Labiaplasty Nightmare

Miss Regretful · Newbie Joined: 26 Apr 2008 Posts: 9

Hi ladies,
Everyone who has gone through this awful ordeal needs to warn and discourgage other women from getting this procedure done. I would like to also begin an online support group not only for us women who have suffered from this but to prevent others from experiencing this problem. I am still in disbelief that I had labiaplasty and feel disgusted and disappointed - I don't know how to get my life back on track..

If someone is going through the same thing, please reply to this message so we can begin to do something about this - even if we prevent at least one person it's worth it.

Miss Regretful

Miss Regretful · Newbie Joined: 26 Apr 2008 Posts: 9

Hi Ladies,
I feel for all of you. As I write this email, I'm in tears as I too had labiaplasty about 1 month ago. Initially I was horrified about the results but the area has calmed down now. I have scarred (as in have some scar tissue) and I'm so scared that i'll be in pain during intercourse. Before the operation, I was so scared to sleep with someone just in case they commented about my long, fat labia but now I don't think that I'll be able to get intimate with anyone because i'm afraid that it won't be pleasurable as it once was.

I've started seeing a Psychologist, am on anti-depressants and sleeping tablets - I'm horried that I did this to myself! I feel like my life is ruined and I am scared that I'll never have an intimate relationship with someone. I have my family support but i have not told any of my friends as I think that they will judge me for my decision.

I don't know how to cope with what i've done. I've changed as a person - I was once outgoing, happy and had it all - now I'm living in fear of what the future holds for me! And why - because I was celf conscious and abit uncomfortable about some saggy skin! I'm only 24 and feel that my life is over!

Is there anyone going through this who lives in Australia - Melbourne? I would love to talk to someone about this experience as I feel very alone and feel like I'm going crazy.

My only wish is that I could turn back time. I hope that God looks over us and helps us get through this awful experience. I hope you ladies stay strong and I hope that there's brighter days ahead for all of us.

Miss Regretful

SSJK5 · Newbie Joined: 11 Apr 2008 Posts: 1

Hi, I've just stumbled upon this thread and firstly I'd like to say that I'm sorry to hear about everyone's unfortunate experiences with this op.

I underwent surgery about 11 years ago when I was in my late teens/early 20s. I was surprised to see that the surgeon had removed my labia minora completely, but I was so physically uncomfortable and unhappy with how I was, that the new appearance came mostly as a relief (generally at least).
Not long afterwards I noticed odd vibrations that I couldn't pin point exactly, though they were around the same area. I didn't think too much about it at the time because it's such a sensitive part of your body that you're bound to get some kind of pain or sensation/s after surgery.

Since 2005 life has been horrendous for me. I began to experience odd nerve sensations all over my body when I sat down; mouth, tongue, scalp, back and I suffer from excruciating pains in my feet. The worst pain is now centred around my clitoris, where it becomes swollen on occasions. Sitting down is a nightmare and I have to take too many non-prescription painkillers to get to sleep when it is very bad. It feels like chillblains - I am in a serious amount of pain.

It has hampered my working and social life for the last 3 years and after seeing a gynaecologist last year who thought the outcome was a success (incidentally this specialist was a colleague of the surgeon that carried out the procedure), I have now been referred to a gynaecologist who appears to have done extensive research on the subject. It doesn't look as though I'm going to find better help, so I am very pleased to have been put in touch with this person. I'm looking forward to making some headway at the end of this month hopefully - I'll post back my experience.

Good luck to everyone who is suffering after effects of this op, and a message of advice to anyone young in particular who is thinking of having this surgery; don't do it all all or at least not yet! You clearly haven't finished growing and your body could still change. I think this could be what happened in my case.

SSKJ5 xxx

(GUEST15; I would like to help/contribute to an online support group - please let me know if you're still interested.)

Hope123 · Newbie Joined: 01 Apr 2008 Posts: 4 Location: California

Ladies, I have read all of the above posts and my heartfelt sincerest apologies go out to you who have experienced such trauma from this. 10 years ago I underwent labiaplasty, the female performing the operation was only supposed to remove excess skin on the left, but when I awoke she had removed skin on the right as well, which is not what I asked for..(given my right side was fine, only the left was signifigantly longer).

I gave no thought to it though, as I healed perfectly and felt no pain for 10 years. I then noticed when she had stitched me up, she left a small tip of skin that was lose and bothered me when I saw and touched it. It was very sensitive.

Therefore, for years I looked for a doctor to "snip" this excess skin off. I finally came across one last June, he was full accredited and board certified. I had a consaltation, and he promised to remove the excess skin, yet he told me that I looked deformed because I had little labia on the right. Needless to say, he talked me into a procedure that would somewhat "fix" what the other doctor had done. I trusted him and his judgement, and since I had no experience of pain from the prior procedure 10 years ago, I agreed to have it done. WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE.

