Questions about mastrubating

huch · Newbie Joined: 20 Apr 2005 Posts: 13

Hi everyone,
My name is Susan and I’m 19 y old. I have a boyfriend and we have nice sexual relationship… But, I want it to be even better… So far we did not masturbate each other – we usually have “simple” sex. I’m wondering is it normal to masturbate with your partner? Did anyone here do it?? How you do it?? Will my boyfriend feel embarrassed if I suggest we do it? I’m not experienced in this – please help…

short · Newbie Joined: 20 Apr 2005 Posts: 12

Hi Susan,
It is very nice what you want to do for your boyfriend and for your relationship and sexual life. I personally don’t believe that your boyfriend will have anything against you two mastrubating before making love. In fact, I’m convinced that he also gave a thought on same subject but he just did not find the strength and the moment to share it with you. This is very common, especially in first few months of your “sexual relationship”. (How long have you been together???) Anyway, many couples incorporate mastrubating into their lovemaking and it can be a very rewarding and fun way to express sexual intimacy. Now, you know your boyfriend, but I would suggest the following. Don’t literary ask him weather he wants to masturbate with you before making love – simply do it. During foreplay easily start touching his privates. Don’t immediately start mastrubating - simply gently circle around and up and down his penis. When you see that he’s okay with that and that he likes it, move to faze two - the simple up-and-down motion of your hand on his penis is usually the best way to go. Also, watch his breathing and movements and when you feel he’s getting close to ejaculating, speed up your hand movements.
Well, I hope all this helps… Please let me know how was it and what was his reaction. Best whishes. Meg

Andy & Sarah · Newbie Joined: 13 Sep 2006 Posts: 18

I agree with what meg has said previously. Incorporating masturbation into the first stages of sex (foreplay) will make it eaisier for the both of you as there is nothing worse than being put under preasure by doing someting either yourself or your partner doesnt feel comfortable doing with an audience watching. It all depends on how easy you feel around each other. (speaking from experience) As your relationship continues you will find it could become more open in the way you discuss the things that turn you on e.g incororating toys in foreplay, him spending more time performing acts on you instead of you to him etc etc.

Dont be offended if he doesnt want to masturbate infront of you as men see this act as being quite a private one and one that isnt really spoken about in groups. For example there is a larger proportion of women that openly talk about vibrators etc then there are about men who talk about toys and masterbateing. Needless to say all men do it, some more then others.

I have gotta say that when you first start out it can seem awkward as you dont know how the other person is going to react. You may find that as you pleasure yourself infront of your partner he will become even more aroused and may want to help you out. By doing this you can explore each other and find out what turns you on more. dont be afraid to tell him what you like and most of all dont rush it, take your time.

Hope this helps in some way,

Andy

XjessicaX · Newbie Joined: 17 Nov 2006 Posts: 15

my b/f has recently fingered me. that is a form of masterbation. its completly normal for couples to masterbate each other or have foreplay that i know of. if you and your boyfriend feel its normal it most likley is. and andy &sara are right too. but everyone has there opinons on everything.

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