My boyfriend cant keep it hard after he puts the condom on

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me and my boy friend try and have sex and he gets really hard and then as soon as he puts the condom on it goes back down... why?

MisterHo · Newbie Joined: 17 Jan 2007 Posts: 94

It is probably nerves. It happens a lot.

To keep him excited, try putting the condom on for him. You can make it part of ya'lls foreplay ruitine or something.

Good luck

Guest77 · Newbie Joined: 05 Oct 2007 Posts: 6

It's a mental thing. Might be easy to fix with just some more play or relaxing talk. Tell him you wanna try putting on the condom and then NOT having sex - you wanna tease him for 4 hours or something. Then the mental block of "now we're going to" is not going to be in his head. Make him know that full sexual performance is not required ALL the time, every time.

You would want it the same - some days you'll want different things - even to play around and not have full sex.

But it's most likely a common, normal thing - although it's not easy to figure out. It's a mental issue that controls his hardness - and he can't actually WILL IT to stay up or down. It's kinda a subconscious thing. Maybe he's privately afraid of close personal contact, or what it means to have a serious girlfriend and maybe kids. Lots things - if it keeps on, try to make him ok with it - talk about it and how you WANT TO work on it so he's happy. And you're happy.

If it still happens, he can talk to a counselor, they can show him how this is common ALL the time and how to work it out!

thedoctorisin · Newbie Joined: 22 Mar 2007 Posts: 126

Tell him to practice masturbating with a condom on. He'll get used to it.

My boyfriend cant keep it hard after he puts the condom on

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