PLS need sincere advice, should i stay or go? my sex life, is there one?

miserable lady · Newbie Joined: 28 Jun 2008 Posts: 1

Hey to make it short, me and my husb are a great team we been married 6 years, i am 26 he is 31.

I feel really hurt and alone inside, we never ever had wild sex, the first 2 months of marraige it was alot, then it went to twice a month, and after a year it went less and less, now to non..

He says it is cuz of the loss of our children it's stress, BUT how bout now we moved on he gives me money to shop all the time, and to go out with my friends alot. I feel it's him feeling guilty. A few times he was not able to get it up, some type of impotence? His doc results show normal though. But he was nervouse cuz I finally lashed out in a panic attack.

I don't want to find happiness through my friends and family,I want A marriage, should i stay or leave?

I am so use to my life I don't wanna leave at the same time because we are finally stable and settled, but im young i got married at 20 and still no sex, it's been two years now without real sex, in these two years i only probably made out with him 3 times... pls, also i fell into a little cheating, with my ex.... very sad i'm suicidal. I am thinknig to go for my ex? But I love my husb, he been there for me thorugh hard times, but no lie I don't sexually desire him no more, Cuz I have a major complex and anger, I got tired of fighting for it. I even fell into some porn, and I am against porn. I am not myself, Also masturbating.

I cry alot, and I been patient for soo long but no nothing, so i got weak.. pls people, no he is not GAY... and i know his sex drive is lower then mine, but you ppl to be honest I don't think he can change. I look the same as he met me, he thinks im beautiful, and loves me...

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lty_patt · Posted: 07/17/08 - 16:57 Post subject:

I was reading your topic above and got to the part where it said you two lost your children. Did they pass away or something? if that is the case he could be suffering from emotional anxiety which could have a lot to do with the way he is acting sexualy. It's hard to have sex with someone when their mind is somewhere else, even harder for a man. They have to keep their mind focused on something to stay erect but if he has sad thougts flooding his mind and he can't get them out that is all he will think about.

Im not going to judge you for cheating. It's only human nature to be wanted and loved by the oposite gender, and when you can't get any affection from your husband it has driven you into the arms of another man. You sound like you have some mental emotional problems as well, not to be rude. Maybe you should go to the doctor and explain how you are feeling with the thoughst of suicide. He will probably help you out and get you on some medication. DONT BE EMBARRASSED!! People you know probably take somekind of antidepressants and you never in your right mind would think that they were. All the meds do is help you control your situation better without getting so upset. Take wellbutrin and prozac. before the meds, i was a mental wreck with way bad anxiety to the point where i would get a rush and pass out from overexerting myself. My meds keep me from lashing out at others.

He might need some as well. the only person who can help you, is you. you can talk to people all you want to get some of the hurt and anger out but you also have to live with it every day. what is more important to you? Ask your self that question and think about it. you love a man but can't take the feeling of being alone and you have told him this but nothing changes. Maybe you two need some time away.

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thank you for the reply. I will never ever commit suicide though. It is against my faith, and I don't beleive in taking away a life of anyone's or my own. I did take 4 months away from my hubby. Also he recently did go on to anti- depressants, so it calmed him, so he came off. That is not good to depend on either, I know ppl suffering for being on them as well. Now he is working out alot in the gym to help him mentally. No I had premature babies, they didn't make it.

PLS need sincere advice, should i stay or go? my sex life, is there one?

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