
At some point, you have probably heard someone -- perhaps even a school or community or health group -- say that condoms are not effective when it comes to safer sex and preventing the spread of sexually transmitted disease and infection. Unfortunately, some myths are propagated about condom use in this way. Before I go further, I have listed a few photos of these particular STIs, do not look at them if it causes distress. I believe it is necessary to show you what STIs look like, to educate.
You might hear someone say that latex condoms have "holes" in them which are small enough to let disease, infection or semen through. This is very much not so. You may have heard someone say that condoms aren't at all effective because they break all of the time. This is also not often the case. In fact, when used correctly, and for ALL genital and/or oral contact, it's actually quite rare for good quality condoms to break.
However, myths and misinformation aside, there are instances in which condom use alone - or the use of dental dams and gloves -- cannot offer the level of STD and STI protection they can in other instances, with STDs and STIs which are transmitted not via fluid exchange, but by skin-to-skin contact, namely two of the most common STIs, HPV and Herpes.
A condom does not cover the entire genital area, and these infections are transmitted via sores or warts (which may or may not always be visible or readily apparent) and by contact with parts of the genitals NOT covered by the condom (in other words, the genital anatomy besides the penile shaft and vaginal canal). Condom use for vaginal, oral or anal sex and dental dam use for anal/oral play or female oral sex certainly DOES make a difference, and cut the chances of transmitting or contracting those infections (and others for which condoms and latex barriers are greatly effective). But it's important to realize that in the cases of infections like HPV and Herpes, safer sex tools and practices cannot provide complete protection.
In other words, even when using condoms, dams or gloves, you may still be at a substantial risk of transmitting or contracting HPV (genital warts) or HSV-2 (genital herpes).
HPV is likely the most common STD among young, sexually active people. At any one time, an estimated 20 million people in the United States have genital HPV infections that can be transmitted to others. Every year, about 5.5 million people acquire a genital HPV infection (CDC). A recent U.S. study among female college students found that an average of 14 percent became infected with genital HPV each year. About 43 percent of the women in the study were infected with HPV during the three-year study period (Ho, 1998). Typical prevalence of HPV for women under the age of 25 is between 28 and 46 percent (Burk, 1996; Bauer, 1991). Most estimates suggest that one out of every three sexually active young adults may carry HPV, yet far fewer have visible, active warts they could recognize or self-diagnose (as little as only 1-2%), though they are infected and CAN and likely will still transmit HPV. HPV can cause cervical cancer and make a person with the infection more susceptible to other infectious diseases, like HIV. It is not yet curable. Some people may shed the virus, but there is no accurate way of knowing who has and who has not.
So what is HPV?
HPV stands for HUMAN PAPILLOMA VIRUS. There are more than 30 different known strains of HPV that are genital, many of which are potentially cancerous, and some which are direct causes of cervical cancer, which kills 7,000 women each year. HPV is often called genital warts, because when it is externally symptomatic, it appears as tiny cauliflower-like warts on the genitals. However, in most cases, HPV shows no external symptoms, though it is still present and highly contagious, and unfortunately, condoms do not offer complete protection against HPV. About 20 million people, in the United States alone, carry this virus, if this is the scale of it in the US, think of the scale in the wider world!
How is it spread?
HPV is spread through skin-to-skin or mucous membrane contact during oral, vaginal anal or manual sex.
What are its symptoms?
- small, cauliflower-like warts on the vulva, vagina, anus, penis, inside the urethra, or in the throat.
How is it diagnosed?
Through a microscopic exam of tissue samples (taken during a gynecological or urological exam) and the visual examination of warts, if they are present. For women, a PAP smear may reveal precancerous conditions caused by HPV. When a visual exam is not sufficient, a colposcope (a special magnifying instrument) can help to detect HPV.
Is it treatable?
Warts can be removed by various methods, namely by being frozen off (cryotherapy) or burned off (electrocauterized), via use of a patient-applied solution, dissolved with acid solutions, or removed by laser surgery. Overall, those methods are relatively painless, and are usually done in your gynaecologist’s office, not in a hospital. Which method is used depends on the patient, the availability of methods, and the particular warts and strain in question.
Is it curable?
No. Even when the warts are removed, the virus is still present in the body, and can be transmitted to partners when no warts are present, and cause long-term health problems like cervical cancer. Some people may, however, shed the virus over time.
