My husband gets angry at the smallest thing.

lesleyc · Newbie Joined: 31 Jul 2008 Posts: 1

My husband gets angry at very small things. He had a bad childhood with no love or hugs and kisses off his mum and he used to get belted by her. His dad drank all the time and they split up. My husband does like to have a drink. He can drink a bottle of wine a night sometimes. Other times he just has a drink at the weekend. I am confused because I don't think he is an alcoholic as he does get angry when he hasn't had a drink. He also likes everything to be tidy and all the cupboards and fridges neat and tidy and in rows. I was wondering with all these symptoms where related? Is there anything I can do? He never goes to the doctor as he is very fit. I don't know where to start as i feel it is mental abuse and I get really worried about it. He has never hit me but has smashed items and thrown items.

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Dont worry...I dont think men getting angry is related to his mother beating him.
There are many guys I know who get angry particularly at their wife and kids but behave in a very good manner outside.

Also - be patient. Do not reply/argue when he is angry.
please move away from him as he should not start hitting you.

He has a problem with anger management - but then there are many such guys in this world...and not everyone will admit that they have a problem or go for therapy.

so the best you can do is alter your behaviour.
try not responding verbally. maintain a calm/sorrowful face (pretend atleast). dont say anything.

does ur husband's anger reduce when you start crying/weeping silently then use that.

else move away from him...and pretend to be sorry...dont say anything
after sometime he will calm down (say after 4-5 hrs) then u say sorry.
even if you have not done anything wrong.

My husband gets angry at the smallest thing.

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