Problems During Sex And Masturbation

stormy · Silver Member Joined: 20 Jan 2001 Posts: 291

I am 15 years old boy and I have the biggest problem in this world. I started to masturbate few years ago, and I was thinking everything was ok with me. Then, before two days, I had sex for the first time in my life. Off course, we used condom, but I saw the same thing as my girlfriend. My ejaculation occurs so early, and it was obviously I did not know it was coming. Could that normal for boys or I need some help?

polland · Silver Member Joined: 11 May 2000 Posts: 259

There is a point of no return, called the point of inevitability, beyond which ejaculation will occur automatically by itself. If you want to delay an ejaculation, you must learn to control the amount of arousing stimulation. The point is that you control not to reach the point of inevitability before you are ready. Men who experience premature ejaculation frequently question their masculinity and lose confidence in their sexual performance. This is something, which often leads to feelings of lowered self-esteem. The term premature ejaculator itself implies that the man is somehow underdeveloped or not fully mature. That is not actually so true, that is just one of ejaculation problems man could have during sex or masturbation. Therapists, who are talking about this problem, generally prefer the term rapid ejaculator. That is not something that should cause so black thoughts with you, just try to learn control it and your ejaculation problems will not occur, whether you have sex or masturbate.

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i m 20 yr old girl. i had done oral sex wit my boyfriend n now i did'nt get my period on my date so wat the reason fo that?

qwer · Newbie Joined: 07 Jun 2006 Posts: 1 Location: asdf

If you havnt had sex then i have no idea why else your period would be late except for personal problems...Oral sex has nothing to do with when you start your period unless you think your pregnant, which you arnt.

Weam · Newbie Joined: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 2

Hey, I am a 15 year old boy and i have expierenced three times now that during sex i am unable to get an erection, even though i am fine when i masterbate and what not. I started masterbating when i was almost 13 and havent had a problem there. I know it isnt the girls fault either. Can anyone help me on this? It's really starting to bother me.

chad33060 · Newbie Joined: 14 Nov 2006 Posts: 1 Location: fdj

Im a 12 year old boy and I masturbate 2ce a day , My penis size is 3 in when hard and when I masturbate when i get to the ejraculation point , i dont ejraculate i just get a really good feeling and after i get this feeling i cant masturbate for a while because if i touch it , it would feel so good it would hurt again. Also when im hard my tip of my penis is a little purplish PLEASE HELP!!!

mattqatsi (real) · Newbie Joined: 01 Dec 2006 Posts: 1

Weam (15 y.o.) - I experienced this also for a little while, in my case, the problem was depression. Lack of real excitement can cause a reduction in your libido. Plus, I don't know how often you masturbate, but take it easier, once or twice every few days, spread it out, and let your sessions be long, not just a 5 minute jack-off. Make it into something longer, try to hold it in. This stuff will result in an increase in your libido, and ultimately permit you to have a much more fun time.

chad33060 (12 y.o.) - First off, we don't need that much information. Second off, I have experienced this too. wait a little while, masturbation should be fun, not hurtful. Wait till puberty and your hormones kick in more, until then, if you continu what you are doing, you may end up with bruising on your penis, and a case of depression will sink in. Just wait it out.

MCseany · Newbie Joined: 03 Dec 2006 Posts: 1

i am 17 i have been having severe lack of self confidence. i want to make love to my girlfriend of 2 years, she is 15 and goregous. but i have a problem.....in school all my friends take the mick out of people with ginger pubic hair, and i am secretly one of those people, can i dye or bleach them, or should i jst confront my girlfriend?? please help by emailing me at, sean2366@hotmail.co.uk ,i am waiting for your reply!

Weam · Newbie Joined: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 2

Thank you Mattqatsi (real) I dont really jack off all that much anymore either. Maybe like once a day but i will try to break it down alot more. I will also try to make my jack-off's aroound 15-20 miniutes long. But i am just wondering how masterbation would effect me being able to have an erection while with a woman? If i am just fine every time i masterbate why cant i be fine with my girlfriend? Thats really what i am wondering. And yeah, this does result in depression and lack of confidence. Which sucks alot and that might be one of my problems. Do you think you could give me anymore advice on this? If you can email me at Dylan.sourpuss@gmail.com or just add me on MSN..Same email. Thanks for your help.

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