Pleasant abortion stories? Just curious girls.

sami · Newbie Joined: 21 Dec 2006 Posts: 15

Hi. I'm a 17 year old girl and I've posted to some of the other pregnancy forums as well. Currently I'm not pregnant and I'm on the pill. But I live in a constant paranoia with the belief that my pill will fail me.

I just wanted to ask anyone who was willing to share any positive abortion stories. I've only read negative ones. My beliefs go either way. And I have a wonderful boyfriend who is only 15. But we have known each other since we were kids. We're true high school sweethearts and we plan on getting married someday.

He endures every pregnancy scare I have and he's boughten me hundreds of tests probably. He takes good care of me and he supports me in any descision I make. If I were to get pregnant, see I DON'T KNOW what decision I could make. Currently my 17 year old step sister is 7 months pregnant and I see she's doing fine. Her family supports her (her mom and dad) and I knowmy family (mom and dad) would definately support me either way.

But when I discussed it with my mom she ultimately put it on the table that she wouldn't WANT me to have an abortion. That she would raise my baby until I could take care of it with my boyfriend. But that still bothers me having a baby at this age. My boyfriend said if I want to keep the baby he will be there for me as always and help our family to grow. And he said if I get an abortion he will support me and take care of me as always and still love me no matter what. (We do plan on having kids when the time is right and we can manage it)

I don't know which option I would choose, and I've heard of such negative abortion tales of the women regretting it and having nightmares and guilt. And my step sister who is 7mos. pregnant always tells me not to get one and that I could handle a baby. I know those women that are guilty and depressed are ones who didn't want the abortion and they were forced into it. But I wouldn't be forced into it and I don't even know what I'd want.

So if anyone has any positive abortion stories and are willing to share, anything to help me straighten out my head would be greatly appriciated.

Thanks!

Guest · Posted: 02/07/07 - 11:33 Post subject:

I have a daughter whom is 13 if she had a choice abortion or college then college it would be. It is not like everyone thinks no one likes to talk about it beacuse it stays in every ones soul like a secret no one wants to be judged or looked diffrent but, I am one who speeks about it. I have had 3 & I have 3 kids also & I am a healthy mother. If my daughter chooses the same I will stand behind her & also stand behind her to raise a baby also, but heck that is hard at 17, even 18,19,20,21. Who are we kidding live life to the fullest make a future to give to your baby.

Guest · Posted: 02/07/07 - 13:28 Post subject:

rather than having numerous pregnancy scares perhaps it would be better to invest in some proper Contraception so that you dont have to worry about either pregancys abortions, or having an argument with your mom over either...

In regard to your mother, you have to make yoru own choices regarding those matters and it is not for her to say that she would look after any baby of yours untill you were ready as this would just cause long term problems,

I have 2 daughters and when and if this sort of thing ever happens i will support whatever choices they make.

Seifer Almasy · Newbie Joined: 07 Feb 2007 Posts: 1

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rather than having numerous pregnancy scares perhaps it would be better to invest in some proper Contraception so that you dont have to worry about either pregancys abortions, or having an argument with your mom over either...

In regard to your mother, you have to make yoru own choices regarding those matters and it is not for her to say that she would look after any baby of yours untill you were ready as this would just cause long term problems,

I have 2 daughters and when and if this sort of thing ever happens i will support whatever choices they make.

Guest · Posted: 02/07/07 - 18:38 Post subject:

What do you mean invest in proper contraception? I'm on the pill already and I take it religiously. My boyfriend and I can't use condoms. And my GYN said there is no need for me to have an IUD or diaphragm (like I wanted) while on the pill. I'm just always afraid it will slip up and fail.

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2725

I have had 3 abortions, and I was on birth control.

I got pregnant 1 time on an IUD even..

I work in an abortion clinic, I am a healthcare field worker =)

AN aboriton takes 3-5 minutes if you are under 12 weeks, and you can be PUT TO SLEEP just like any other surgery, so it is painless.

Obviously if you cannot afford the extra sedation and 'good drugs', you will be awake, and it hurts, but asleep is painless.

I would have another abortion if necessary, mine were easy.

Hizgrace4all · Silver Member Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 196

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2725

YES it is painless. GENERAL ANESTHESIA makes ALL surgery painless. General anesthesia also crosses the placenta into the fetus.

The JAMA, or journal of the american medical association says this about fetal pain...

