What Are Abortion Side Effects?

Carifairy · Veteran Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 2727

It is not up to HER to be YOUR miracle.

It is noones job to have babies for infertile couples.

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I'm a college student researching for a paper, when I came across this discussion. I read through a lot of the posts and really was struck by one thing -- has anyone noticed a common thread? It's all about you. What's best for me and my body. I point this out even to those who are defending pro-life. I'm not going to argue about facts or statistics or data, but think about it. Whether abortion is, or is not, totally harmless, it seems our decisions are being based upon self. "This is not a suitable time for me to have a baby, so therefore I must abort." or "There might be risk of breast cancer for metherefore I won't abort" Maybe we need to stop thinking about ourselves so much, and take a step back and ask questions in light of another human being now being in the equation.

Carifairy, I read in one of your posts that you've had 3 abortions. I'm sorry. I say that not to anger you or be sarcastic or anything. I really mean it. I know you say you are happy with your decision, but all your comments seem to carry a tone of anger along with them. Sometimes we hang onto our beliefs so hard, because if there was any chance we could be wrong, that would mean our decisions were wrong too. I hope you can really let go of all the facts, data, the past, etc. for a minute, and just let yourself feel your real emotions and let God speak His truth to your heart.

God bless you!

ravinchik247 · Newbie Joined: 14 Sep 2007 Posts: 2

saying that every person is going to feel one way about making a decision like this is absurd. we are all very different people with very different experiences and views. it can't be said that later complications with pregnancy can be directly linked to post abortion side effects. what we do in our daily lives effects a pregnancy. maybe you drank too much coffee, maybe you didn't get enough rest, maybe your stressed out about whatever else is going on your life, maybe your going thru a dramatic physical change cuz you found out your pregnant, maybe you didn't know you were pregnant and used a lot of drugs, maybe physically you can get pregnant but are not physically able to carry a baby to term. all these factors can contribute to complications in pregnancy and most commonly miscarriage. ask any obgyn. unless you take the mother out of society as we know it, which will never happen and is utterly impossible, it can't be said that a past abortion is the main reason for what happens during a pregnany later in life. but if your going to have one over and over again, maybe it's time to explore other options like birth control

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i live in a town where they advertise abortion on every lamp post, get real, as if God likes murder.

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Hello,
i am here just to state my experience, I got pregnant the first time I had sex with my long time boyfriend when I was 20 years old, I was in college, did not have a lot of money and was not in any situation to have a baby. After researching, I decided to have an abortion. I am 25 years old now, I am engaged planning my wedding with another loving guy I have been with for the past 3 years. For me, having an abortion was the best decision I have ever made, I have no regrets whatsoever and have not been affected by my decision in any negative way. My life has gone on just the way it would have if I would have never got pregnant. I am pro-choice and pro-education, I have not been pregnant since and have used birth control correctly since. I think everyone will have a different experience and it is up to you and your loved ones on what to decide. For me, it was the best choice and now I will be able to have a baby in the future with my husband and give it the love, attention and support it deserves. Unexpected things in life happen and we should have the choice to decide how to handle them, as long as you learn from the past. Good luck to those out there struggling with this decision, remember whether you decide to have an abortion or not, things will only get better as time goes on. The decision you make is right for you and you have to believe in that.

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I may or may not be pregnant, I am 2 weeks late however
I am on birth control and took it through a vacation last month
so obviously skipped my previous period. I was sexually active
before my last pill and now I'm taking the sugar pills waiting to
get my period. I'm not sure if I'm pregnant and if I am I am aware
of all of my options and I would like some more information about
some of my options such as abotion and adoption.

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I just found out today that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I've read through most of these posts and I feel like everyone just wants to argue their opinion, without really much concern for what happens if you keep the baby.

I am 21, a broke college student, my partner is not in a good financial position and I have no family support whatsoever.

I dont want to give up my child, but how will I be able to provide for my child?

The counselor said I can give it up for abortion... why would a mother go through 9 months with a baby in her womb to simply give it up ??

Another thought... If I keep the child, how much will I be able to participate in the childs life?

All of you who are in support of keeping the child and anti-abortion... think about the childs life afterward... is it worth it to give a child a miserable life? Dont get me wrong. I would love to keep my baby if I could, but I know I wont be able to provide it with the life it deserves.

If a mother is able to provide for her child, then by all means I think she should keep it and there is no reason to abort it, but otherwise... it will be very difficult to get by.