The doctor snipped my minor problem that needed fixing with ease(the only thing I should have needed), but then managed to MANGLE my complete right side of my Vagina. He cut me from clitoral hood, and connected it to my labia and created a mass of skin. I noticed right away but he said it was just very swollen. After 7 months of pure agonizing pain, burning and sensitivity,I complained. He told me that the pain would go away. 9 months later it still didn't, not to mention I was mangeld, scared, and abnormally different on my right side as opposed to my left. I began to have panic attacks, nightmares, and have been living in a state of post traumatic stress.

In February I underwent a revision surgery to fix what he had done. He honestly did the best he could. To a random person, you would not be able to tell.. However, the psychological damage is done. I am depressed, feel worthless, violated, taken advantage of, I feel like a piece of me died on that operating table that day.

It has now been 6 weeks since my revision surgery and although I am still healing, the pain is still there, sensitivity, and burninig sensations. I am literally trapped in a living hell, and I can't escape it because it is on my body. My life has changed. I used to be confident and full of life. Friends called me sunshine. Now I don't see my friends, I have a hard time leaving the house or getting out of bed. It will be a year in June since all this has taken place. I am holding tight to hope and faith that God will bring me through this stronger than I was before. He doesn't give us more than we can handle. And although I feel a piece of me has died, I look forward to the day when I can get past this and find my inner peace once again.

I would definitley advise all women out there to appreciate what they have. Looks fade, and frankly guys don't care what you look like down there, especially when they are with you for the right reasons. This is a horrific nightmare that I would not even wish on my worse enemies. Being a woman is supposed to be fresh, invigorating, and powerful. Not full of pain and misery. Keep your heads up ladies if you have experienced such horror. All we can do is pray, and pray for expertise in our doctors who can only do so much. If I could go back in time I would. But I can't. The damage is done. But I will keep hope and faith, as I hope you all do. God Bless.

GUESTHELPME · Newbie Joined: 24 Mar 2008 Posts: 1

i had undergone this surgery and also found my lips totally amputated as i asked for just a small reduction. i had the procedure in january 07 and the doctor had told me that they were going to look better as it heals but that was not true. i was wondering if its too late to file a lawsuit i feel like i was butchered and violated. This was the worst thing that ive ever done in my life and im totally dpressed about it. I advise no one to do this unless you have personal references that you can see the results and make sure the doctor understands excactly how you want it done and knows what hes doing. I am 19 years old please someone tell me if theres anything i could do.

GUEST15 · Newbie Joined: 15 Feb 2008 Posts: 4

My heartfelt wishes to all who have suffered the abuse of body and trust of this appalling nightmare.

I too underwent a procedure to reduce my labia re pain and discomfort and awoke to find them entirely amputated. Since that moment my life has been a waking nightmare, both physically and psychologically. Make no mistake, this is abuse and falls under the Female Genital Mutialtion Act 2003. As well as following up whatever medical help I can find (too little), I am actively pursuing a legal case: in my opinion the butchery I suffered constitutes assault, breach of contract, medical negligence, abuse of human rights and action against the medical principle "First do no harm".

If any others out there are interested in forming an online support group (for practical advice as well as emotional support), please post your replies so I can see the demand.

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I had it about 3 days ago. I find it odd that women have had pain for months, because my pain subsided today. the only thing I feel at this point is just the stitches rubbing against clothes and I feel some itching. The only discharge is a tiny bit of blood. It looks good- not even too swollen. I encourage anyone that is having serious pain after this procedure and odd looking and smelling discharge (especially) to call their doctor. That indicates an infection. I have been really careful to keep the area totally clean, both with mild soap and water, and with tucks pads. I also used a spray bottle of water after urinating for the first 2 days.

VICTIM · Newbie Joined: 28 Oct 2007 Posts: 1

Ninja1200 · Supporter Joined: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 273 Location: USA

In an effort to get a common opinion from the guys' behalf, I started a poll in the men's section about labia size. It seems to be almost as big a concern as men with their penis sizes.

http://www.steadyhealth.com/viewtopic.php?t=137547

I honestly hate to hear of any woman having the reduction surgery as a fan of large labia. Maybe I'm just a freak but I really get aroused by larger labia and find it sad that women would think it embarrasing or something.

LOULOU2 · Newbie Joined: 04 Jul 2007 Posts: 4

Yes, I have 5 yrs ago, my surgeon removed the lot,-all my labia ,minora I couldn't believe it-still can't. He burnt me to cauterise me resulted in me burnt from my clitoris to my backside, the surgery was a joke, I saw my solicitor & went to see another surgeon but to no avail, you cannot prove medical negligance as I feel as if they close ranks, I would not recommend this to anyone. A nurse I saw after this botch job she said that it maybe was a misunderstanding, some misunderstanding, why would a fully qualified doctor remove ALL the labia minora, I am still baffled. I am now left looking worse & unnatural and sex is sore and tight, he has done a lot of damage and got away with it. If your privates work a treat, don't mess with them. I had a great sex life before now I don't date at all. Don't do it ever- this is the biggest regret in my life, it is very difficult to move on as it has really messed with my head. I was a confident person before this and I had wanted it for over 10 yrs, wish I never did it.

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