Staying in a bad relationship!!!

simone · Gold Member Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 476

I was wondering what makes us stay although our relationships have fallen apart or are not as good as they were before? I am in a fairly bad relationship. I do love my boyfriend but we don’t get along anymore, we fight often and everything seems so wrong. Every move, his or mine is not good and I often feel like ending but I never do. I can’t explain this! Sex is great and we do love each other but we don’t function well together. Do you think this is good enough reason for breaking up or should we stick to love anyway and good sex?

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I have the same problem v_v

he doesnt physically hurt me or anything.

its hard to explain.....

Ready_Lube · Silver Member Joined: 11 Apr 2006 Posts: 230 Location: AZ

Life is to short to be unhappy or in a relationship that is not all you think it should be. If you feel that you don't work well together then you need to listen to that inner voice and find something better for you. I know it might be hard to make the change but good things are always worth the effort. We all have that little something that tells us when things can and should be another way, pay attention to this feeling and you'll thank yourself!

Many people stay in relationships, jobs whatever way to long becasue it's scary to think of being alone or out of work or what have you. Change is what makes us grow and gain wisdom. You have to think about what you will find and how great it will be when you get there.

I hope this helps you find an anwser to what's been on your mind Smile

Take care!

LadyStorm · Posted: 12/02/06 - 19:23 Post subject:

not like i would no i never been in a serious relationship or anything cause im only 15 but My mom says thats normal in a relaionship its like apart of the relationship and all relationships have there ups and down ur always gonna be fighting and all that stuff. But then again it could be that ur partner or u are getting bored of eahother and wanna try something new but i dont know i could be wrong.

Ready_Lube · Silver Member Joined: 11 Apr 2006 Posts: 230 Location: AZ

Relationships do have there ups and downs but when you have these feelings a lot you have to wonder why you think this way you know.

Only time can tell, but if you find yourself unhappy for a loong time then I say leave...what's the point.

Shane · Newbie Joined: 17 Oct 2006 Posts: 42

I agree with all the above.

Arguments in a relationship is a HEALTHY relationship. Most surveys come back and couples have atleast one serious argument every 2 days.

What I suggest?

I suggest you think way back to the times we're you both loved each over, and when there was no arguments, i.e. when you both started dating each over, the times we're you was at your best and try to do more things like you did then. Try going to the cinema as your the one with the worrys let him have the choice of film cuddle up in the back row a kiss here and there it will bring you closer! then the following week do something different go to a theme park and enjoy yourselves!

I believe when your both in each overs company and your both enjoying yourselves it brings both persons together.

I hope mine aswell as all the above help you in your situation Smile

All the best,
Shane

Nebula · Newbie Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 45 Location: Scotland.

doubled · Newbie Joined: 07 Jan 2007 Posts: 10

It's probably not as bad as it all seems.

Just give it a bit longer.

spraymachine · Newbie Joined: 01 Jan 2007 Posts: 13 Location: Arizona

Maybe we stay in bad relationships because in the back of our minds we remember what we were like without this person in our life and how we felt lonely for however long it was between your last relationships. One of my major reasons for staying in a relationship was because I loved being able to go to my girl friend whenever I felt lonely even the littlest bit.

That and the sex was good... just kidding... I would be perfectly happy being in a relationship and only kissing if I loved the person. Thing about why you are still with the person from a mental point of view instead of a physical "I like the sex" point of view.

yonksbutterfly · Newbie Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 2

Sounds like my marraige. We stay I guess for the kids and possibly because we are too lazy to go through all the trouble of divorcing and splitting up our stuff. I find myself fantasizing about living on my own and actually having a life again. I work fulltime and so does my husband. we have 4 kids together the youngest being 12. All Boys! We do not have sex anymore in fact I have started so many arguements over wanting or the need to just be a woman and not a mother. He justs shuts down so now we hardly speak and I leave him alone and he leaves me alone. Why all this happens I don't know? Why we stay, another mystery. I feel though that when our 12 year old grows up and moves on we will have no reason and someone will give in to the misery and move on. I am sorry for your relationship but I do agree life is too short. My reason's for staying are selfish but they are MINE for now!

Staying in a bad relationship!!!

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