I have a gay roommate, he's been checking me out

clarie · Silver Member Joined: 14 Oct 2002 Posts: 228

Hi, I just discovered I’ve got a gay roommate, and he’s been checking me out. How should I react o his sexual behavior?

kissie · Silver Member Joined: 28 Jun 2001 Posts: 218

Hi, when I realized that my former roommate and close friend is gay, I couldn’t believe it. I was wondering, when did he change and how I didn’t notice it. But, it is important to accept them as they are. These people need sincere acceptance and encouragement you might want when you tell a friend something special about yourself. Because many people have "homophobic" attitude, gays are usually afraid of rejection. If a gay is attracted to you and wants an intimate relationship with you and you don’t want it, you can handle it in the same manner as heterosexual relationships.

grneyes_01 · Newbie Joined: 15 Nov 2006 Posts: 11

If you feel that he is checking you out then confront him about it, but be sure that is what is really going on. ALot of times when people find out that a roommate or close friend is gay then they automatically assume their gay friend is hitting on them, etc. Make sure that it's just not your paranoia and shock of finding out that he's gay and he really is trying to get with you. There are alot of stereotypes that feed into the idea that gay people tend to be more promiscuious than straight people or they don't know their boundaries when it comes to friendships, so you could be subconsciously buying into those stereotypes.
If you do choose to confront him about it and you are concerned about losing his friendship don't be a jerk or intimidating. Don't do anything that he would find offensive by trying to prove your manhood or anything like that. Just be a friend to him.

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