Can it effect fertility?
If HPV causes cervical cancer, yes. HPV can also be transmitted to an infant during childbirth.
Can it cause death?
HPV can cause cervical cancer, which can be fatal.
While warts are not always present or visible, they may appear and are a clear symptom of HPV. To see what genital warts may look like, I have a few photos (note, the photos are explicit, and do represent more severe, not mild, cases of infection -- in new cases, warts may appear just one at a time, rather than in clusters of many as shown)
Case 1 (a female):

Case 2 (male warts):
HSV-2 -- Genital Herpes
It is one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases in the United States, with as many as one million people in the United States becoming infected each year. While genital herpes continues to spread across all social, economic, racial and ethnic boundaries, prevalence of infection increased most dramatically in teens and young adults in the late 1980s and early 1990s (Fleming, 1997). In a national household survey, less than 10 percent of people who tested positive with herpes knew they were infected (Fleming, 1997 - from the CDC). 45 million people are infected with genital herpes, about one in every five people have it. In addition, HSV-1 (oral herpes) is carried by about one in two people in the United States (that's at least 50%), and can be spread via oral or oral/genital contact, creating a genital herpes infection with HSV-1. Like HPV, there is currently no cure for herpes infections.
So, what is HSV?
There are two types of the Herpes Simplex Virus: Simplex I and Simplex II. Simplex I usually infects the mouth (cold sores are Herpes Simplex I) , and Simplex II usually infects the genitals. However, both types can be transmitted sexually (through kissing and oral sex as well as through skin and genital contact), and HS I is not limited to the mouth area. It can also sometimes cause genital-area or anal-area lesions. Herpes is one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases in the United States and United Kingdom. About one in five people are infected with genital herpes.
How is it spread?
Herpes viruses are spread by contact between an infected area of the body and an uninfected, susceptible area of an uninfected person's body. This means that herpes can be spread from ANY affected part of the body: penis, vulva, anus, mouth, lips/face, etc. If virus from an active sore is on a hand or an object, it can also be transmitted that way -- for instance, a person with cold sores could wipe their mouth with their fingers, then perform manual sex on an uninfected person and infect them that way. It can even be transmitted from hand to eye. Ouch.
Sexually, it can be spread by vaginal anal or oral intercourse, manual sex, and general touch or kissing. Herpes is most contagious when one person with the disease has an active sore, however it may also be spread when no sores are visible or perceived to be present.
What are its symptoms?
- A rash or blisters that recur in small clusters that may be seen on the vulva, vagina or cervix, on the penis, buttocks or anus, or on the mouth and other areas of the body. It is generally itchy, sore or painful.
- The first occurrence of herpes may also cause itching or burning while urinating, swollen glands, fever, headache, loss of appetite, and general lethargy or tiredness. These first symptoms usually occur within one month of the initial transmission, but a rash may not be visible or occur for years afterward.
How is it diagnosed?
A doctor or clinicians sampling of an active sore can only accurately diagnose it.
Is it treatable?
Herpes symptoms and outbreaks can be reduced with medication, but the disease still remains in the body even when treated.
Is it curable?
There is currently no cure for any form of the Herpes virus.
Can it effect fertility?
Herpes generally does not affect fertility for either men or women. However, herpes can cause severe problems for newborns, especially if birth occurs during an outbreak of active sores or lesions. Herpes infection can potentially cause miscarriage or stillbirth, or chronic health problems and developmental disabilities in a live birth.
Is it fatal?! NO
How can we protect against it?
People with herpes should NOT have physical sexual contact (vaginal or anal intercourse, oral intercourse, manual intercourse, kissing, etc) with others when the sores are present or when they can feel the sensations are present that signal an approaching outbreak. Because people can have herpes infection without having a viasble rash or outbreak, and because condoms only offer limited protection from herpes (since herpes can infect areas of skin not covered by condoms), both sexual partners should be tested BEFORE any sexual intimacy of any sort, and safer sex should ALWAYS be practiced.
What does herpes look like?
To see what herpes sores may look like on men or women, see the following (note, the photos are explicit, and do represent more severe, not mild, cases of infection-- in new cases, sores may appear just one at a time, rather than in clusters of many as shown)::
Case1 (female with ulcers):

Case2 (male with ulcers):
This does NOT mean the smart thing to do is to say,
"Then why bother with safer sex?" and not practice at all, because there are both other diseases and infections out there they
DO offer protection from, and use
DOES decrease your risk of contracting HPV and Herpes as well.
