Please answer...need guidance...bleeding after sex...

malaknajla · Newbie Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 5

I know it's normal to bleed the first few times you have sex, but is it normal for the bleeding to last days? I don't feel any discomfort, so I don't think he injures me. Also, when will I be able to have sex without bleeding?

Jane23 · Supporter Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 470

Women experience bleeding after sex when something is wrong.

Bleeding after intercourse usually lasts for just that one time or maybe for the next one if the hymen has been ruptured completely during the first sexual contact.

Any additional bleeding indicates that a gynecologist should have a look at your inner side and check for possible growths or inflammations.

Appointment at the gynecologist is no big deal. It could be a bit uncomfortable but I usually just relax and imagine something nice. I won’t tell you what! Don’t hesitate to go! The sooner you have it checked and treated, the sooner will you be able to have painless and bloodless intercourse.

Have you started taking birth control pills maybe or are on any medications?

malaknajla · Newbie Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 5

I would have no problem going to the gynecologist except that I do NOT want my mother to find out I've become sexually active. Also, I'm not sure how to go about that process and do not have any money to go to the gynecologist in the first place. It might be different over here from over there cause I live in Puerto Rico...now I'm scared...HELP!

Jane23 · Supporter Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 470

Come on, don’t be scared! Even if you have developed any growths, it is not an emergency, and you have time to think your visit to a gynecologist.

How old are you anyway? These growths usually arise in childbearing age but I would certainly have them checked.

Aren’t you covered by some kind of insurance from your mother’s work or aren’t your parents paying for some kind of medical insurance? How does it work in your country?
You should ask questions about this.

You shouldn’t be paying for these visits unless you want to see a private doctor.
There are so many private gynecologist’s offices and you could talk to your boyfriend about both of you getting some money and having this checked.

Don’t worry too much, take it easy and every thing will be just fine.
Another thing I have just read today. If you have hormonal imbalance and low levels of estrogen, your vaginal wall id the lining that covers the inside of vagina could be sensitive and thin and therefore bleed due to pressure from penis. This too is not such a big deal and can be taken care of.

If you would like to talk, feel free!

Jane23 · Supporter Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 470

malaknajla · Newbie Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 5

I have used protection each and every time I have had sex, with my 20-year-old boyfriend who does have experience. I am not feeling any additional symptoms, but I would like to know what you mean by excessive vaginal discharge.

If I were to go to the doctor, I would need to go to the pediatrician, since I am underage and therefore still need to receive the care of a pediatrician under any medical circumstance. I know my sisters went to a planned parenthood program where they got checked by a gynecologist through the university, so I should have to ask.

Thanks for all your continued help!

Jane23 · Supporter Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 470

Can you talk to your sister about your problems? She may be able to help you regarding where to go and who to see.

Excessive vaginal discharge would be…..a substance from your vagina that may be white, yellow, and colours in between….that leaves marks on your panties, has been present for a longer time…may be sticky but not necessarily and may have an odor

Women experience more discharge for example during ovulation, so sometimes excessive discharge may not indicate anything but sometimes it can show the present of yeast infection for example. But if you have used protection every time, then you have nothing to worry about.

Anyway, back to your real problem….By the way, did you have sex again since we started talking? Did the same thing (bleeding) happen again?

I did some more research and I don’t want to scare you but I found 10 possible reasons for bleeding after intercourse and some of them could be dangerous.

1. Cervical dysplasia, which can be pretty dangerous as it may represent the precancerous stage. In dysplasia, some of the cells in the cervix (the beginning of the uterus) start to change. At risk are those women who have multiple sexual partners, sex before age 18, and childbirth before age 16.
2. Chlamydia, gonorrhea, trichomoniasis, which are all sexually transmitted diseases and treatable. Chlamydia is the most common but if you had used condom, your risk is small. However, sexually transmitted diseases can be transmitted through unprotected oral sex as well.

3. cervical polyps, uterine polyps and fibroids-all of them being growths that grow out of the mucuos layers.

4. endometriosis-happens when the uterus lining grows somewhere else but not in the uterus. You would probably experience other symptoms if you suffered from this disorder. Women have severe pain during periods with this disorder.

5. Yeast infection that can be transmitted both by sex but also from condom use and overgrowth of the friendly bacteria that already lives in the vagina.

You see, these are some of the possible reasons, some of them may be dangerous. This is why I want you to have yourself checked as soon as possible, to get your mind off this problem and so that you can go an early treatment if any of these disorders are present. All of them are treatable, except endometriosis maybe.

Keep me posted! Good luck!

sanchu28 · Newbie Joined: 15 Dec 2006 Posts: 1

hi..my bf and I tried to have sex for the first time. It was very hard and painful and we couldnt do it. So we stopped in between. But from then on, I see drops of blood for the past 4 days and I am very worried about it. I have regular periods and never had any bleeding in between like this. My periods is due only after 2 weeks.

I read through your post and found that there could be many reasons. I see these spots on and off. So I am not sure why this is happening. I am planning to go to a gynac soon but can you advice me on this.

Thank you for your help.

Lily.

kbeezie · Newbie Joined: 20 Jan 2007 Posts: 3

hi, my boyfriend and i tried to have sex also but it hurt too much so we stopped. Im not even sure that he got in all the way. Afterward i was bleeding. I'm also somewhat sore. It was both of our first times and we used protection. I cant go to a gyno because im only 17 and i dont want my parents to find out. I dont know if my hymen is irregular or if this is normal? please help

girlgirlaaa · Newbie Joined: 12 Jul 2008 Posts: 1

i also just had sex for the first time. it hurt for about the first five minutes, and i did end up bleeding, a lot. from what ive heard, however, its normal when its the first time, or the second. now, i have had it for several days after, but it seems more like my period than blood that was coming out from the beginning. it just means that he was a but rough, or you werent used to the size of him, or he was rough, and caused some irritation on the lining. also the first time it breaks the skin that makes you a virgin inside you. im on the pill, and neither of us had an std. THOUGH ON THE PILL, YOU CAN SPOT. reminder there.

if your'e one of these people that panics, like i do, take a deep breath, and relax. its now been my fourth day, and its stopped. just about like a cycly would. so girls, give it a little time before your trying to rush out and let the whole world know you did it with your sweety. dont rush to a gynacologist.

i have a theory that if it lasts, your body may be cleansing its self of the man's presence, or his presence may have just activated the cleansing its self. (you're period) DONT PANIC i've heard it happens. if you dont have abnormal discharg within the month, and it eventually stops, you should be just fine. use a pad.

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