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Ste · Newbie Joined: 06 Mar 2007 Posts: 96

OK, I have noticed that all of the posts on this forum say pretty much the same things.

Can masturbation make me impotent?
Can masturbation ruin my potency / sex drive?
Can it affect my penis size?
Can it cause sores?
Is it causing my headaches or whatever else?
Blah blah blah. Same things over and over.

Right, stop posting the same things. READ other posts first.

Here are your answers.

Masturbation has NO NEGATIVE EFFECT on you. Physically or mentally. Those people who tell you that it does are either religious nuts, misinformed or they are people who like to blame masturbation for whatever problem they have instead of dealing with the real issues in their life. Is someone masturbates and can't get a stiffy, that's not BECAUSE you masturbate. It could be many other things. Don't be stupid and blame masturbation cos that's crap.

The only ways it can be harmful are:

- If you spend ALL DAY in your room and never talk to anyone else then you will not have good social skills. This isn't just cos you're up their wanking. if you are always on a video game or playing with Barbie dolls then the same thing can happen.

- Your arm will ache if you overdo it. Same with ANY physical activity.

- You could possibly get friction pain if you overdo it. Try some lube.

- You could possibly get a little dehydrated fromt he excersion and spunking. Drink throughout the day. This is, again, not an effect of masturbation, but of any physical activity.

- You could try something stupid like getting your dick caught in the hoover or getting a can of deodorant stuck inside your arse or vagina. That's just dumb.

I'm sure there are a couple more, but my point is that masturbation itself is healthy. If you neglect other activities, requirements and common sense because of it then that's stupid. It doesn't have to be that you are wanking though. If you KNIT for a week without stopping, it might start to hurt. It goes for anything.

If you have a pain or discharge, lumps, rash or anythign else like that or you think you might be pregnant then SEE A DOCTOR. It's not because you wank. It is something else and your GP should be able to help witht at. They won't be shy, so you shouldn't be either. They see all sorts all of the time. It also won't affect girls periods if they wank.

Masturbation being a sin. In my opinion, all you need to accomplish in life is being a good person. Don't harm yourself and don't harm others. You don't need to be strict about saying certain words on certain days and denying yourself pleasure. It's all a load of rubbish. Everyone wanks. The priest who is telling you off for wanking is probably having a good old tug why he listens to you confess. Chill out. We're humans; not robots.

Yes, 99% of men wank and I think the number would be nearly as high (if not the same) for women. Most people wank. Some people start at 5, some at 12, some at 18. You are never too young. You may not be able to cum til you are a little older (18 or more for some people), but you won't be harming yourself if you have a fiddle. I must say that 5 year olds wanking seems a bit worrying, but I'm sure alot of us used to hump our matresses when we were little cos it felt nice. It's aphysical pleasure, not a sexual urge.

If you masturbate with a friend, it doesn't NECESSARILY make you gay or bi. People have curiosities that need to be satisfied. If you are not turned oon by watching your mate then you are straight. Get over it. Even if you are turned on, you don't need to label yourself. Take it on a person to person basis. Some people will be attracted to only ONE person of the same sex in their life time. Soem like both, some like just the same, some like just the opposite. It doesn't matter. You don't have to call yourself anything special cos of who you fancy. Even if you experimented with someone of the same gender. What IS WRONG though, is to deny it to yourself. Just accept it. It really isn't a big deal.

Instructions on wanking. Everyone wanks differently. Alot of people just do the traditional up down hand movement (for guys), but alot do all sorts of things. I had a partner who used to shake his dick about til he came. Bizarre, but it worked for him. Same for girls. Just do what feels good. Learning HOW to get yourself off is often 50% of the point for girls.

Those who are after ways to STOP masturbating. You are stupid. Everyone does it, it feels good and you need to have an outlet for your urges. If you are getting laid daily then fine, but if you don't get any sex for 6 months at a time then you NEED to wank to keep yourself sane. It is also unhealthy not to ejaculate for really long periods of time.

A few of you are posting about unwanted sexual advances. If you don't feel comfortable tell them so. If you feel unsafe, tell somebody. A parent, teacher or maybe even the police if it is serious.

hope this answered alot of questions and that we have some more interesting posts from now on cos reading the same question in 50 posts is stupid and will ruin the forum.

adamse2 · Newbie Joined: 09 Mar 2008 Posts: 1

First of all, it is perfectly healthy to refrain from orgasm/ejaculation. It's a personal preference, not a health issue. You may enjoy it, and I'm sure it does, indeed, relieve stress for you; masturbation, however, isn't inherently NECESSARY. I'm speaking from the point of view of someone who actually agrees with you - but only in part. I understand what you're saying. I once felt the same way about masturbation, and thought that I NEEDED it. I later found out, however, that masturbation/orgasm wasn't something that came naturally - I wanted to masturbate because of the lusting I did. It's pretty simple. Once I stopped lusting, which is hard to at times, my urges decreased, and I found that masturbation wasn't inherent. Long story short, I understand what you're saying, but I ultimately disagree. I am a Christian, but I'm hardly a nut. I agree with that it says in the Bible about abstaining from sexuality before marriage. That's my personal decision. I can live without masturbation quite easily once I taught myself to live a life without lust. I set my thoughts to more worthwhile, productive thoughts. It can be done, but only with motivation, patience, and more importantly, prayer. God is an awesome God, a being who wants to help us, not harm us or ruin our lives. He has reserved this sexual feeling to be experienced in marriage. If we exploit the gift now, it will inevitably lost its appeal. He has good plans for us, even if our culturally trained mind can't see that at first. He even says in Jeremiah that he has plan "not to harm you. I have plans to give you a future filled with hope" (Jeremiah 29:11).
Take care!

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