Sexual pleasure and excessive vaginal wetness

I have been told by 2 different gynecologist upon examination that I have a lot of vaginal secretions. I just started dating someone after being in an almost sex-free marriage for 17 years. In the heat of passion he states how wet and hot it is. I do not know if this is a good thing or a turn off to a man? Should I be concerned? I don't want to disappoint him. I will be having a hysterestomy done in a week and I am unsure if I should bring this up

Have your doctors checked the discharge or said why the excessive discharge? It is quite possible that you are having a lot of discharge because you started having a lot of sex or more than you did before.
If your boyfriend is saying that it is wet and hot in the “heat of passion”, then it must be good. I mean, hot is 100% good but if it is too wet, it may not be so good but people are different and different things excite them. You can tell this by his behaviour, if he stops enjoying or continues with the “game”.
Why are you having hysterectomy for? Are you going to remove your ovaries as well? Be careful about hysterectomy and have it only if necessary and no other options are available. It is a nasty procedure especially for someone who is slowly approaching menopause. If not dealt with appropriately, hormonal treatments and so, it could even lead to depression, which happened to my aunt. Look into all possible side effects of hysterectomy, if you haven’t already, so you would know what to expect.
I suppose you should tell him about the surgery.
I hope you don’t mind me asking but I am very interested in what makes two people not have sex when living together. I understand that living with someone can kill the passion but not having sex for 17 years sounds too much for me. Was it him or you, or both? I apologize once again for asking too much but I couldn’t help it.

As far as the new guy I am dating he is the first person I have been with since my ex-husband of 17 years. We have just dated for 2 months and I do not feel comfortable enough in asking him if the fact that I am "too wet" is a problem and he is not getting the maximum sensation.

As far as hardly having sex with my husband, we were both very inexperienced when we got married. He also became very verbally abuseive and negative and ruined any feeling of intimacy on my part. I thought for the longest time that something was wrong with me because I did not want to heva sex with him. I never enjoyed it and never had an orgasm. Now that I started seeing this guy I never knew sex could be so good. But, I am afraid I am not exciting enough. What to do????????

The hysterectomy is for pelvic pain and my ovaries and possibly my cervix will be left intact.
PLease write back.

i need some help,i have got some problems on my vaginal secrations,it smells ugly andit has yellow colour.is this a symptom of stds?

emarie wrote:

As far as the new guy I am dating he is the first person I have been with since my ex-husband of 17 years. We have just dated for 2 months and I do not feel comfortable enough in asking him if the fact that I am "too wet" is a problem and he is not getting the maximum sensation. As far as hardly having sex with my husband, we were both very inexperienced when we got married. He also became very verbally abuseive and negative and ruined any feeling of intimacy on my part. I thought for the longest time that something was wrong with me because I did not want to heva sex with him. I never enjoyed it and never had an orgasm. Now that I started seeing this guy I never knew sex could be so good. But, I am afraid I am not exciting enough. What to do???????? The hysterectomy is for pelvic pain and my ovaries and possibly my cervix will be left intact. PLease write back.

well im young but i must tell you if a man told me that i was hot and wet it would make me feel good because hey thats is a good thing coming from a man and i once heard from an ex that it can never be too wet

Do yourself a favor, get checkout asap. I am in the Medical Field. This could be a bacterial infection or STD. Nothing life threatening. Only if it goes untreated.

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i need some help,i have got some problems on my vaginal secrations,it smells ugly andit has yellow colour.is this a symptom of stds?

I am a 40 year old woman with excessive mucus during intercourse. Honestly this has been going on for years. It is a problem and has been since my early 20s. I have seen every dr. possible and have even been treated for hpv. I do not think this problem is "abnormal" I just think it is my bodies function; However, it has been going on long enough and is causing great grief in my love life!! Is there anything that I can take to cut done on the production of the mucus?

You're having sex and you're not familiar enough to ask if he likes what he's commenting on? Sounds like you might have a really good relationship in the future of no communication, and you could even repeat the first marriage scenario. If you don't open up to someone they can't know you and vice versa. You could say something like "You like that, huh?" while smiling, or even "Is that a good thing?" in a teasing voice. You should definitely try to understand what your partner is saying.