Context Proposed federal legislation would require physicians to inform women seeking abortions at 20 or more weeks after fertilization that the fetus feels pain and to offer anesthesia administered directly to the fetus. This article examines whether a fetus feels pain and if so, whether safe and effective techniques exist for providing direct fetal anesthesia or analgesia in the context of therapeutic procedures or abortion.

Evidence Acquisition Systematic search of PubMed for English-language articles focusing on human studies related to fetal pain, anesthesia, and analgesia. Included articles studied fetuses of less than 30 weeks’ gestational age or specifically addressed fetal pain perception or nociception. Articles were reviewed for additional references. The search was performed without date limitations and was current as of June 6, 2005.
******* Pay attention to this.
Evidence Synthesis Pain perception requires conscious recognition or awareness of a noxious stimulus. Neither withdrawal reflexes nor hormonal stress responses to invasive procedures prove the existence of fetal pain, because they can be elicited by nonpainful stimuli and occur without conscious cortical processing. Fetal awareness of noxious stimuli requires functional thalamocortical connections. Thalamocortical fibers begin appearing between 23 to 30 weeks’ gestational age, while electroencephalography suggests the capacity for functional pain perception in preterm neonates probably does not exist before 29 or 30 weeks. For fetal surgery, women may receive general anesthesia and/or analgesics intended for placental transfer, and parenteral opioids may be administered to the fetus under direct or sonographic visualization. In these circumstances, administration of anesthesia and analgesia serves purposes unrelated to reduction of fetal pain, including inhibition of fetal movement, prevention of fetal hormonal stress responses, and induction of uterine atony.

Conclusions Evidence regarding the capacity for fetal pain is limited but indicates that fetal perception of pain is unlikely before the third trimester. Little or no evidence addresses the effectiveness of direct fetal anesthetic or analgesic techniques. Similarly, limited or no data exist on the safety of such techniques for pregnant women in the context of abortion. Anesthetic techniques currently used during fetal surgery are not directly applicable to abortion procedures.

HelpfulHeather · Newbie Joined: 07 Dec 2007 Posts: 3

Hi there. I just finished reading the initial post of this and I feel for the girl.

I started having sex at 16 (and before any of you start judging me, BACK OFF! I was in love with him and in fact we're still together after two years.)
I was on the pill for a long time and still had several pregnancy scares.

Unfortunately, after a nasty respiratory illness and a course of antibiotics, (which I was unaware interfere with the Pill), I became pregnant.

I had an abortion at the age of 17, I was 19 weeks pregnant. It took me 19 weeks to work up the courage to tell him.

We told my mother (for the consent) and his father (who agreed to pay for the procedure).

The procedure itself was relatively painless, just uncomfortable. I won't lie, I have cried a few times over it, but I do NOT regret doing what I knew was best for everyone involved, including the fetus. (I grew up knowing my father didn't want me and it kills me).

Now, a freshman at a great college, I know I would never have gotten here with a baby.

I look forward to having kids, if and when I am ready.

Just be careful, but it turns out you do become pregnant, its not the end of the world!!! Just make sure you tell whoever needs to know early on. There is a cutoff time for abortions, you know.

Sorry this was so long! Hope it helped!

lylac19 · Newbie Joined: 07 Dec 2007 Posts: 7

hi sami, i dont have a good abortion story to tell you ..

all i want to say is i told my boyfriend from the every begining i would NEVER have an abortion, i didnt want to kill my baby .. and he understood, i told him how my father wasnt there for me and i didnt want that for my baby .. he said he would never leave me for being pregnant , in fact he wanted one .. we agreeed to wait till i we out of college .. but i ended up gettin pregnant .. he was soo excited he couldnt wait to tell everyone .. then 2 1/2 mo in to the pregnany he begged and begged me to get an abortion that he wasnt ready .. he would litterally cry in my lap .. i refused and refused i knew he would come around after the baby came .. he treathed to break up with me hopeing that would scare me into not having it ...

finally i just gave in and had an abortion .. its been three months since and i cry at least 3 times a week .. my boyfriend regrets lettin me have the abortion ..

- im not saying this would happen to you .. i hope it never does .. but when someone it really terrified they dont do things they normally would ..we are still together .. we love each other very much .. but we both regert it ..

i hope my story helps ..

Ash* 19yr.

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