Pregnancy after rape, abortion or not?

ineedanswers87 · Newbie Joined: 27 Jan 2007 Posts: 3

adoption would be best in my opinion.... abortion isnt giving the baby a chance to laugh and grow. Plus, some people that have gotten abortions regret it... It might also hurt you...

Guest · Posted: 01/31/07 - 12:15 Post subject:

if your to young to handle a baby you should put it up for adoption, but don't kill it! if you keep it, though, you will very likely grow to love it <3

Seifer Almasy · Guest

The first thing you have to think about in this situation is you, yourself and not this baby.

I see alot of bible basher replys saying things like god gave you a child but i dont think god was doing much for you when this terrible thing happened to you and at this time you must be do what is best for you and only you.

You must think about how this will affect you, You will have to feel a baby of someone who violated you growing inside you for 9 months and then your going to have to give birth to a baby that was conceived in you being raped not in love, then if you decide to adopt the baby there is teh emotional scaring of giving up a child which on top of being raped might be far to damaging to deal with,

But what if you keep it? when the baby says one day mommy who is my daddy... that is all dragged up again and the pain comes back so i urge you to do what is best for you and if that means an abortion because that is what YOU need to do to cope with what has happened then that is what you must do, Bible bashers leave this poor girl alone, God will be on her side regardless of what she decides.

MommyShan · Newbie Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 21

I am so sorry for you. I was raped at 15yrs old, but I did not to get pregnant.

Personally, I don't think I could have lived with myself if I had an abortion. Because of my beliefs and the way I was raised. It would have been easier for me to have the baby and give it up for adoption. If you don't have the same belief system, then you need to do what feels right for you.

Because of my rape and the trauma that went with it, I missed my next period. It could have just been the stress. Because of the missed period I did think about the possiblity of being pregnant.

Here are somethings to consider:

1. What is your belief on abortion? Has it changed since you got raped? Or do you have different feelings on abortion in different situations?

2. How do you think you would feel after an abortion? Would you be okay with yourself given the situation you were put in? Very important!

3. Do you think you could go through the pregnancy and do everything to insure the baby will be born healthy - if you keep the baby or give it up for adoption?

4. Could you give a baby up for adoption without too much mental stress given the situation?

5. If a close friend came to you in your situation and she....
Said she had an abortion -- would you support her?
Said she was keeping it -- what would you say?
Said she was going to have the baby adopted -- what would you feel?

Basically, it is your decision and you should feel good with whatever you decide.

Guest · Guest

Although abortion may look like the easiest option; many women suffer mentally after an abortion. Some one I know got pregnant at 15 and had an abortion so she could continue with school, but she spent a lot of time in hospital after because of the mental trauma of an abortion so she missed her GCSEs anyway. I'm not saying that giving a child up for adoption is any easier, but you need to consider the consequences of all the options.

ajzdroik · Newbie Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 1

famous · Newbie Joined: 23 Aug 2006 Posts: 35 Location: Arizona

I believe adoption is the right way to go. Since you were raped, most girls wouldn't want to keep the baby becuase of rape is a horrible thing and the child would remind you everyday. Most girls want to forget about rape. Which, having the child, wouldn't help you with. I ,personally, dont believe in abortion. If I were in this place I would give it up for adoption seeing how some people would love to raise a child but aren't able to. Hope this helps.

Guest · Guest

No one should have an abortion. I may not be my place, but I think that it is WRONG for you to kill a innocent life. You don't know what your baby that you aborted would have become. I mean, for all you know, it could've been the person that found a cure for cancer!

Also, it's not the rapist's baby...it's YOUR baby, and it will wonder why you didn't want it. What if your baby would talk to you, and ask you why you didn't want them. What would you say to them? Would you say,"Oh, I just wanted to kill you because I got raped..." That's NO EXCUSE for killing it! I think that we should make it illegal, because it's just WRONG!

We shouldn't keep treating babies like cancer, something we can get rid of with surgery...we should treat them like people...!

What if you were never born, because your parent's decided to have an abortion? How would you feel? Think about it for a moment...

ImmortalOne · Gold Member Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 437

The idea that you feel a woman should be forced to give birth to a child of rape is disturbing to me. Forcing them to give birth to a child that was conceived because of such a horrible act is making the woman a victim again. It is punishing them for another person's actions. It is punishing them for being a victim. Rape isn't an "unlucky" event, and it isn't the victims fault, it is something that happened to them - against their will. It is a violent crime that is not punished hard enough by law enforcement, and it is a crime that runs rampant through our communities. It destroys women, it crumbles their lives, and it brutally strips us of any securities we ever had.

If someone were hit by a car be forced to stand in traffic daily? Would we force a child who was abused by their parents to be placed in a torture camp? If someone was shot in a store robbery by someone would we expect them to feel comfortable even getting milk and bread from a corner store? No, of course not. Why? Because it is wrong for us to do.

Have you been raped? Have you gone through the emotional, physical, and mental trauma of rape? Women who are raped do not "ask for it", nor do they "ask for a baby". Yes some can "cope", or even succeed with being parents of children they gave birth to after rape. However as a rape victim myself, I am appalled that someone would even consider victimizing the victim a second, third, or even possibly for the rest of their lives when they look upon that child.

More over, who will pay for that child? Is the woman who cannot afford a child expected to be forced that financial burden, which can be as oppressive if not more so than the emotional and mental problems associated. Certainly "Daddy" will not be paying child support. Also considering the mental issues associated with the violent act of rape, think of what that will do to a child (both biological issues from the father who committed the CRIME - as well as that the mother must undergo because of someone else's actions).

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

I agree immortal one... Rape is certainly not just an 'unlucky event', it is a horrible crime that no woman should ever have to go through, but we have sick people on this earth.

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