Virgin female masterbaition question dealing with "toy

If you are a virgin then your hymen is probably intact and is stopping you pushing the dildo in.

but im scared...

i was a virgin when i bought a dildo to try out, however i was in a relationship (long distance.. but i'm not here to tell my life story, but i'll get to the relevance lol) anyway, i was so excited to try it out and was expecting it to feel great and fabulous and all that. IT WASN'T FUN AT ALL. =/ i tried on several more occasions, but i felt like it wasn't going in all the way, etc.

then, a few months later, my boyfriend came to visit me, and we of course, ended up having sex. his penis is bigger around than the dildo, but it went in no problem, no pain and with no lube.

after he left, i decided to give the dildo another chance. but, to my suprise, it STILL WOULDN'T GO IN PROPERLY. and i was DEFINITELY not a virgin anymore. it just doesn't feel good to me at all. so, now i'm contemplating just tossing the thing. lol.

to me, besides the point about your hymen, i think it might be the dildo. they just aren't flexible like the real thing, and when you try to insert it yourself, you're most likely at a bad angle to get it in correctly.

if you really are dead set on using a dildo, try getting one smaller than you'd think. and spend a bit extra, because the materials might be higher quality and easier to deal with. perhaps try a small vibrator, in combination with a plain dildo. the vibrating mechanism in mine certainly kept it from being flexible..