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 Posted: 04/06/07 - 16:37 Post subject: My girlfriend just told me... |
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That she has bulimia.
I really like her and will stick with her no matter what but don't know what I can do to help her. I personally had some pyschological problems in the past but not an eating disorder, but I know mental problems are horrible and it took a lot of counselling for me to get over mine.
I'm scared of losing her and fear that without me she'll be alone. But at the moment she's pushing me away, perhaps out of paranoia but surely this isn't good for her?
Any suggestions of ways I could persuade her to let me in and help her would hugely appreciated. |
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nickeritch
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| Posted: 04/12/07 - 03:05 Post subject: girlfriends |
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| my last girlfriend had annorexia sp? so I feel for you bro. I don't know too much about eating disorders, but I do know that it is usually fueled by, or at least accompanied with, low self esteem. SO, what I would do is make sure she's taking the right steps to deal with the disorder (because she has to make a decision to overcome it), which primarily means that she needs to be meeting with a counselor/therapist of sorts. Continually let her know you love her regardless of her appearance (she may not believe you subconcsiously, but its important to continually reassure her). If she's down and you guys are super close, get involved in the counselling process, and the psychologist can give you great advice on how to support her in overcoming it. Good luck and I commend you for sticking by her through it--not easy. |
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anamiakills
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| Posted: 05/14/07 - 21:37 Post subject: |
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The best I can tell you is to just not get too involved with it. Say you want to be with her and you care for her, but if she brings food up, don't try to be a food police or she will only get upset. This will then spiral a ton of arguments surrounding her eating disorder that may result in her wishing she never told you. Be supportive of her, but don't accept the disease. Tell her you want her to get help for her disease and you will be there for her the whole way and you will visit her in rehab and you don't want to see anything bad happen to her because of this disease.
Anorexia KILLS. Bulimia kills. Do not let her control you with her disease. It will be the worst trap you can get into with her. It wont be herself talking either, it will be her disease. Her telling you she wants has the disease in the first place, was her reaching out for help.
When I first told my boyfriend, that's what I wanted and he stuck by me and stayed out of my way while I was in recovery. We didn't get into fights too much about it. He only played food police with me once, but when he did, I almost left him. And it was my eating disorder talking.
Anyways, go here for help:
something-fishy.org/
This website has so much useful information. And a recovery support group. I really think it'll be helpful for you
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