Why do you cheat?

KevDS · Posted: 08/28/07 - 22:13 Post subject:

I have never cheated on any of my girlfriends. I have been cheated on. I have also been the 'other guy' (not proud of it). No sane person cheats in a fulfilling relationship. People that are afraid to be alone cheat more often. Being single is not an option for these people. They move from one relationship into another.. cheating on both sides until ready to dump either chump. Cheating is selfish, disrespectful, immoral, and above all, hurtful/damaging. If you feel the need to cheat, have some stones and end your relationship. If you really love the person you are with, make an effort to address the problems in your relationship and get the spark back. If you want to shatter and destroy people, be a loser and cheat on someone that loves you.

Don't want to be cheated on? Don't get with someone who had a bf/gf when you got together. What goes around comes around!

miserylovescompany · Newbie Joined: 15 Oct 2007 Posts: 3

First off I would like to say that I think it unfair for people to be so harsh in calling people selfish , disgusting etc.
You cannot judge people so quickly. You first need to be in there shoes to understand why. By nature we are not monogomus. It is just something that is expected. Now when you Marry or become involved, yes I agree there is a level of respect to that relationship. But you can look at so many relationships that are open and you may find they are the happiest.. like I said may. I think if people were more open with themselves sexually and what they wanted from their partners and explored with respect of each other , people are less likely to cheat.
I have cheated several different times , with different people and in different times in my life. I know what the reasons are, I cannot say they are good ones. I am not proud of my actions , but I have to say I do find it so hard not to cheat. Everything you get from it at the moment feels so good, but it also does have its negative side, the guilt, the idea of what you did is forever, etc. I am not for cheating, but I will also never judge anyone for doing it.

Polish23 · Newbie Joined: 15 Jul 2007 Posts: 3

That is completely irrelevant. You know what people are that cheat? Animals, with no concept of real love. Animals are the ones that act based on instinct. Humans act based on love and reason. You are pathetic, and even worse, blind to the fact of it. And if you think humans arent monogomous by nature, then you dont believe in love and are already a walking shell of a human being, and have resigned the greatest thing in life, which is a deep connection with another, and i am wasting my time typing this. I feel sorry for you.

lty_patt · Posted: 12/28/07 - 10:56 Post subject:

It was proven that people who have secret relationships on the side just for sex, marrages last longer. It's only human nature to want variety, and when you find someone you love and have been together a long time that variety fades away and you have a hard time getting it back into the relation ship. It really is a sticky topic to talk about because people have all sorts of openions about it. If it helps your relationship and you can honestly sit there and say you can see a positive change in your relationship with your spouse then go for it. but if you are just doing it because you aren't getting anything at all from your bf, gf, or spouse cut that relationship loose. you are causing more harm than good in that situation.

UPwithlife · Newbie Joined: 13 Mar 2008 Posts: 7

People cheat for a number of reasons but the reasons that men cheat and women cheat are two different cats.

1. Women cheat because they have lost themselves and want to feel alive again. Their partner may bring the bacon home and maybe even be great for most everything....but something is missing. Most of the time its the children that turn a woman from a vibrant sexy lady into the little tubs of goo, no makeup, weight gain, bad night shirts. Partner finds them mundane and unattractive. Women want to be oogled at, found sexy, exciting and love to be flirted with. Women go find what they are missing.

2. Men cheat because it is simply exciting and new. No more to be said...pretty much sums it up.

If you look at others in the "I want her/him way" then you have no business being in a relationship. Be single. Love is not that "high" feeling in the beginning of the relationship. Love is the respect, admiration, comfort and security of knowing there is someone who looks at you with the same eyes. How can you ever be bored and want someone else if you are with your best friend?

User91 · Newbie Joined: 19 Jun 2008 Posts: 6

i cheated so many times after my first "true" relationship.
i was dating this guy, and we started of well, be stick together, and everything was fine and dandy, then he began to work and he slowly started to change, he was more morose and when we would talk he would put the blame on me and toyed with me emotionally. this affected me greatly, and it was showing by the way i was acting around friends and family, i went completely depressed. then another guy came, i was still in the relationship, i really loved that guy but guy 2 came and he started to get attached to me, then we both were messing around. i though what are the chances of getting caught, but really there were many, my boy friend's friend found out and completely embarrassed me in front of everyone. i did in fact dated guy 2, but things did not worked out because at the time he just got out off a relationship and saw me as a replacement. guy 1 and i ended up breaking up, and getting back together so many times after but guy 2 was not going to give up. finally after me and guy one did not work out i was left a mess, i felt bad, because guy 1 played the guilt card on me and started to put more pressure onto me, telling me how i was the cause of his addiction, he never loved me, etc. i met guy 3, we dated and i cheated on him with guy 2, i felt ashamed that i kept on cheating, guy 3 accepted it and remained with me longer, i still cheated, we had to break up because he went to the Navy and began his boot camp training. me and guy 2 dated, it was great and all, at times i would get bored of him and decide to ignore him, more like treating him like a dog, he was a flirtatious guy, and well at many occasions he began to play with other women breast in front of me, thats when a new me began to develop. i started treating him like a dog, i cheated on him and later told him, we were on and off. then guy 3 comes back, actually makes contact with me, and we began to kick it off again, we dated again, guy 2 was devastated, but he never gives up, i ended up cheating on guy 2 again, don't tell him till later, when i actually do tell him i made sure to include the fact that he is in the Navy and we barely talked or were able to see each other, he understood, but still claims he loves me and wants to be with me. guy 4, i haven't dated, but sometimes it feels like we are, he wants to be with me after all i done in my past relationships, the only problem with guy 4 is his past. he is also known as a cheater, there was this weekend he slept over, and we were sexually active throughout the whole weekend. guy 4 was the reason i broke up with guy 3, 2 weeks later guy 4 confesses that he has not been home for the whole week, he tells me how earlier through out the week he was sexually active with 2 other girls before me. i was mad, of course, and it really got to me, this is never going to stop, i can't trust guy 4, but i do admit he is great in bed. guy 2, guy 3 and guy 4, i've been very active with all, i am not dating, and i hate this new thing. i can't control myself half the times, and i can't seem to stop, i want to but apparently i can't destroy what i created. i've become completely different, i can be described as an a**hole, i like to make the guys i am involve with now feel like they are wrong, toy with them, confuse them. but in the end i hate it, the cheating and confusion, it kills me in the inside.

bonita__ · Newbie Joined: 10 Jul 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Toronto

I cheated because my ex-boyfriend wasn't there for me, and I was unsatisfied with our sex life. I seen him once a week, and when I wanted to talk on the phone he would always be too busy for me. When we did have sex it sucked, it lasted about 15minutes and there was no foreplay. I started talking to other guys because they gave me more attention than he did, and eventually I ended up cheating on him. I felt horrible about it. I will never cheat again no mattter what because it's not worth it in the end.

Franciz · Newbie Joined: 06 Oct 2008 Posts: 22

Cheating has simple but unacceptable reason: Unsatisfied on a relationship.

If you are unhappy with your current relationship, why dont you break up?

Franciz · Newbie Joined: 06 Oct 2008 Posts: 22

Some cheat because they are unhappy on their present relationship, but still keeping it...

Why do you cheat?

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