Kids who masturbate

Lchickie16 · Guest

Is it normal for a five year old to masturbate. i have only be around my sister for a few months and she is always asking is I do the nasty. They always tell her to be quiet when I ask her what she meant. I finally got it out of her grandmother that she meant masturbating. Apparently she puts her hands in between her legs and humps, along with other stuff. They tell her to stop and she doesn't. She even tries to in the frontroom. Her grandmother told me she thinks she got it from watching her real mom when she was real little. Is it normal and what should I do?

hannah_1991 · Newbie Joined: 03 Aug 2006 Posts: 7

Hey,
my little bro was the same, he would be standing in front of the TV watching the wiggles and guess where his hand always was?down his pants lol they dont understand because they are to young
he grew out of it

crzyfl · Veteran Joined: 07 Apr 2006 Posts: 1168

It is natural for little kids to play with themselves, but it can also be a sign that they have been sexually abused. You could try asking her where she learnt if from?

Mick · Supporter Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 310

Although such behaviour may put you in an awkward situation, you need to learn that their acts are quite normal and a part of their developmental stage. It doesn’t necessary mean that your little sister had seen this from her mother doing it, I would say this is nonsense especially if the woman who is saying is not the child’s mother mother.
Children start exploring their bodies at the end of age 1 and almost all two year olds “masturbate”. You should know that this is not masturbation as a sexual act but something that is fun and pleasurable. At first they wouldn’t even feel the pleasure and it would be the same as touching their toes or ears or other parts that protrude or have holes. In time, this may become pleasurable and they may do it subconsciously.
Both little girls and boys do this. About 75% of girls and 95% of boys touch their genitals.
Making them stop and forbidding is not really a good approach. What you should learn the child is that if she’s doing it, she should do it in her room when she is alone because it is private. You can also try to distract her with finding something else to do and making her hands busy with something else.
You need to find an approach that would not forbid her to do these things because she would do them then as it is more fun when it is forbidden (or nasty like your sister said). Also, you have to be careful bout not shaming her.

So, make sure the grandmother reads this too or find some more literature on the topic. The reason your sister calls the act nasty is because somebody has been filling her head with this word and saying that the act was nasty. This is not a good way to approach a child and is sending them a negative message about their sexuality.
Some children do this when they are distressed and their act may mean that something’s worrying them.

Cardinal18 · Newbie Joined: 10 Aug 2006 Posts: 11

I agree, its very common for kids to touch themselves

One of the earliest forms for girls is rocking in a chair
Jets in a pool also
the horse at meijer...

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