I believe every woman knows whats best for her and no one else should decide for her or impose their opinions. It's her body, she's taking the risk and honestly, for all of you who side with faith... the mother will be responsible... so let her decide.

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The fact of the matter is that absolutely every single case of abortions and reasons to abort lies solely within the woman herself. It's very true that abortions can cause psychological side-effects; but it is also extremely common for women who carried out their pregnancies have psychologically 'rejected' their children and feel a sense of resent because they feel they were "forced" upon them. So, what is worse - having an abortion, or being a mentally distraught parent with a child to care for? Of course, that is not to say that it has to be one or the other - this is a simple comparison of psychological side effects of abortion vs. parenthood on a very surface level.

I do not believe in abortion as a form of birth control in the "I had unprotected sex but oops, I can't deal with a baby so better get rid of it" sense - you weren't careful, so OWN UP. However it's true that birth control is only 99% effective; and if you are taking every single birth control method and you still find yourself caught in that 1% of people, you are in an unstable time in your life, etc. - you really need to ask yourself some serious questions. Parenthood is NOT something to be taken lightly; and I know of far too many parents of all ages who got in over their head and completely failed in owning up to it; therefore ruining the lives of their children.

I do believe that "babies don't ask to be made" - but sometimes even the most careful adult can fall 99% against the average and "didn't ask to have a baby."

And also, to the supreme genius who suggested that abortions can cause handicapped babies for future pregnancies... are you kidding me? Do you even understand the process of an abortion vs. the process of baby growth? Or even a basic understanding of what creates a handicap?

Long story short, do NOT allow anyone to make your decision for you but yourself. You don't have to answer to anyone but yourself.

Calm · Newbie Joined: 26 May 2008 Posts: 1

kpanda · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2008 Posts: 1

It's really frustrating to see some of the posts in here where people ask others if they have feelings, or if they have respect for human life. Get off of your high horse, please. You're no better than anyone else just because you don't agree with abortion. And for those of you who feel that this has nothing to do with women's rights, I feel that it completely does. How would you like it if a stranger came to your home and set down rules that you had to follow. But it's your home? You should be able to do what you want with it...right? It's the same concept. It's an invasion of privacy. It is none of your business to intrude on someone's life and tell them what they can and cannot do with certain things.

If you don't agree with abortion, that's perfectly fine. It's your decision and you have every right not to practice it. But you have no say in other people's decisions. If someone feels that they need to have an abortion, hey, they should be able to go for it. It's their life, their situation, their body. Get over it. Get on with your life. Do you care about the well being of a homeless person? Do you stop on the street and try to help them? How many time a day do you actually worry about poverty here and in different countries? I think I can safely say that many of you probably don't at all. I'm sure you go on with your lives and hardly give any thought to these kinds of problems. This is not to say that it's wrong. You can't blame someone for not being so aware about these kinds of things. It's hard to worry about them when you yourself are a human being and have your own issues to take care of. But, let's not get too hasty on an unborn fetus and being SO inclined to do right by them when you probably don't even do right by most of the people in this world. Respect for human life, anyone?

I also want to point out the people in this forum that claim every single woman has emotional issues after an abortion and regret doing it. Where do you get your information? Do you talk to people on the street? Do you talk to people you know who've had the procedure done? Are you just talking about what you've been through? You have to remember that there are billions of people in this world, and roughly half of them are women. Then you have to think about how many of those women have had an abortion. I'm sure the number is off the charts. It is completely impossible to assume that every single one of them have these kinds of issues after such a procedure. Every single person reacts differently to different situations.

I've had one abortion which was pretty recent and I am happy to say that I was perfectly fine them and am perfectly fine now. I am happy with my decision. I do not regret it at all. This is not to say I have no heart, or feelings, or respect. I have all the respect in the world. But, this was the right decision for me. I was only 20 when I had this done, and am now 21. I know for a fact that right now, having a child isn't even an option for me. Something like that seems to be a huge life changing event. There is so much responsibility involved, money, and time. And that's not something that I could do right now. Also, when I was pregnant (which lasted about over a month), I was completely miserable. I was moody, I felt sick all the time, and I was overwhelmingly exhausted every second of the day. I would not have lasted any longer with that kind of condition. It was worth it to me to get this done. For my well being and the well being of others. So now what do you have to say about your claim? I'm not every single woman...

It's just something to think about...

What Are Abortion Side Effects?

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