bleeding after losing virginity

deathangel · Newbie Joined: 02 Jun 2007 Posts: 2

yeh the same thing happened to me, i lost my viginity and he was larger than average, it did really hurt, and we had to stop before he climaxed because i was bleeding too much, but afterwards it didnt hurt at all. but my period did come about 3 weeks late, i thought i was pregnant. but it sounds like other people have been having the same issues, so i feel better about it now.

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Someone posted earlier that if your hymen doesn't break that you are still a virgin, and if it does than you aren't a virgin. This is a wake up call to that person and for anyone who needs to know this. The way you loose your virginity is when a penis enters the vagina. Some girls have flexible hymens that stays there for a long time before it reputures. Hymen is in know way connected to virginity.

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I'm reading that people aren't using condoms. Please use condoms, it is important for your health in two ways: protecting you from STI's and pregnancy. Even if you love the person use a condom, and don't have sex without one. Also don't think that just because you are takign birthcontrol pills that you don't need to use condoms. Once again condoms are your friends. Even if you both are virgins too.

Courttney · Newbie Joined: 01 Sep 2007 Posts: 1

Reading some of these posts make me sad. Girls losing their virginity's at 13, 14, and 15 years old? Wow. I promise you this (speaking as a 25 year old), there is NO RUSH to losing your virginity. It may seem like "everyone's doing it" in high school, but this couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, it's quite respected if you don't lose your virginity until you're older. I promise. A handful of my friends who indulged in promiscuous activities as teenagers, ended up regretting their behavior years later when they discovered how truly special "it" is. (This could also lean into a whole self-esteem talk, but I'm not going there right now.)

Okay, moving on to the non-virgins. Pain and bleeding is completely normal, even days later. That seems to be the main concern of most these posts. If you don't bleed or experience pain, that's okay too. You're just lucky that you're designed in such a way that you don't have to experience all the pain others must go through! But onto a serious note... PLEASE USE PROTECTION. If you're old enough to handle the responsibilities of having sex, then you're old enough to know how serious it is to have unprotected sex. Very serious. With all the STDs going around now, why risk it? It's stupid, immature, and dangerous NOT to protect yourself.

(Quick note: A few of my friends who were promiscuous teenagers now have STDs. If you wanna stereotype, they don't look like how you think they would. Beautiful, intelligent, (very) successful 20 somethings who now have embarrassing problems. My other friends who waited until they were older and involved serious relationships, never experienced such hardships! Be careful!)

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after reading about everyone else's bleeding and all, I don't think I wan to lose my virginity, I'm keeping it for as long as I can! I'll just be like Elizabeth I.

John_K · Newbie Joined: 06 Dec 2007 Posts: 1

Thankyou for all your honest descriptions of the bleeding and pain from having sex for the first time.

I'm 24 and Sarah is 22 and saving sex till I get married in 9 days!!! Me and my fiancee are both virgins. We've read a book by Lahaye "The act of marriage" that's given us amazing advise. I've read that the PAIN can make sex miserable for the women... and it can be avoided.
1. Lubricating the penis before incertion is very important... many women don't produce enough vaginal fluid to prevent what feels like road rash.
2. Also, Lahaye mentions that forplay is very important for up to 15minutes before sex... if the woman is tense (not relaxed) then the pain is so much worse. She should be as relaxed as possible. During foreplay... rubbing her clit until the inner skin (labia) is swollen and the hood is covering the clit. This is verrry important for the women to enjoy love making.... it'll stimulate the clitoris (the organ of intense pleasure).
3. The man should be on his back for couples having sex the first time. This allows the woman to be incontrol of the thrusts and know what she can handle.
4. Orgasim is not likely going to happen the first time. You should make goals like:
-first- the man should gently rub her clitoris until orgasm is reached
-second- reach orgasm while having sex (at different times)
-third- reach orgasm from sex at the same time (the man and the women experience it the same time)

I'm praying that me and my soon to be wife will have all kinds of joy giving ourselves to each other on our wedding night. I need to be understanding that sex will be painful the first time for her, and that my orgasm can be reached other ways. And remember that she should be relaxed NOT tense to enjoy sex the most.

Saving sex till marriage is worth it!

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There is a way to make this process less painful. But it’s not easy. The key is to mix pleasure and pain. This is for men who want to make it as pleasant as possible for girls, who decides to loose there virginity. And what you are about to read is all from personal experience.

I am not very experienced, but I never had sex with a virgin before. I knew that most women feel pain at this point, but I figured, that if I’ll prepare her body with a help of good foreplay and if I’ll make her orgasm at the same time as I’ll penetrate her – the pleasure from orgasm will overpower the pain. So it did. She still felt the pain, but it wasn’t all that unpleasant.

How to make her feel orgasm when she never had sex before? I knew that only small number of women feel orgasm just from intercourse, so it was all about clitoris stimulation. Oral sex is the best at this point if you know how.

Hope that helps

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This has been wonderfully helpful. I'm still a virgin and i'm 18 so i've been feeling a lot of pressure lately, none of my friends are virgins and a few guys have been tailing after mine. I have felt like i was the only one that was left but hearing that others are still waiting till a good age truly comforts me. To be honest i was just talking with one of the guys tonight and he said loosing it doesn't hurt but for the first few minutes, and i'm glad i decided to read about it first. hes a good guy dont get me wrong but honestly men just cant understand what this is for women.
Also not to be out of place but John_k you have given me hope to kind men in the world. it honestly brought me the most comfort our of all the posts was to know men like you are around.
Thank you.

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hi I`m 18 and me and my friend were playing just for fun and she pushed the marker into my ovary and when che took it out it was alittle bloody and after when I cleaned myself it bluid abit and after few minuts it was done I`m scare that if I lost my virginity.it burns alittle when I go for pee but it doesn`t heart at all thanks.

ice princess · Newbie Joined: 05 Jan 2008 Posts: 1

I'm 19 and a virgin. I'm proud of it.
This may sound lame for others but I also never had a boyfriend.
It's not so much a big deal in my culture if you don't have one.
Although 19 is also old enough and most of my friends are in a relationship too. Not to be conceited or anything but I'm one of the most popular girl in school. I'm saying this to tell you that's it's perfectly okay to wait Smile

Pressuring yourself would get you nowhere.

It will only happen once.

It's a matter of choice. Good luck Very Happy

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