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Most people can use their anger in appropriate ways in some situations, and yet be ineffectual in others. Anger is probably the most poorly handled emotion in our society. From time to time, all of us experience this powerful feeling. There are several possible causes of anger and some of the most common are hurt; frustration; annoyance; harassment; disappointment; and threat.
Anger can be our friend or enemy, depending on the way in which we choose to express it. A failure to recognize and understand one's anger can lead to a variety of personal difficulties.
What exactly is anger?
Anger is one of the basic emotions we feel. It's perfectly ok to be angry at times but anger must be released in the right way. Many things may make a person angry. You may get angry when something doesn't go your way, or maybe you can get mad at yourself when you don't understand something you’ve heard. There is no rule, although it could be said that when ever you have a hard time reaching a goal you might become frustrated. That frustration can lead to anger. But it's also possible to get angry and not even know why.
Coping with anger
Some experts believe that suppressed anger is an underlying cause of both anxiety and depression. It is proven that anger can affect thinking and behavior patterns, and create a variety of physical problems, such as:
- high blood pressure,
- heart problems,
- skin disorders,
- digestive problems
Some tips anger management
- Experts are suggesting that monitoring your cynical thoughts will teach you about the frequency and kinds of situations that provoke you.
- Acknowledge any problems in coping with anger.
- Seek the support of important people in your life in coping with your anger
- By monitoring your anger-situations you will be able to realize when and where you are having aggressive thoughts,
- Put yourself in the other person's shoes which will help you gain a different perspective.
- Learn how to laugh at yourself and see humor in situations.
- Learn how to relax.
- It is also important that you practice trusting other people.
- Good listening skills improve communication and can facilitate trusting feelings between people.
- Learn how to assert yourself. Try to explain to people what is bothering you about their behavior and why.
- If you live each day as if it were your last, you will realize that life is too short to get angry over everything.
- Forgive the people that sometimes maybe angry you
What exactly is anxiety?
Anxiety is considered to be a complex combination of negative emotions that includes fear, apprehension and worry, and is often accompanied by physical sensations such as palpitations, nausea, chest pain and shortness of breath. Anxiety is often described as having 4 components:
Cognitive component - The cognitive component entails expectation of a diffuse and uncertain danger.
Somatic component - Somatically the body is getting prepared to deal with threat (known as an emergency reaction); blood pressure and heart rate are increased, sweating is increased, blood flow to the major muscle groups is increased and immune and digestive system functions are inhibited. Externally, somatic signs of anxiety may include pale skin, sweating, trembling, and pupillary dilation.
Emotional component - Emotionally, anxiety causes a sense of dread or panic and physically causes nausea, and chills.
Behavioral components - Behaviorally, both voluntary and involuntary behaviors may arise directed at escaping or avoiding the source of anxiety. These behaviors are frequent and often maladaptive, being most extreme in anxiety disorders.