Wanting to get pregnant immediately after abortion

just_curious · Newbie Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 1

I came across this post while I was searching for answers regarding pregnancy after abortion. I know it is an old post, but feel I must add my own remarks. I am a 37 year old single mother of 2. I have a 15 year old and an 12 year old. I have a professional career and am the typical PTA, soccer mom, volunteer and have really enjoy every moment of parenthood. I was married to my childrens father for 15 years and have been on my own with my children for the last 9. Honestly during the time of divorce until two years I dated no one. I refused to have my children become sterotypical products of a divorced family. So I dove in and put my personal life on hold. Until 3 years ago. I started just sleeping with someone, we all have needs and I realized I was neglecting mine. I got pregnant and the bottom line is that I was not in the situation then to have another child and abortion was the only option that came into mind. I never told the guy I was pregnant and self induced the abortion using misoprostol. I never looked back and from that point on stopped seeing him. My body rejects most B/C pills so I cannot take them. I use the old fashioned method to know when I am ovaluting, sometimes I'm a little off. A year and a half ago, a new man came into my life that I have grown to love. We share a wonderful life together and he's great with my two children. I feel my body recently defied nature and I ended up pregnant. I figure I was only a month along, he was excited more than I. All I could think of was the fact that I am a 37 year old single parent and I live a comfortable life, but to bring another child into that would disrupt the balance I have created for us. All I could think of was that I'd be left alone to raise another child by myself and could not imagine being a struggling 40 year old single parent with a child in diapers. So I did the unthinkable and whipped out the misoprost once again. I did it so consciencously without remorse and was quit happy to have it over. Until now... my partner is very saddened over what he thinks was a miscarriage and now I find myself wondering what it was all for? I also find myself reading these articles about possible pregnancy after abortion. I was shocked to find myself agreeing with him to start trying to have another. What is wrong with me???? Mainly I just needed to vent here.... but I agree with whomever wrote about the mental issues. I am nowhere near crazy or ever thought, until now. It's only been a week since I aborted, but here I sit ready to do it all again. Am I really? Or am I just feeling quilty that I took something from him he desparately wanted. The saddest part is that he doesn't even know the truth. I do love him, he is my life and though we've not talked marriage, we have talked life together until we're old an grey. Deep down inside I do not want to start over with a baby at my age, but I would love to have a piece of us to share. If I were to have a baby I am really concerned over the two abortions I have had, both were self induced with no complications. But I am afraid that having them along with my age puts me at risks for low birth weight or god forbid defects... which I guess would be "karma" for my actions.

Sharon02 · Newbie Joined: 12 Jan 2008 Posts: 6

When I read that you had an abortion just recently and are having sex a week later to try to get pregnant again, I shock my head in anger towards you, it doesn't seem there is sad emotions there or heart. Why don't you take a few months to think about if you really want to get pregnant again immediately. It sounds like you had the abortion out of an inconvenience and then right away maybe regret and trying to make up for what you did, but that is only what I can assume, you did say much. There is nothing in your message to state your emotions or feelings. If it was health related issued for the abortion, most people would probably be emotional enough to admit that and everyone else could understand. But all of us can not read what you are feeling, you just came off sounding very selfish and I admit I don't want to be a person to help you. If I am getting your message read wrong then I apologize.

I had an abortion 21 years ago, it's not something that I have forgotten about. I was taken advantage of at a very young age. I had my appendix taken out 3 weeks after getting pregnant (I had no idea I was pregnant). Then a few months later, I found out I was pregnant. I was told the best thing I could do is have an abortion due to having my appendix out and at the age of 17 years old, I listen to those health clinic people. I have regretted my decision ever since. I took away a life that was inside of me. That life didn't have a voice for itself, because of me. I will always deeply regret what I have done, why I listen to my elders. I was just too young to know better and by listening, I thought it was the best thing, but for myself, it wasn't.

I just can't give anyone advice who had an abortion with no regrets.

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What is wrong with people today? A baby is a HUMAN LIFE NOT A CLUMP OF CELLS that you can just disregard and forget about and go on with your day. IT'S NOT A CHOICE. You made your CHOICE when you CHOSE to have unprotected sex. IT'S MURDER and it should be AGAINST THE LAW. God blessed you with a child already and you killed it. You don't deserve to have anymore children. May God have mercy on your soul.

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For all the people responding on here in a negative way...ask yourself this shall you cast the first stone in a house of glass?
You need to remember your choices compared to other women are just that YOUR choice! And to refrain from your verbal abuse that you should use a filter when speaking to others. Treat others as you would want to be treated! Who are you to condemn another person for the state of her mental, physical or emotional state at the time of abortion? And if she chooses to have another baby right away then that should make her mentally unstable? Let her be the judge of herself not you! If you have so much negative rage within yourself maybe you should seek help for this. We don't need more negative energy in this world we need forgiveness and love. Swallow your tongue before speaking next time!

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I had an abortion because I felt I was not ready for another child. My boyfriend and I have 3 already and I got scared and terminated the pregnancy. It was a horrible experience and I regret it and am now desperate to get pregnant again. Any advice. It has been two months with no luck. I feel empty all the time because abortion was something I never agreed with.

swanny1979 · Newbie Joined: 09 May 2008 Posts: 2

Wanting to get pregnant immediately after abortion

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