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 Posted: 02/14/08 - 10:27 Post subject: Advice.... |
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I don't think any of y'all realize that an abortion kills a human life, your little baby that is so innocent and didn't do anything to deserve death. YOU made the mistake of having unprotected sex, YOU made the choice of having sex before marriage. Honestly, call me crazy, but I don't believe in destroying/murdering the innocent...
My opnion, but really think about what your doing before you do it..
the after effects and everything. you could seriously never have children again or worse, you could die. |
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| Posted: 03/11/08 - 00:15 Post subject: maybe abortion is more about the reasons? |
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I'm just putting this out there, I have been against abortion my entire life, never really had to deal with the issue...just that I love babies and the thought of them being killed is horrifying. In the last six months I have been faced with predicaments that have seriously questioned my strongest beliefs.
I was stupid at 19 and after leaving the army went back to my cheating boyfriend. Soon I was pregnant with my son, he left us to have another son with another woman and we were stranded. I refused then to let go of him, he is three, almost four now and I love him more than myself or even my now husband. We had sex before our wedding and became pregnant, panicking we decided the only way to continue on given the upcoming wedding, our parents and the church...we had an abortion. It was horrible and I swore I would never do that again.
But one month after marriage I am pregnant again. I lost my job because of morning sickness and since my husband was promised a great job, I full heartedly let it go. Except he did not get that job. And my husband has been using rheoteric like "your not really my son, once this baby comes I'll just ignore you, this baby is mine." and "who cares about him (my son)? He's not mine." and my in laws are already causing trouble "we just thought you were using birth control" (birth control WAS being used) "it will be interesting to have a third grandchild" (three does not include my son) Beyond the words is carryout, my husband is ignoring my son and not spending any time with him beyond "go to your room" every afternoon he is picked up from daycare. My son cries more than ever now and since I am struggling to get over nausea I am of little help. That plus I still hear "quit babying him". I am having nightmares of my son being a young adolescent and running away because he is made to feel unwanted and unloved and being torn between my husband and our child and my son. It does not help that neither of us have a job right now.
It makes no sense to put this child up for adoption, but my husband no longer supports the abortion route since we are married and everyone knows I'm pregnant...I did swear I wouldn't again...but this situation is NOT exactly child friendly. Hell it ain't even right. I want a miscarriage and get my son out of misery. But I'm 12 weeks, how?
This is why I wonder, under circumstances, can't abortion actually be considered wise and protecting of a child? No child wants to feel the seperation of family, drugs, alcohol, abuse, or neglect. How can we pride ourselves in not destroying them in the womb if we just destroy them in their childhood? It is a dilemma of gigantic proportions and not easy on mom....yet it has to be made. If abortion is chosen for selfish reasons, it ain't right, but maybe to spare a child, a family from a lifetime of pain and turmoil maybe abortion has a role?
My emotional thoughts. |
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| Posted: 03/11/08 - 00:26 Post subject: |
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It is selfish to have a child... You have children because you WANT them, not because you NEED them...
Selfish is not wrong, sometimes we have to be selfish in order to be happy and lead good lives.
IF I was a child, I would not want to be brought up in neglect and abuse. |
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| Posted: 03/11/08 - 11:59 Post subject: to unsermom |
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you are in a really tough situation. Is there anyway you can leave him and keep both your babies? Your son and your child? Theres nothing to say you have to stay with an abusive man. Do you want this baby? Did you want the baby you aborted? I know abortion and it can leave you uncertain and scared, it can mute all your motherly emotions. A mother naturally protects her child. But I found that after abortion those natural instincts are less, you find yourself putting up with various types of abuse because deep down you feel like you deserve it...
I hope that there is a way for you to get away from this man and keep your children safe. I wish there was more I could do to help. Honestly I dont think abortion is the answer, your the mom, it's your baby too. What do YOU want... ??? |
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| Posted: 04/13/08 - 14:58 Post subject: abortion pregnancy miscarriage |
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So alcohol and strenuous excersising have no effect on miscarriages?
