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Aylamarie
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 Posted: 01/17/07 - 19:58 Post subject: Re: can't leave boyfriend even though he treats me badly |
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heya im in the same situation. whats happened is that you have gone past the honey moon stage, what me and my boyfriend do is sit down every now and again and talk about everything thats happened to us during the week concerns and things like that. And if there are things he does that annoy you, im sure there are things you do that annoy him, so tell eachother what it is. Maybe he is insecure the best way of dealing with a bad relationship is talking about it...
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Color of Paper
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| Posted: 01/22/07 - 19:22 Post subject: |
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I was in a relationship that was a 2 year honeymoon. Best thing to ever do is sit down and talk...now you have heard this alot. What I mean by it is sit down and talk about EVERYTHING. For example, me and my ex were having problems becuase of her sexual past that was never spoken of untill later into the relationship (we were already living togheter). Sadly if i would have known about these things I would have never touched this girl. From now on if I think i may be getting serious about someone...they better be ready to talk about the most uncomfortable shit becuase I will never...EVER put myself in that situation again.
"We stay in bad relatinships because we fall in love with what we dont fully understand" |
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lcheese1984
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| Posted: 01/02/08 - 23:22 Post subject: self lost |
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| I just went through a relationship were my ex and i lost our son after being pregnant for 5 months...things became worse as he became a binge alcoholic and our depression got so bad that we pushed each other away. Something makes me think that if we didnt have this loss it would have been easier for us, but he became very verbally abusive to me, so i had to leave. I love him and miss him, but i know that its for the best. I just needs some type of encouragement to know that what i did was right and in the process find myself a little more. |
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Happy Life Space
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| Posted: 05/23/08 - 15:37 Post subject: Hi Simone |
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Hi Simone,
The reason many people stay in "bad" relationships is because they have a fear of change. It is always hard to step out into the unknown especially since you have been so used to sharing your life with someone for so long.
If you know in your heart that you want to leave your current relationship then, it is important to remember that change is not a bad thing. It takes time. Yes, it is always difficult at first because you are so used to living your life with this person, but give yourself plenty of patience and time to adapt to your new way of life. Focusing on the positives and staying optimistic is also the key. So many people revert back to their old relationships because they do not give themselves enough time to adjust to their new life.
If you feel that your relationship is worth staying in and working on - then sit your partner down and talk to him about how you are feeling and tell him that you are at your wits end. See if you can both implement some changes to make your relationship better.
At the end of the day, this is your life. You need to ask yourself if you want to live it in an unhappy state or if you want to make the most of it and live it happier! It is all up to you.
Wishing you all the best.
Cassie
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Queen*pld
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| Posted: 08/07/08 - 09:10 Post subject: Re: can't leave boyfriend even though he treats me badly |
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| Guest wrote: | I have the same problem v_v
he doesnt physically hurt me or anything.
its hard to explain..... |
I totally relate to you. I have a so so boyfriend. We have been a relaitonship for nine years and it seems to never get better. I even have broken off the realtionship before and took him back. It seems as if he takes me for granted but I emotionally don't know how to flush him out of my system. It is amazing how i never thought that someone could have my heart wrapped around their finger and just eat it with no remorse. It seems as if one day he cares the next day he doesn't. How do I get through to him and make him wake up. I guess the answer is I can't I just have to figure out how do I wake up and break away from him. That is the advice I need to move on with my life. I want to be with him but I don't want to suffer in the process. |
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Queen*pld
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| Posted: 08/07/08 - 09:40 Post subject: i understand |
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| I really wish I could give you some magical advice but relationships suck. I have been in one foe nine years and every year it gets harder to let my heart breathe again. I'm always sad when I try to talk to him cause there is no communication. I don't want to control him but he needs self control. I know this may not help very much but if you don't have to much of your life invested then leave him alone. The heart will mess you up everytime you will always accept his lies and deciet while cheating yourself out of happiness. Sex can be great with anyone as long as they are willing to experience it with you. Don't make sex your key factor for staying in this relationship because you will still be unhappy when all is said and done |
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