anal intercourse with a guy

Sorry I have put this in the sexual health discussion forum but know ones has replied so here goes:
Hi people!
Im really confused on this one. Im not gay, well I dont think so, but I keep having sexual thoughts about having anal intercourse with a guy; I also like the idea of other oral activities. I also have a long term girlfriend but I cant seem to get used to the idea and I know she will not understand on this one. Trust me, she recjected me big time on trying anal.

I dont want to cheat but I want to try it I think but im so confused! Im sure my mind will be made up if i decide to do it. Also whats the lowdown on the whole safety issue?

Please help!!

Woz

PS, i dont like to idea of kissing or cuddling guys!!

Woz,

I think you're thinking too often on anal sex, therefore you don't choose whose anal hole. Your imagination turn into "every possible anal hole". You don't feel sympathy with guys, so I think you're not a hidden homosexual, more a man who's continuously trying to get his thing into someone's anal hole

I suggest you to visit a brothel, and to find and pay the person for such pleasure. I think it's the best way to find out what a great feeling is to get your little friend into anal world

PS
How old are you? How couldn't you talk to your lady about that? Try to show her some anal porns, maybe she'll change her mind!

Im 23 and I have asked my girlfriend about trying it out for which she totally hates the idea of having her shit pushed lol!

So she just doesn't understand this really. I have been speaking to a guy who has the similiar case, he feels he wants to try it, has a gf aswell but he also doesn't like the idea of kissing. I feel bad for cheating but it makes me horny thinking about it, but after I just think, no its not for me!!

Mr Confused here i think!!

Woz

Hey Woz,

Anal activities in sex are less talked about, and make many people feel more than a little uncomfortable. This is mainly because of the taboos about the butt, of course, and not because there's anything wrong with it.

In fact, there is a unique form of pleasure to be gotten from anal stimulation, for a guy or girl. For men this is because of the prostate, which is an important sexual organ and can only be directly stimulated through anal contact, and on women it is because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, making the sensation different and sometimes actually stronger.

Anal sex is not always the #1 favorite, but it is certainly high on the list for many people, and can be a fun change of pace for almost anyone who isn't bothered too much by the taboos against it.

You said you cannot bring your girlfriend to do it. I think you need to inform her about it. Here are a few basics about anal sex.

You need to be sensitive, I mean this in several different ways.

First, it's that taboo thing, again. There is a reasonable chance that your partner have already thought of it, and were afraid to bring it up themselves, but there's also a chance the idea would horrify them, like in your case. Hopefully your relationship already involves open, relaxed, and frank discussion about sex, or else you probably should work on that long before you worry about testing the waters on this subject.

Second, the anus really isn't meant to be entered. Don't get me wrong; humans aren't really meant to fly, either...I'm not saying it's bad, I'm just saying you have to bear these little facts in mind. One should be very gentle when experimenting with these things.

An important example is never...ever try it on your lover for the first time without them expecting it, especially if we're talking about penetration with a penis or similarly large object. Trust me on this, please. If you've ever had a really big, hard BM (Bowel Movement), that was really painful, that's nothing compared to being caught off-guard by this. Not only are there better ways to go about it, but you may never get the chance to try again, if they're upset enough.

I can give you some instructions, but first you need to bring up your lady to do it, otherwise it won't be possible, except you try it with a man, but in that case you need also to know a lot of things before you do it.

Are you ready for this? Think about it and talk to your parnter first.

Thanks for the replys and im very grateful for the time it has taken you!

I have tried talking to her about anal sex, saying we could do it this way, that way etc but its just NO NO NO straight out.

"Its not natural"
"Its not made to put your dick in"
etc etc, as you can imagine.

I do feel guilty as I do love her and I know im not gay but the thought of trying is a turn on and I do fancy partaking in oral activities. I really dont want to hurt her and I dont like keeping the truth from her!

Keep the replys going please its helping me a lot!

Thanks again

Woz

You can try to rim your girlfriend. If she likes the anal stimulation with your tounge she may let you try anal sex afterwards.

Dont push her to hard on the topic. If she wants to do it with you then she will bring it up since she knows you really want to try it. If you do get the chance to try anal sex be sure to have lots of personal lube around, I perfer Ready Lube, lube will help anal sex become very fun and less painfull.

Start off slow and do not slam it in there, lol, take your time and listen to her and everything should be fine.

Ok, here is the thing. You cannot push her too hard. On the other hand, she should be willing to at least read up or find info on the matter. If this is something you really want to do with her, you may want to suggest reading together on anal sex. You could also tell her you would be gentle and go slow. You would buy some good Lube and if she didnt like it, you would stop. There are also the graduated balls with a handle on the end to prep her anus. There are also numbing creams too. I know of one called anal ease. It is only 10 dollars and may be just what you need. ***web & email addresses not allowed*** I know they carry a variety of lubrications and graduated beads.

Now, if she is not willing, you may have to find someone who is. Why do you feel you would have to turn to a gay male for anal sex? You could find a Woman. You might have to pay for the services though. If your Girl friend is mature enough, she will get over the whole poop thing. Just remember to be very careful not to give her an infection! Dont go from penetrating her anus straight to her vagina! Do not use a finger in her anus and then use the same finger in her vagina!! Even if she finds she enjoys anal stimulation, she will not like the infection she will have to go to the Doctor and explain! Also, when you enter her anus for the first time, even with a lot of lube, it will sting/hurt slightly. If you want success, use your finger before you insert your penis. Use a smaller finger and test the water. She will know better of what to expect if she allows you to put your penis in. You might want to offer her some wine to help her relax too. Relax and lots of lube, my last suggestions to you.

Good luck!
Pixie

I think you need to seek mental help as soon as possible. I think you may have a disease some prominent physicians describe as gay or homosexual. You might be having thoughts of a male member or a hairy anus. These thoughts might seem appealing to you. Having intercourse in a place that otherwise is meant for feces to exit, I admit sounds rather scrumpdidiliumptious!! But we need to control our neanderthalithic urges and stick to hitting women ( or men in your case) over the head with wooden clubs. Anyway, I have to get back to my religious fan club mail.

woz wrote:

Sorry I have put this in the sexual health discussion forum but know ones has replied so here goes: Hi people! Im really confused on this one. Im not gay, well I dont think so, but I keep having sexual thoughts about having anal intercourse with a guy; I also like the idea of other oral activities. I also have a long term girlfriend but I cant seem to get used to the idea and I know she will not understand on this one. Trust me, she recjected me big time on trying anal. I dont want to cheat but I want to try it I think but im so confused! Im sure my mind will be made up if i decide to do it. Also whats the lowdown on the whole safety issue? Please help!! Woz PS, i dont like to idea of kissing or cuddling guys!!

Having intercoures with a guy is not health you really should find a girl who will do it becouse there is lot's of girls out there who do it