Supposedly this girl had a miscarriage due to a PE test. My girlfriend really doesn't want her child she's too young it will probably ruin her life because I'm about to graduate so not that big of a deal for me. So my only option is 400$ abortion? Do you need to be a certain age to get the pills that cause an abortion as well? |
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| Posted: 05/27/08 - 19:37 Post subject: abortions |
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| Carifairy wrote: | You cannot cause a miscarriage at home, your best bet is to get an abortion.
AN abortion up to 14 weeks is very simple, and you can be put to sleep so it is painless.
http://www.gynpages.com
It is a website with lists of abortion clinics, prices, and more info.
IF you have any questions feel free to ask me.
I work in an abortion clinic. |
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You work in an abortion clinic you say? Well i had an abortion a little less than a year ago and here i am again about 2 weeks pregnant, i want an abortion but im scared to go back to the clinic im scared they will think im some whore or something when im really not. |
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| Posted: 06/05/08 - 06:14 Post subject: |
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| Guest wrote: | | Why the hell did you even try to get pregnant if you are only 18 now. If you are mature enough to have sex, then grow the f*** up and have the kid |
Why is it that the people with the most immature posts on this forum always use the phrase "grow up"? |
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| Posted: 06/05/08 - 07:09 Post subject: |
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| Guest wrote: | For all you who think that it is ok to have an abortion!!! Go home and read the bible it is a sin to have an abortion!! I can't see how someone could kill something that is a part of them. If you don't ever want to have kids then you should refrain from sex all together until you are ready for that to happen. It is a shame i sat and cried so many times because I didn't think I could have kids. Now I am 29 and I'm about 6 weeks pregnant and scared to death because I started spotting. Just the thought that I might lose my child kills me inside. I sit back and see all these crack heads and abusive parents having children and it makes me sick. I always wondered why people like that were lucky enough to have children and people like me can't. I lived in a home where the parents didn't want the child, but that hasn't stopped me. That just made me more likely to love my child unconditionally. That is if I get to have this child or any for that matter. So the choice is up to you but remember it will be GOD that will be left to judge you in the end. He is the only one allowed to judge anyone.  |
Ok, I just have to respond to this by saying that not everyone is a Christian. We don't all believe in the bible. We don't even all believe in God. The reason why crackheads and abusive parents have children is because they have been brainwashed to think that killing a FETUS is a sin, and they are so selfishly afraid of going to hell that they'd rather bring a child into a horrible situation. I have a cousin who is 24 and has FIVE kids. She doesn't take care of them. She leaves them with strangers to go off and get pregnant by the next guy (usually a drug dealer), yet she refuses to have an abortion because she thinks it is a sin. Tell me how that works in any way, shape, or form? I mean, these kids all have different fathers and are probably going to grow up to become hardened criminals. Sure, there is a chance that one of them may be the person who discovers the cure for cancer, but that's not very likely unless someone miraculous comes into their lives and influences them for the better. No, I'm no one to judge her. It's her choice. I tried to talk her into getting a tubal at number three, but she wouldn't listen to me. At that point, I gave up. I have tried to help her and give her support with the kids she does have, but she is not the kind of person to readily accept help unless it means she doesn't have to do anything. She lives on welfare. I tried to get her to go to school and even helped her fill out her financial aid forms and everything, but it turned out that she just wanted to get the money and not go to school. I'm sorry it's been hard for you to conceive, but that is no reason to push your beliefs on others. I am sorry to be insensitive or whatever, and maybe I am cynical, but it seems to me that God has nothing to do with it. People should take responsibility for themselves and their own lives. They should not bring children into a situation where they will grow up neglected, abused, and exposed to drugs and other criminal activities. By the way, numerous people have called CPS on her, but they have done nothing. I am not saying that I believe abortion is the only option, but I am saying that it should be an option. I am saying thank goodness that some people have enough sense to do that rather than bring a child into a bad home. Thank goodness all those crack/heroin/alcoholic babies and unwanted children who were aborted never had to suffer. |
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