bleeding after losing virginity

fallenangel81 · Newbie Joined: 06 Jan 2008 Posts: 1

I've had sex a couple of times. The first time I bled but not a lot and it wasn't painful at all. The 2nd time I didn't bleed and I had sex last night and I noticed blood on my guy's leg. I realized I was bleeding so much that we decided to stop. He thought there was something wrong with me. But then he told me that he probably which he broke my hymen which he assumed wasn't broken the last time I had sex. I'm still bleeding but not as much as last night.

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I'm 23 and I lost my virginity about 3 weeks ago, and yeah it was really painful, and he was a little above average, I had to ask him to stop. There was a lot of blood, I bled for two days after that, and when I went to pee it burned like crazy. When I start healing it itched a little. It took me about a week to fully healed. I haven't had sex but that one time. Hopefully next time would be better.

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I was reading through some posts and I noticed that Someone mentioned being worried about pregnancy but her boyfriend had "pulled out". Just wanted to mention that "pulling out" is not a very effective way to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Its too easy for a stray swimmer to get in! Find a better method of birth control, or at least use a condom.

gguz88 · Newbie Joined: 11 Feb 2008 Posts: 5

Ive had sex with a virgin before who didn't bleed when we had sex. I used my fingers on her alot (don't mean to be so descriptive) weeks before we had sex, which may have streched her enough to where she didn't bleed during sex. So if you have had something inside of you before, it may have gradually streched you, which is why some women don't bleed thier first time.

For those who bleed analy, your anus is so close to your opening, it may have just made tiny cracks in your skin on the perineum (area behind vagina and in front of anus) when you had sex, making it dry like chapped lips. Try vaseline to keep the skin moist and it should heal.

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I am 24 years old and it has now been 5 days since I lost my virginity. I have to say that many of these posts have helped me in understanding all of the new things going on with my body. I also had some light bleeding/spotting for about the first 4 days after. It's also good to know that I might be late on my next period so I don't panic. However, even though there is a lot of new things going on with my body, I find myself thinking more of the emotional changes going on within me.

It has really been difficult dealing with the fact that I gave something so precious away to a guy who isn't committed to me through marriage. I didn't intend for things to happen that way but they did and I cannot take it back now. For those of you who have not experienced sex yet and are curious, don't be overly anxious. Believe me, it will be worth waiting for. As for me, I plan on saving the next time for my husband. It's just not worth the agony of wondering "what if I become pregnant, will he be there" or " does he really care for me" or "did he use me", etc. I really hope this has been helpful to some of you ladies! Crying or Very sad

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seti · Newbie Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 33

I lost my virginity two nights ago. I'm twenty-six and have known my boyfriend since I was thirteen. We talked about our first time together, which was my first time period, a lot, before we attempted intercourse. I pretty much knew it would be painful because going to the gynecologist was and because I've met no one who has said that their first time wasn't painful, which contradicts what many experts post about how many women do not have pain during their first intercourse. (We need those women, who did not have pain, to get on this board and post.) I've met women who can still recall and are angry about the pain they felt the first time, because they felt their husbands and boyfriends acted selfishly. One even told me that she managed to wiggle free of her boyfriend and run out of the room with blood trickling down her thighs. That why it's so important to choose to be with a guy who really loves and cares about you and who doesn't have sexist notions about sex.

Any way, my boyfriend told me before hand that he'd take care of the birth control; he would buy lube... I told him he'd have to be gentle because my hymen was still intact. He seemed to be struggling with that a bit. So I looked at him and said, So you're just planning to screw me to death. He looked startled and then told me that he had been with a few women, but really didn't consider himself to be all that experienced and was concerned about his control. He told me that he wouldn't be screwing me--not to think of it like that. He was just sort of scared too. I told him that I already knew it would hurt. (He couldn't even get two fingers in.) But he did try to stretch me beforehand, and I did orgasm during our sex play. Because I had just had an orgasm I was really relaxed when he started penetrating, but it still really hurt, really bad. I did reach down and push my labia away from his penis--one side at a time, and it went in. And I did bleed. As for how gentle he was, well, he got up on his palms once, but when he saw the look on my face and heard me scream, he climbed back down to his elbows, so that he couldn't move in and out so much. After it was over, we showered together. I had to put on a pad, and I eventually fell asleep in his arms. The next morning, he made me breakfast and promised me better sexual experiences in the future. I had sex with him because I've been with him for a while. I love him and really feel that he loves me too, and because I wanted to be CLOSER to him.

I'm sore. Walking and sitting are painful, but I have spent the last few days, on and off, just cuddling on the couch with my boyfriend. I'm glad I waited as long as I did and chose a good partner. Young girls often don't have the luxury of spending nights with their partners, cuddling, and often don't have enough knowledge of theirs or their partners' bodies to know what feels good or how to lessen any negative reactions their bodies may have. I knew enough, at least, to ask my boyfriend to go slow. I knew it would hurt less if I helped him get his penis in and I knew if he ignored my request to go slow we would never have intercourse again. He knew how not to get me pregnant, and that it wasn't a one night stand and that there would be other, better times, so he was patient.

P.S. Many guys have heard that it hurts women the first time and believe there is nothing they can do about it. Well, they can help you to become really aroused, take responsibility for the birth control, and go really slow. Also help him get his penis in. It'll hurt a lot less.

Don't loose your virginity just to get it over with or because you're being pressured.

seti · Newbie Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 33

If you bleed the second or even the third time you have sex, it is because your hymen was not completely broken the first time.

seti · Newbie Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 33

If you have anal sex, do not allow your boyfriend to put his unwashed (use antibacterial soap) penis into your vagina, unless he wore a condom during anal sex and uses a new one when having vaginal sex. Going from the anus to the vagina without washing or changing the condom first will cause a pretty good vaginal infection to develop.

seti · Newbie Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 33

Use he should wash his penis thoroughly, and wear a condom during intercourse.

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