I don't say these things to scare you, but rather so that you can make informed choices. And the truth right now in time is that should you choose to engage in manual ("hand jobs" or "fingering"), oral ("giving head" or "eating out"), vaginal or anal sex right now, even when you do so safely (with safer sex practices and regular testing for you and your partner, and by limiting the number of partners), you are taking a sizable risk of contracting HPV or Herpes Simplex. While both of these infections can be treated -- and thus, you can reduce or decrease your symptoms -- they cannot be cured. So, while one can feel just fine with either infection in many cases with certain treatments and medications, the infection itself in most cases does not go away and remains transmissible to all the sexual partners of an infected person (and in the case of oral Herpes, can also be, and is, transmitted by nonsexual contact as well). If you know you or a partner have either of these infections, even with safer sex, you have a profound risk of contracting or transmitting them.
HPV and Herpes infections become further complicated by the fact that there are presently not good tests or screenings, which can be done to discover either accurately in many cases unless there are active sores or warts, which are visible. Such is the case in terms of HPV, where there often are not visible symptoms, especially in men (and attempting to screen for HPV in men is notoriously ineffective), and in women as well -- or unless an infection has created other symptoms or complications in the body.
What's the answer?
There isn't an easy one. In most cases, if you simply chose to abstain from all sexual activities, forever, you could likely avoid HPV and HSV-2. But very few people are going to do that, and we do have to consider in making sexual choices how they will impact our quality of life. Cutting off sexual or affectionate contact with all people, or with sexual partners within reasonable limits (those of their and our own physical, emotional safety and health, in general) for all of our lives would, for most of us, greatly impact and reduce our quality of life, potentially more than an infection would.
But to make informed choices, we should consider that even with safer sex practices in play -- even with only one sexual partner -- we may still be taking a substantial risk at contracting or transmitting skin-to-skin STDs and STIs.
If you're going to be sexually active knowing and accepting that, then there are some steps you can take to help heighten your safety levels:
- Practice safer sex, especially for oral, vaginal and manual sex. Practicing safer sex protects you greatly from all STDs and STIs, and even in terms of HPV and Herpes, using condoms alone does decrease your risk.
- Read up on skin-to-skin STDs and STIs to find out what noticeable symptoms might be, and have yourself and your partner(s) be on the lookout for those symptoms, primarily: warts, which often are small, whitish or pinkish, and raised with a cauliflower-like texture, and Herpes zoster sores which look a bit like red, raw blisters (see examples of both above), or may crust over slightly on the top. In addition, at the sign of any unusual itching burning or tingling of the genitals, check in with your doctor. As well, don't accept that a lack of symptoms or partners for intercourse means you or your partner are not carrying any STDs or STIs -- that is simply not intelligent. Instead, have annual or biannual sexual health visits at your local clinic, or with your OB/GYN and get full STD and STI screens, without fail, at least every year.
- Reduce the number of sexual partners you have. This is not a ploy to say everyone needs to be or should be monogamous. However, if you are with sexual partners who you cannot trust, do now know well, and with whom you cannot both check in on your sexual health together and with your doctors openly and regularly, you are greatly increasing your risks. Math alone is enough to tell us that keeping track of all of those things between two or three people just over one year can be a serious challenge -- trying to do it for real with more can be difficult if not impossible for most people.
- Don’t let ignorance or denial drive your car. Thinking you and yours can't have HPV, Herpes or any other infection doesn't offer any protection, and it can't make existing infections, or the likelihood of transmitting them, go away. Sizing up your risk factors for these things is a Big Life Decision. You wouldn't blow off similar life choices that could impact the rest of your life, like finishing high school, or becoming pregnant, so be just as wise here. take the time to give these things thought, and really weigh your options, needs and wants. It's your choice, but only if you actively make it.
Authors comments:
I know in showing these pictures, I could be severely told off and maybe kicked off this site. BUT, there are so many people out there who have genital warts or herpes and dont know how to deal with it, they panic. Often not going to the doctor because they are scared. It is my job to raise awareness, keep yourself and your partner safe. USE SAFER SEX.