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Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anybody and it’s not just isolated to women. Yet, this horrible problem is often overlooked, denied, or excused. Often the signs of someone being abused are subtle and the victim will dismiss questions and shrug off concerns, it’s because he or she is embarrassed or fearful, and doesn’t want to admit there is anything wrong.
Abuse is not only limited to same sex marriages or relationships. This is an issue that doesn’t discriminate and it can occur in a gay or lesbian relationships too.
Nobody should have to live in fear of somebody they love. If you think someone you know may be in an abusive relationship, there are some things you need to know and there are ways you can help.
Abuse is all about gaining and maintaining control over another person. Read on to find out more information about abusive relationships and how to determine if you are in one or not.
Name Calling And Berating
Name calling is an attempt to make someone feel bad and to lower their self-esteem. Verbal berating and name calling puts the abuser in a position of being a bully and makes the victim feel unworthy, self-conscious and hurt. Words wound the heart, stay with the person and reverberate through their consciousness to make them feel bad about themselves.
It’s not uncommon for an abuser to go through a victims personal belongings to look for information. Other types of controlling behavior include spying on a person, showing up unexpectedly when the individual is out with friends, and calling constantly or texting when you aren’t together. These behaviors are examples of mistrust, jealousy and control. If you are having your privacy invaded and can’t have friends of your own, have your whereabouts or phone calls tracked or questioned-you are being abused.
When your partner or spouse takes your paycheck and doesn’t allow you any money for necessities, it’s a way of controlling you and keeping you reliant on them. If you don’t have money for food, clothing or other needs, your abuser is controlling you to keep you dependent on them so you won’t leave. There are ways you can leave and when you do, you take your money with you and the abuser will soon move onto his or her next victim.