Pregnancy after rape, abortion or not?

corsini · Newbie Joined: 30 Mar 2005 Posts: 16

Hi. I am 2 months pregnant and not thrilled about it. I was raped. I am not sure what do I feel. I would love to have a baby but not like this. I love her and I hate her in the same time. What to do? Abortion or not? What would you do?

beard · Newbie Joined: 29 Jun 2005 Posts: 15

Hi. I have a friend who was raped. She had twins. The kids are great, but I think I would never have a baby this way. Abortion would be my only option. It is heavy, and a big decision, but I haven`t got a single doubt in my mind. I want to have a baby with somebody I love. Is that so wrong? I guess it is hard to keep on with normal living after abortion, at least for a while, but this is how I feel. The decision is all yours.

dearxmariahx · Posted: 01/09/07 - 10:21 Post subject:

Personally, I was raped when I was 15, by my now ex boyfriend. If I would have become pregnant, I would have chosen to have an abortion, because I do not feel as though I would have been ready physically or emotionally to have a baby at that moment. I think that it should really be up to you though, and you need to keep in mind that you should do what's best for you.

Good luck

Guest · Guest

Adoption is another option. While this baby may bring up awful memories for you, he/she could bring much joy and love to a couple who is unable to have a baby.

ImmortalOne · Gold Member Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 437

I agree with the Guest poster. Not to force you to relive or face what happened or be cruel in anyway, I'm a former rape victim myself, but I know that when we (my fiancee' now, not the rapist, and myself) thought I got pregnant from my rape we started looking into adoption, however we also looked into abortion. Thankfully I wasn't pregnant and I received counseling for what happened.

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

I believe that abortion is a deeply personal choice, and one that you should make if you feel like it is right for YOU.

Guest · Guest

i think every woman should toughin up a bit and fight!!! Confused

mll122704 · Newbie Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 10

i think you so put it up for adoption because abortions are wrong. ia m sorry you got raped but to kill a fetus is CRUEL.. I know its not my place to tell you what to do but i think you should keep it because you will fall inlove. Having a kid is the greatest thing in the world..
BUT ITS YOUR CALL... THINK WISE BECAUSE IT WILL HAUNT YOU

.... · Guest

hw dare u sy women should tuffen up! if thy are unlucky and gt raped thy shudnt have to deal with that! i thnk YOU should gt a grip!

Guest · Posted: 01/30/07 - 00:04 Post subject:

How do you think your mental health will fare during the pregnancy? Do the next 7 months look like a big black hole to you, or does it look manageable?
You really have to think about how you will fare emotionally during a pregnancy. Do you worry about crying every night, or do you worry about having violent thoughts? Keep in mind that some women don't feel the full emotional effects of a rape until later on.

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