Verbal abusive husband what should I do?

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My Husband and I have been married just over a year. He can be the sweetest loving affectioniate person, but when he takes things I say the wrong way or if he gets anoyed with me he very quickly starts cussing at me telling me off over and over. He has a history of his Father being abusive to his Mother. He finially reconized a few months ago that he has issues and then read a work book on the topic. (This is after he pushed me down on our bed screaming in my face) I thought things were getting better and we have this rule of no cussing in the house to keep things on a better level so he won't be so tempted to escalate the situation with me. I don't know what to do. I'm in my late 30's and would like to start a family and we have been trying (here and there) but I start to wonder if he is the right person for me. Tonight he didn't seem to get that what he did with the cussing at me over and over to the point I curled up in a ball in the bathroom sobing, he wasn't remorseful. He likes to try to make a point with me that I need to understand what I did wrong to upset him. No one knows this goes on my Parents I think know something was going on a few months ago but I act like nothing is wrong (and usually things are ok) I can't talk to any of my friends about it. Help

lty_patt · Posted: 12/28/07 - 10:39 Post subject:

You don't need to start a family with anyone who abuses in anyway shape or form. It all depends on how much you are willing to take from him. when he yells and screams at you and you do nothing but cry he sees that you aren't going to do anything about it. If i was in your situation i would tell him to pack his bags and get out. if he didn't leave then i would. YOU are not his mother, there for you don't need to put up with the crap that his father put his mother through regardless of how much you love him. By leaving him, you are opening up his eyes and showing him that his behavior WILL NOT be tollerated anylonger. you then might be able to come upon a compromise with him that if he get's help you will come back but ONLY if he does that. would you want him yelling at your baby like that because it wouldn't stop crying while he was trying to sleep or something along those lines? I hope not

Verbal abusive husband what should I do?

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