Hizgrace4all
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 Posted: 10/04/07 - 18:39 Post subject: Re: Relationship |
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| Guest wrote: | | Hi! My name is Poochie and i am very concerned about my relationship. I am a 18 year old female who is inlove with a 26 year old male. i really like this guy, but there is a problem. We have been dating from the past five months, and we have decided to involve in sexual intercourse soon. But there is a problem. He masterbate a lot and also, he watches porn alot. It really annoys me alot. I don't know wat to do. Looking forward for your help. Thanks. |
Hi Poochie,
Well, sounds like you have a pretty decent head on your shoulders, young lady.
From your post, it sounds to me like you are uncomfortable about pornography. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Pornography is extremely addictive... as it is SOOO easy to come across especially with the internet.
Just an observation..... though I dont agree with ANY pornography... I know that sometimes I have heard that sometimes young boys 16-18 will look at it out of curiousity or their own reasons, but that is it.
Your guy is 26, and he is STILL looking at pornography and masturbating. That would be VERY disturbing to me. I know that you mentioned that you have been in a Relationship with him for 5 months, and I know that the smallest of "bonds" begin even. More serious and more heart breaking bonds, in my opinion, happen when sexual intercourse happens. (I know from experience).
Sexual intercourse is a VERY intimate and taboo "joining" to another human soul (in my opinion). Your "gift" is VERY special and should not be taken for granted by another.
From what you mentioned in your post, YOUR OWN sense of what you might understand to be right and your conscience and your heart are clearly "speaking" to you (so to speak). These things were given to you, to help you discern what makes sense and what doesnt.
Sweetie, I am NOT trying to judge your boyfriend or break your little heart, but I would HONESTLY consider not dating him anymore. There may be much deeper issues that you dont know about. Men have their sexual urges, and we do also, but I think that self control should kick in, and they should be able to control those things in a sense.
I have seen time after time of some REALLY serious issues when one person dates another that doesnt agree with this pornography. It is DEFINETELY a strong hold, and can be an addiction.
You know, you might want to try and discuss it with him and tell him how you feel. But use your common sense. Often times people wont admit if they have a problem with it. It doesnt sound healthy to me, and it does sound like your "common sense" is trying to tell you something.
Many blessings to you. Please let us know how you are doing.
Hizgrace |
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