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Mar 16, 2007
How to Effectively Communicate With Your Kids
by Lori
 For every parent it is important to get help and information how to deal with common parenting challenges and problems. Normally we all want to raise happy and healthy kids. However, we all know by communicating with your children this includes more than just talking to them. So how could we learn to communicate effectively with our kids?Communication with our kidsIt is important that what you say get through to your kids, and you must make sure they really understand what you are saying. In order to have true effective communication, there has to be an exchange of thoughts, ideas and feelings from one mind to another between you and your kids. The greatest amount of stress on the lines of communication between parents and their children come during period of their adolescence, also known as the teenage years. It is unrealistic for parents to expect that because their lives are relatively trouble free. Numerous things go into establishing, and keeping the lines of communication operating properly. Before a baby can understand speech parents must communicate to it feelings of security and feeling of love. If this continues as the child grows, then this will help to strengthen the lines of communication between you and your kids. Of course, we all know this is not an easy takes. One thing that you must do at a young age is encourage your child to be expressive, very important factor for their happy life. Children have a need to learn and they crave the attention and time of their parents. Child may burst into the room and excitedly begin relating some event to his father or mother as most of us experienced. If we cut the child off with an irritated voice or make some other angry expression, their enthusiasm will crush. Childish chatter may not seem to convey much, but by encouraging natural expression from your children, you may prevent them later in life from keeping to themselves things that you want and also need to know. Politeness and courtesy contribute to good and effective communication with your kids. What is most important to communicate effectively with your kids?Very important thing you will want to keep in mind is to be patient and have self-control during communication with your kids. Adolescence as heavy period for effective communicationAdolescence is a very difficult time for your children since their bodies are undergoing changes, and these can affect their emotions. Your approach to their problems may have to change within time. It is also very important for parents to take the initiative to start a conversation. This will not be an easy task for those who have not kept the lines of communication open with their children during past years. When your child finally does become a teenager, you want really to take the time to understand their needs and wants. It will not be the same as when they were young children because it is much harder to communicate effectively with teenager then with kids. It is the best to think back to when you were young and try to put yourself in their shoes. Most young adults want to feel needed and appreciated, so you should also expect to have some measure of resistance to restrictions that will need to implement as they approach their teenager years. Do not let your authority be ignored or overruled during communication. Keep in mind this is for your children’s own good. When problems do arise, it is important that you try to understand and not make major issues out of minor things they are complaining. Beside this, you should not let another person’s opinion affect the way you raise your children. You know your child best, and no one should be able to communicate with them better than you are. You have the power and control over your children, but it must be reinforced by knowledge and understanding of your kid. You will make mistakes, every parent does, but what is important is how you handle these mistakes. Working with feeling of guiltHave not we heard so many times how parents are talking with their kids, trying to get feeling of guilt? For example, parents commonly says they kid should be ashamed of their selves; they did not do anything of value all summer, all they do is lay around watching television, eating junk food, and leaving messes in the family room. Furthermore, parents keep telling how their poor mother works her fingers to the bone cleaning up after them. How they do not have any respect or level of feeling for your mother, and if they do, you do not show it. How their mother is a good woman and does not deserve treating the way you treat her. Then parents say if they do see her gray hairs, and where they suppose those come from. After this, how they are going to be the death or their mother the way they ignore her efforts. Their mother loves them so much and they treat her as she is invisible and if anything ever happened to her, they would be sorry. The fact is many parents do the same to manipulate their children into behaving in a desired fashion. He dispensed a huge dose of guilt hoping this might help in effective communication. What we should also avoid in communication with our kids?Sentences such as our kids ought to be ashamed of them, something they do will make us feel bad, or what the neighbors will think, you should not use in effective communication. |
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