years ago and I packed up the family to be with her until she was better. I know that if I was to get sick, she would not do the same for me.
There is so much more I could write, but I am sure you get what I am saying. My message is intended to let you know that you should talk to your mother about your issues right away before it gets to be like my situation. It sucks not to have a mother, and for my boys not to have a grandmother.

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i'm a 17 year old girl. i just wanted to say that you probably don't have anything to be jealous of. my mother and i are closer than my father and i because my dad is very strict and when i am around him i feel like i need to be perfect. my mom is a lot more fun. of course i am not saying that you're not fun, but maybe your daughter finds that her father does more fun things with her. maybe since you raised her and had to be somewhat strict, just because thats how parents need to be sometimes, she sees him as the playful one. you should try planning something fun for just the two of you. something that she will like. its never that she doesnt love you as much, just that she feels more at ease with her father maybe. and dont bring up the thing about her being closer with her father. teenage girls tend to be very irritable, i would know haha. but yeha, try this. and sorry if its not very helpful Confused

morningshow · Newbie Joined: 21 Jan 2008 Posts: 1

Hi,
i work for a national morning show that wants to help. We are doing a segment on jealous/envious mothers and would love for you and your mom to come on to tell your story...
We are taping this in NYC this Fri 1/25 and would provide all transportation, etc. Please write asap to morning_show AT hotmail.com
I'm sorry about your troubles with your mom, but maybe we can help get this all sorted out!
Thanks so much

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im a twenty year old girl and i am closer to my father than my mother. and i know tht my mother is very jealous of that. shes so open about it. n thi sputs a strain on my relationship with my father. both my parents travel.so wen theyre both here i hardly even speak to my dad. when my mothers away we spend time talking and hang out togetehr. and i just cannot have the same relationship with my mother cz shes a totally different person. i hope your daughter and u get back togetehr but enjoy what she has with ehr fathewr. and show her all the love and support in everything she does.

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