Sick
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 Posted: 01/09/08 - 17:00 Post subject: Suffering through a painful breakup, boyfriend thinks hes ga |
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Me and my boyfriend broke up because he believes he might be gay.
Well the thing is, hes been suspecting this would happen for the length of almost our entire relationship and now hes left me for another guy. I dont blame him for it or anything, hes been interested in the guy for some time now and he is still trying to figure out his sexuality. He says he is still slightly attracted to me and he still loves me but he wants to try dating guys to see if he prefers it more. This has been causing me alot of pain and i know he feels guilty about it but right now I am more miserable than i've ever been before. This has been my first "real" relationship and my first breakup and its horrible. The relationship itself caused me enough pain but i cant imagine moving on without him. I feel like everything I care about, everything thats important to me is gone. He was my entire world and i cant stand to be miserable and heartbroken while he continues to experiment with other guys. My only hope right now is to wait and see whether he enjoys being with guys more than with me. He says he still loves and cares about me just not really in a physical way. I dont want to move on. I dont want to try to cheer up and be happy and get over this. I would do absolutely anything to have him again, but the possibility that he may never want me back is crushing me.
I feel like i'm drowning in misery. I've always been depressed before and now that this has happened it makes everything else i had to deal with even worse. I am not doing well in school, I feel like I dont fit in with any of my friends and now i'm losing the one person that i felt like i could really talk to, the one person i enjoyed being with more than anyone else. Before this happened I used to have thoughts of suicide. Now they're coming back and I feel like I'm mentally sick.
I dont know what to do about all of this. Should I try talking to him more or should i just try to forget about everything we had, even though at the moment that seems impossible to me. Or, should I wait and see if theres a possibility that he might not be gay afterall? I mean, hes only a teenager and its natural for him to be curious about the same sex as well, but I'm worried that he might just forget about me, lose interest and fall in love with some guy. Please give me advice on how to deal with this, I'm new to dating even though we were together for almost a year, and I dont know what to do about this. |
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clh05e
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| Posted: 01/22/08 - 19:37 Post subject: I went through this too |
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| You are not alone. And supposedly, it happens to lots of people. My first boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago because he is gay. I was completely crushed. And still am a little hurt by it. But if he says he still loves you, then what's the reason in cutting off all ties? He can't help how he feels. And I'm sure he is going through a lot right now also. My ex and I are still great friends. I felt so much like you, you won't even believe. I didn't trust him that he wanted to still stay in my life after he had told me. But he did. And still is. And now that I know this about him, things have been so much better between the two of us than ever before. Knowing the real him is what makes up for it. You just have to accept him for who he is. I know it's hard right now. But just trust me. I've had the same issues with suicide and such. I made it...haven't found someone new yet. But I'm doing okay. I know you will too. You just have to hang in there. Email me if you'd like. clh05e@fsu.edu. I'd be glad to talk. I know it's hard to find people who have been in a similar situation. |
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